I'm pregnant! Not disabled!

[KailynEmily]

So, I am currently 9w 2d pregnant. I recently lost twins at 13w in August. Now everyone (especially my aunt who is more like a mother) treats me like I'm an invalid! They won't let me do anything. My aunt swears by old wives tales about not sweeping/mopping or raising your hands above your head because it can cause the umbilical cord to knot... My boyfriends grandma won't let me carry 12 packs of cokes... It's just getting ridiculous. No one is happy unless I'm laying in bed with my feet propped up. And as nice as it sounds to some, I get very antsy and anxious being in one spot and not being able to go and do as I please! So what can I say to everyone to make them realize I am not disabled and God is in control of this child's fate, not my daily activities.?!

[KailynEmily]

I loss the twins due to the umbilical cords being intertwined and not attached to the placentas correctly.. I also have a three year old daughter and I just hate being limited with what I do... I spent the day with my aunt today and finally told her to let me do things for myself! And she backed off

[louieforlaughs]

its amazing how difficult it can be for others when you are pregnant. how concerned they get and controlling they can be.
my grandmother (94 and had 6 kids herself) was quite upset with me for lifting up my son also. This was after i had experienced two losses in a row. She was a nurse but isn't aware of the new information they have out there. I tried explaining that I can do exactly what i was doing before, and i lift my son all the time so I'm not about to stop that. Plus, I wont ignore my child and have him feel like i'm ignoring him.
If I were in your situation I would just say it to them straight. Tell them how you feel and how uncomfortable they are making you. Tell them you understand their concern and appreciate the care and attention they are giving you. But that there is nothing you or they can do to prevent a miscarriage. Its a difficult fact to deal with but for most losses that is the case. I would just be honest with them. They may be upset and might back off for a bit but its better if you are honest with them. Make sure to express to them that you love them and appreciate their help.
best of luck getting out of bed. : )

[hessy3]

why did you lose the twins did they find out why

[baby2_on_the_way]

Not sure what you could say, but my boyfriends grandma got so upset with me for lifting my 2yr old up in front of her and I am a healthy 19 year old woman and like you said above, I'M PREGNANT NOT DISABLED

[JewelzD]

I also lost twins and almost died myself only it turns out i wasnt strong as i thought i shut down and hid inside of myself i was never good at sharing at all and i am paying for it now my marriage is falling apart cause i got bitter and bi*chy he says and i shut him out i tried to protect him and he cant see that but no one can understand what you feel but you u have to be upfront with them i lost my twins sept. 21 2005 and still kills me i have had two other children since them good luck love i hape they give you your space

[JewelzD]

Just come right out get them all together and tell them look i know what happened and yous are all scared but its my body i know what i can and can not do please back off a bit and let me do me please. Maybe they will listen