Needing advise..

[xolexixo]

I've had the worse 2 yrs with my baby's father, we officially ended it tonight. He pretty much has cheated the whole time and got away with it every time because I kept going back. I let my feelings get the best of me. But now we're just not working. We fight every second of everyday.. Now we have a 3 week old daughter and he just left me. . He won't come see her because he says he can't be in the same room as me, due to not being together.... I'm doing this on my own and on top of that I know I deserve better. I just now have to figure out how to get over him some how, we been thru everything you can imagine together.... This is more of a rant but I just wanna know some ways to cope with being a single mom and moving on from someone you deeply love...... Advise please : ( just need some support..

[BabyNa]

I was also with my daughter father for 2 years. He was a drug addict. After my daughter was one I knew enough was enough. Things were not changing and we were constantly fighting. I kept going back and the cycle kept repeating. I started dating. A month later I met my bf now. Although it was fast, we have been together for a solid 6 years. I'm so glad I took that chance. Otherwise I would still be in that sick cycle. Good luck and wish the best for you!

[taianasmum]

I have the same situation as a few of the moms on here my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 yrs my daughter is 18 mo and I'm expecting my second. I know he has cheated on me several times a few I can prove but I always took him back too. Especially being prego with my first and after she was born I was deeply in love. But the more he proved him self distrustful and lazy and just not helping me with anything the more I resented him. It started getting  easier it was to kick him out I was fed up. He constantly begs for me to take him back after realizing what he had . But as much as I wanted to I have to refuse because my mental health and kids are way more important. I found that when we were together I was miserable and angry and sad you name it but when we were apart I missed him but I was happy. You just have to think what is best for you and eventually the pain with fade. Don't worry about being a single mom although it is hard at times it is the most rewarding feeling knowing you are who you child want and needs. Give your self time and focus on your baby and healing. Turn to your family for help and support. Most recently I started seeing a counselor to help move on since I have a lot of built up anger towards him. And it's helping consider it

[carloswife]

What the freak?? Lol daughter not docter guys lol what a typo

[carloswife]

I was with my daughters father for four years,thaught we'd get married.He was verbally and physically abusive,addicted to porno,hardly gave me the affection i needed and things got worse when i got pregnant with my docter.Our last year together he cheated and i snapped,i just couldnt take anymore,i was emotionally drained,depressed,and just tired.He turned into a mad man when i proved him wrong that i did have the guts 2 leave.At that time our daughter was two,he threw all our stuff outside,threw us out and i went from friends house to friends house with my girl cuz we had no place to stay.I ended up going to church and changing my life for my daughters sake,n met my middleschool sweetheart:) we are now married with a boy on the way:)!!! My daughter adores him as a stepfather,n he is in love with her.She still sees her dad,but we only allow supervised visits because he's proven himself to be untrustworthy and irresponsible.

[MommaBearJojocy]

I thought I couldnt get over my ex every time I tried to leave I felt like I was dying....until we broke up n I was use to spend in everyday wit him n instead of spending time with him I started hangout wit my friend we went that close but everyday we hung out n she keep my mind off him n no we r best friends at first it was horrible then after I started feeling better it was easier then I thought when ppl say it gets better it really does and when he beged me to go back with him I said hell no!(: You can do this espically with a baby(: give all ur love to Ur baby now Ur never alone and ull be loved endlessly (:

[KieaRai]

No one can tell you how to get over it, sweetness. It's something you'll have to learn for yourself.
If he wants nothing to do with your daughter though then you need to either have him sign over his parental rights or pay child support. Signing away his rights will make sure he can't cause trouble for you later and will also make it to where you don't need his permission for your husband (if you ever marry) to adopt your girl as his own. My friend has that problem with her ex. He hasn't seen his son in 13 yrs but refuses to sign saying her husband can adopt him out of spite.
My other advice is just to keep busy. Keeping busy keeps you from thinking too much about it and crying.