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[marisol_jose1]

Okay this is kind of a long story. I'm 32 weeks and some days due septemember 3rd . I've been going through h*** this whole pregnancy . I have a son and he will 10 months on the 19. What I wanted to ask was who will you have in the room during labor or who did you have in your room during labor. With my son I only wanted my husband ,MY mother and my sister. My son was my moms first grandbaby . I felt bad because my husband wanted his mom ( my mother inlaw ) in the room so I have in and said she could be in there but she was not allowed to Look down south. Well sure enough my wishes weren't granted because she looked. I hated it and was So uncomfortable. I didnt say anything !!! I did let my husband know I didn't like it and he got upset saying its because I don't like his mom and that it's always my mom. Well yeah my mom is my mom and I'm comfortable with her. This time around I only want my husband and my mom. I told him no offense but I didn't want his mother in there for the same reason as last time. I'm not trying to be mean but she wasn't even there for her daughters kids birth so why does she have to be there for mine. ?? So anyways like I said my husband was very upset . I know he won't tell her anything because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings. So another question is what should I do. I'm going To tell her that this time I just want my hubby and mom and also another thing is she wants to stay at our house after my baby is born and I don't want that either. If I need help I'll ask. I feel so overwhelmed And need a way to break it down without someone getting all butt hurt. Please ladies help!!!!!

Sorry it was such a long story

[Juniorsmija]

MY DOCTOR TOLD MY BOYFRIENDS MOM AND SISTER THAT THEY COULD NOT BE IN THERE WITH ME. I DIDN'T WANT MY MOM IN THERE EITHER BUT FELT BAD IT BEING HER FIRST GRANDCHILD... BUT MY DOCTOR TOLD ME SHE DIDN'T MIND "BEING THE BAD GUY" FOR ME  N I DIDN'T HAVE TO WORRY BOUT HAVING ANY HARD FEELINGS WITH MY IN-LAWS

[kennimae92]

I am having my husband and only my husband. I personally don't even feel comfortable with my own my mom in the room let alone my MIL. Luckily I told my husband that its him and only him in there no exceptions and he agreed. Now I guess my husbands mom, sister, her 2 kids, and bf are planning on staying with us after the baby (we live 10 hours away) for a few days. I talked to my husband and told him im going to be over whelmed and he better control his mom. Apparently she says she already knows im going to have PPD and if I do she is taking me and the baby home with her. I told my hubby to be prepared for me to flip and tell her to get the F out of my house. Good luck with your MIL girl

[marisol_jose1]

Thank you ladies I thought I was he ONLY ONE. I told my husband That he's not the one who has to push a baby out and he's still upset but now honestly I'm putting my foot down and no means no. If he gets mad well it's on him. Yeah she's ways trying to tell me how to do things like if I don't know how to take care of my family. I feel horrible for feeling this way but she also needs to understand that her son has a family and she can't baby him  I've tried to have a good relationship with her but she won't even budge . I'll talk To her and she's always being short with me. I got to the point where I just gave up on her because of all The stress. . Should I just confront her or leave it alone or what?!.

[1sttimmommy]

That's weird lol i wouldn't want my MIL to see me down there gross lol it would be so awkward for me afterwards to even be near her. you have every right to not want her there with you. and he should understand you not get all mad its for private parts and your the one that's going to go through all that pain. even tho its my MIL's first grand baby i wouldn't let her maybe she could stay at our place afterwards but not be in the. delivery room.. you don't need something else to worry about when you are in labor. good luck.

[naryashadow]

Just the hub and my mom. In laws can stay out, it isn't the hub that needs the comfort of their mother, all they have to do is hold your hand. His parents have no business in there.

[marisol_jose1]

Nina159- thank u. Yeah that's what I think . I get it's my MIL but I'm the one going into labor not my husband and he NEEDS to understand.

BabyInJuly- that's another thing I forgot to mention my son will stay the night with my mom and her husband. My dad will be in from out of town so he will stay at my house a few days. I feel bad because my husband only has his mom. He has a sister but hasn't seen her in years . I know it's my MIL but she baby's him soooo much like for instance one time she came in OUR room and started going through his pants and taking out what he had in his pockets. Who does that??? That's a wife's job not a mothers. She's not really apart of my sons life either in fact she wasnt even happy when we told her we were pregnant. I am not one to hold grudges but when it comes to my son I will. Is this normal?!

[TatiSevani_]

you the mother to be and you should make the decisions on who be in the room on your special day you shouldnt be stress or mad on that special day.  

[BiancaQ88]

My mother in law refused to be in the room with me and i was absolutely fine with that but she did come stay with us when the baby was born and she basically wouldn't let me even touch my daughter when she was there. Idk what im going to do this time around.

[babyinJuly]

I understand where you're coming from, my MIL wants to be in the room as well but it's not happening! Only me and my man! I don't need her in there she's the complaining type so during those contractions I don't need to be irritated then what I'll already be. She wants to be here too when I get home, but my man said he'll take her home when we arrive I need her to watch my 4 kids while I'm in the hospital, that's it! I always go in labor in the mid of the night and I won't leave my kids here alone. Try to get your hubby to understand it just works better that way! If my mom were here she'd be there too! Gud luck!

[Nina159]

It all matters on you being comferboul and how you fill wen you diliver so tell him you just dont fill right haveing her there