Pregnancy makes me a bad mom :(

[jessmoss626]

So anyone else so exhausted/uncomfortable that they feel like a crappy mom to the kids they have? My poor daughter, she's almost 3 and I am no fun. I've had a really rough pregnancy this time (36 weeks tomorrow) and I feel like she's losing out because of it. All she wants me to do is play and all I want to do is be lazy. I've had tons of pressure and a hard time walking since the 2nd trimester and lately I've had some BIG TIME itching problems (I posted a ? a few days ago because I just got tested for cholestasis). It's difficult to walk around the house, let alone play or go out and do things together. I want to make this time special for her, (I've been a SAHM her whole life) while she's still an only child, but I don't have the energy to do anything but put in a movie and sit around. Blah, can't wait to feel human again. I know she'll be fine and lots of kids probably deal with this, I just hate feeling like this!

[Raerae336]

Lol thats exactly how i feel! Hes on ten hr days plus saturdays and still does bathtime playtime bedtime n supper most days! I tried making myself useful and doing some house hold stuff had the girls make him each a thank you picture and i put a roast in lol and im exhausted. I saved everything as far as baby goes til last min bc im having two baby showers this month and baby is due next month but now bc of some complications im laid up and might be induced in two wks-- sooo needless to say, dh might get stuck doing a lot of the " nesting " uggghhhh now i feel like a crappy mom and wife!! Loll

[jessmoss626]

Oh my gosh, I practically wait at the window for my husband to get home every day! He has been really helpful taking our daughter to run errands and playing with her while I'm sitting around crying about restless legs or itching! I feel bad for him too sometimes, he walks in and I'm like "hey, you worked your butt off all day, hurry up and take a shower so you can play barbies for an hour, then can you make dinner because I'm tired." Poor guy. I am so lucky.

[Raerae336]

I hear ya! Right now im pretty much laid up til baby comes and i have a 2 & 3 yr old. They play good together and DH has been a great help.... But i still feel bad!

[jessmoss626]

Glad to know I'm not the only one...well not glad, lol, but you know! We do play dates, those are really helpful. I don't think there is much of a point in the daycare at this point, but it is a really good idea. One of my husband's sisters does this, and she loves it. I'm also very lucky that she is really good at playing alone. She quit taking naps a while ago so we have "quiet time", she has to play in her room for a while and she's great at it. I just hate the feeling bad, I apoligize to her all the time for being tired and grumpy. She tells me it's ok. I know the poor kid is tired of me! Just can't wait until I can play again!

[angela418]

I feel bad about the same thing, too.  I have an 11 month old son and I am almost 10 weeks pregnant.  I feel like I can't play with him as much because I am nauseated all the time and can't move around a lot without feeling sick.  Luckily, right now, we are living with my in-laws as we are about to buy a new house, so my MIL takes care of him a lot.  He also entertains himself quite well..thank goodness..but I still feel really guilty.

[Ashelen]

Sorry I have to run so this will have to be brief but I know exactly what you mean...my daughter was 21 months when my son was born, and I felt like I was sooo boring for her....but she also learned how to entertain herself which was vital when the new baby got here.

just try to give yourself a break and don't feel guilty....I think that what you're feeling/thinking/doing is normal, and the baby will be here soon. trust me you'll be up and back to normal in no time. My daughter was so used to me being pregnant (I conceived when she was 13 months) so I think that when I had the baby and was able to start rolling around on the floor with her and playing with her, it made up for all the time I was too sick or too sore or too tired or just plain too pregnant to get down and play.

it's almost over and you're doing the best you can..give yourself a break and get some things that you can do together that don't involve too much moving....both of you sit on chairs in the kitchen and bake something, or you could draw together, or sing songs, etc....you'll be back to fun mommy after the baby gets here...have no fear :)

[vacuumprincess]

i know how you feel.  I have a 5 yr old.  i'm only about 10 weeks.... but I don't have any energy & I'm puking all the time.  Zero fun for a 5 yr old.  My saving grace is that she is in school right now during the day.

Could you temporarly enroll your 3 yr old in daycare?  My daughter loved daycare!  I know it is expensive, but maybe for at least 1/2 days you could get some rest  (now & after the new baby is born)

play dates help too.  Even if the other child comes to your home, it keeps your child occupied.  Yes, they will make a mess... but your kid will have fun & you may be able to watch them play while laying on the couch with a book or something.

I keep apologizing to my daughter for not being any fun.  She tells me it's ok & I am still fun.  I just try not to tell her it's because of the baby too much, cause I don't want her resenting the new kid.