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Really Young Moms
I realize there are a lot of moms on this website that were younger than 18 when they started having children. And (thank God or who ever you praise!) most of you seem to have you stuff together..
But I dont think you all should jump on a person for saying that shes thankful that she waited until she was older to have children. There are a lot of girls who are not MENTALLY ready to be a parent. I think this particular user was trying to point out that its nice to live your life and have some learning bumps on your own, without bringing your child along. I mean some things just aren't good to experience with a child.
My god if I had a baby at 15, while I know I would do everything possible to provide the best for my baby, I am thankful that I was able to make my stupid mistakes on my own without it having to effect my baby. But in all honesty, do you all think just because you have money and a good husband that every decision you made at 14, 15 ot 16 was the best..??? You were lucky to have that a good man and job! Some women at 30 don't have that!! But that doesn't mean every life lesson and experience could be best experienced with a baby.. ...Im 22 and when I tell people I'm pregnant, they ask me if I'm happy first before congratulating me like its a bad thing. I just brush it off. Its like dude at one time 13 was an acceptable age to have children. The general public's view on this will change with each generation.. so ladies don't get so upset! I mean what does it really matter what someone on some pregnancy site across the country thinks..??
I guess I just want everyone to thankful that they are in a good place but understand most young mothers don't have a good man, good job or support. You truly are a blessing to your child, despite your age you defied the odds, and the oppression and poverty stricken lives that a mother at any age can face!
But I dont think you all should jump on a person for saying that shes thankful that she waited until she was older to have children. There are a lot of girls who are not MENTALLY ready to be a parent. I think this particular user was trying to point out that its nice to live your life and have some learning bumps on your own, without bringing your child along. I mean some things just aren't good to experience with a child.
My god if I had a baby at 15, while I know I would do everything possible to provide the best for my baby, I am thankful that I was able to make my stupid mistakes on my own without it having to effect my baby. But in all honesty, do you all think just because you have money and a good husband that every decision you made at 14, 15 ot 16 was the best..??? You were lucky to have that a good man and job! Some women at 30 don't have that!! But that doesn't mean every life lesson and experience could be best experienced with a baby.. ...Im 22 and when I tell people I'm pregnant, they ask me if I'm happy first before congratulating me like its a bad thing. I just brush it off. Its like dude at one time 13 was an acceptable age to have children. The general public's view on this will change with each generation.. so ladies don't get so upset! I mean what does it really matter what someone on some pregnancy site across the country thinks..??
I guess I just want everyone to thankful that they are in a good place but understand most young mothers don't have a good man, good job or support. You truly are a blessing to your child, despite your age you defied the odds, and the oppression and poverty stricken lives that a mother at any age can face!
I agree, I was 15 when I had my first, i wouldnt change it for the world. Hes my everything, and now im 21 pregnant with baby number 2, and its a little girl. People look at me weird when i go to the park with my 5 year old and my belly. Others just ask me if I'm happy or if i feel stupid that i have a little boy and now pregnant with a second one. My mom even told me to get an abortion with both of them, I just look at them and tell them its my life and I am happy with it because i will be able to spend a lot of time with my children, and keep my head up high.
I don't think its about being a bad person.. when you are young you make bad choices. We ALL do it or have done it.. I think its just harder for younger mothers because they have to grow up so fast when they become pregnant and if they aren't mentally capable of doing that or have the support system to help facilitate that growth, it can be hard for the mother to provide a good life for their child. So many young mothers experience this and I'm thankful for those who didn't have to experience including myself.
I agree I am 21 years old 28weeks pregnant with my 4th child.I haf my oldest when I was 15, my second when I was 16 and my youngest when I was 18 and I thank god I had my babies.they are my world..all of my babies have the same father I married my babydaddy and wouldn't change anything..and to me who ever wanta to judge is their problem..just become ppl r teenage parents doesn't meant they bad people
100% agree!!!!!! I had my child young in high school and so much I missed out on but I dnt regret my child I grew up alot with him...it was easier since I didn't party or smoke so I'm thankful for that
I agree with you, I had first daughter at 17 (married and living away from home). She'll be turning 10 next month and I'm nothing but grateful for having her in our lives, because of her my hubby and I have learned to value what we have- things others don't until much later in their lives. There are A few moments I have felt guilty for maybe not being fully knowledgable but not to A point where her well being is in question. Age isn't too relevant when you have your children it's more of the choice to put their lives before yours. :)
I'm 18 and I'm pregnant with my second child!
I live in my own house with my husband that is the father of both of my children!
I've been on my own since I was 16 and me and my husband worked hard for everything we have!!
Well he works! I clean and take care of our house and kids!
Age is just a number it's all about a persons mentality!
I went through my partying stage when I was 14-15
Met my husband when he was 17 and I was 14! We grew up together! Went through the drug phase, cheating phase, party phase and through everything we made it out okay!
He has an amazing job that we are so thankful for and we have a nice brick house that we love!!
An awesome 20 month old son that changed both of our lives from the moment we knew about him!!
And are welcoming our second son in august who we are so excited to meet!!
A young parent has a 50/50 chance to be good or bad! It depends on which way you choose to go! I went the good way and I've never been happier and everyone that meets me and sees how I am with my son says they are so proud of me and tell me what a wonderful mother I am!!
I did what I thought was best! I stepped up, matured and did what I had to do so my sons could have a good life!
I live in my own house with my husband that is the father of both of my children!
I've been on my own since I was 16 and me and my husband worked hard for everything we have!!
Well he works! I clean and take care of our house and kids!
Age is just a number it's all about a persons mentality!
I went through my partying stage when I was 14-15
Met my husband when he was 17 and I was 14! We grew up together! Went through the drug phase, cheating phase, party phase and through everything we made it out okay!
He has an amazing job that we are so thankful for and we have a nice brick house that we love!!
An awesome 20 month old son that changed both of our lives from the moment we knew about him!!
And are welcoming our second son in august who we are so excited to meet!!
A young parent has a 50/50 chance to be good or bad! It depends on which way you choose to go! I went the good way and I've never been happier and everyone that meets me and sees how I am with my son says they are so proud of me and tell me what a wonderful mother I am!!
I did what I thought was best! I stepped up, matured and did what I had to do so my sons could have a good life!
iem pregnant now ftm and im 17 and for my nothing was or is easy right now im happy i have my boyfriend whose been with me for 3 years and never left my side his the only person thats been their and if i where to loose him i dont knoe where i would be becus i have no job i go to school but im gunna give my baby everything i never had in my life and he really did change who i was as a person im thankful my unborn baby came to my life i would not change my baby for anything in thebword or i never will regret iem pregnant of my little angel now im 31 weeks im so exited but nervous iknoe its gunna be a huge change in my life!
I had my first baby at 18 and his dad was 24. I was lucky he had a good job to were I could just stay home with my baby. Im 20 now and having a baby with my husband. I had to quit working cause I get sick alot and thank god he has a job that lets me stay home with my son. I thank god that I havent had to struggle like others. I wish I would have waited and listened to others. Either way I respect all moms for being there for thier children
I agree. I had my daugther at 18. I wouldnt change that for the world. She is now 3.
I cant agree more. I had my son at 17 and I wouldnt change a thing. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me!
I am 24 and feel young for a pregnant lady. I am finishing my masters degree so the people I am usually around are not anywhere near ready to have children and we are similar in age. My professors tell me I should finish a PhD before I have a family. Everyone is at a different point in their life when they decide they are ready. I couldn't image trying to do what I have some with a child. It would have been so much harder.
I 100% agree with you. I had my first child VERY young. & although she has always had everything she needs, she didn't necessarily have a normal first 4 years of her life. Now, she is five. Has a loving step father (obviously my boyfriend of a long time) & I have been able to give her the life EVERY child deserves. But because I was sooo young & had to figure out my life --living situation, school, work, etc-- she had to too. I dont think teens at that age know what it takes to be a mother, a student, a worker, a friend, a cook & everything else it takes to be a mom...
Take it from me, a person who was once in their shoes. Oh, & hallf the time the father doesn't stay in the picture.
Over all I am COMPLETELY thankful I had my daughter (duh) but it is almost always, if not always, best for the mother to have gone through their teenage hardships before they bring a child to this world :)
P.S No I am not saying young moms are bad moms cause they are NOT. Just saying its harder :)
Take it from me, a person who was once in their shoes. Oh, & hallf the time the father doesn't stay in the picture.
Over all I am COMPLETELY thankful I had my daughter (duh) but it is almost always, if not always, best for the mother to have gone through their teenage hardships before they bring a child to this world :)
P.S No I am not saying young moms are bad moms cause they are NOT. Just saying its harder :)
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