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Should I leave him?
as bad as this sounds, my husband just doesnt seem to care that I feel like I am carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders. Today he woke up and left and was gone doing whatever it is that he does. Then I went and bought him an outfit trying to be a sweet wife and he told me that he didnt want anything. Then I had to go to the laundry mat all by myself with my 3 year old daughter and 3 trash bags of clothes on the bus. He didnt even bother to try to come or volunteer to watch my daughter. I just dont know what to do, I am praying that I get this job tomorrow so that I can be fully independent. I dont even want to bed with him anymore because I am so turned off by his actions. He spends all his time at the neighbors house, and doesnt want to be around my daughter or me and then complains that all I do is play on the computer all day. But there is nothing left to do after I clean and tend to my daughter, since he is gone all the time. I just dont know what to do.
if i've read your last comment right, i am so sorry he has left you and the girls. He really does not deserve you and by the sounds of things he has a lot of growing up to do and quickly. honestly, i would be glad to see the back of him, there are plenty of fish in the sea and you will find your mister right out there who is more than willing to make you and your girls happy. Hopefully you will get the job at Wal-mart which will be the start of a fresh start :)
It sound like u havent been happy in a veary long time i think u should Leave him your girls don't need to see Any kind of abuse I bet you'll get the job and be happy with u and your girl and she wil be going to school soon so u won't need a baby sitter I hope u finde happiness in what ever u chose good luck
some men just dont care. you dont have any family you could stay with if he doesnt come back?
thats how I feel and as of right now, he is packing up the air mattress that he bpught when we moved in because i still refuse to give him any money. I havent said a word to him and im just letting him do whatever, my only fear is the rent is due on the 1st and I aint going to have it, im just praying that my landlord will understand what I have went through these past 3 weeks, I pay the bills here and he is supposed to pay the rent, but now that he is mad he chooses to leave and doesnt care that I spent almost 2000 on this place and now wants to leave, but I aint trippin off of that, the point is, why would a man leave his child and not care if she has a place to lay her head?
i totally understand what you mean about his smoking habit. i used to date a guy like that..and when he didnt smoke he was an *** to me! but what id do if i was you is just sit down and talk with him and tell him your independent and you can do things on your own and if he wants to treat you like garbage then you will have no problem leaving him. try telling him the way he is acting is not fair to you at all and are completely fed up with it. and if he still doesnt care then it will be hard but youll have to leave him. because emotionally that just isnt right for you and you shouldnt just stay with someone who is completely rude to you and doesnt seem to care about anyone or anything but himself. stick up for yourself girl! and if it comes down to it you can do it on your own!
Congrats on the interview...its a start! But as far as him finding work thats bull my sisters BF uses that as an excuse. There are plenty of places that will hire him. like temp places or construction. Where my husband works thats all they hire basically are guys with dirty backgrounds. Even though my hubby hasnt been in any trouble since he was like 15 or 16 hes 25 now but thats not the point. That seems like an excuse. Dont give him money and dont supply his habit tell him to go and get a job to eat if thats the case! YOUR NOT A BAD WOMAN! he needs to change not you
Well, I received a call today that I finally have a job interview at Wal-Mart on Tuesday!!!!! But as I was so excited I tried to tell him and he just pushed me off and said well theres a way for you to bust nuts all day at work. I just dont get it, we are in a financial burden and he doesnt seem to care. All he cares about is smoking.....if you get my drift. When he doesnt have none, then I am verbally abused and he is an a**hole all day until he gets some. I just dont understand why you would take that out on me. I told him to go get a job but he insists that his background prevents him from doing so. Sometimes I wonder if I should just kick him out and strive to make it on my own. We just moved into our own place after struggling to be together and that didnt even make him happy. I refuse to give him money to supply his habit....it aint my thing and never will be. I wont give him money for it and thats what pisses him off even more....Im just tired of feeling like a bad woman when all I do is clean and keep our daughter together....im tired of this.
Just ask him what's going on. let him know how you feeling about all these. Try not to get upset or angry when you present this to him. Hope he can understand :). Good Luck!!!.
may i wanted to u to ask for help. i thnk there was an ego.. did u ask? and he said no
no dont dump him. try ti put yourself in his place. like you would him then waht would have been u feel. try to talk to him. try to make it work. as u said he works. it happense. i know its not ur fault u r not working but still fact is that he works. he is provider rite? so try to understand him. may be i m wrong, i dont know the actual story. but that was my thoughts.
First I wouldnt dump him that is giving up on your family. Personally that is a last resort after you have tried talking and doing anything you can to make it work. i agree with the last two comments. Try getting to the bottom of whats bothering him. does he work? sometimes not be able to provide financially can take a toll on a man beacuse he may feel like hes not doing what hes expected to. But dont dump him....yet you have a child together do everything you can to make it better and then if nothing changes you make that final choice knowing in your heart you did everything you could. good luck. keep us posted about the job!
i agree with nithya83, i would find out if maybe he is just as stressed or depressed as you. A marriage works by communicating and when you lose that, cracks begin to show. If after a talk or he refuses then i would think of kicking him out the door as there is nothing worse than being with someone who show's you no affection and doesn't get off their backside to try and save what sounds like a good marriage. Best of luck to you both :)
May be there is a reason why he is acting weird like this? Try finding out why he is avoiding you and your daughter? May be dumping is just not the reason for leaving a beautiful marriage life? Try to understand him and may be try finding out if you are doing anything wrong? Talk to him.
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