TTC to conceive-this is my fertile week

Question

First and foremost, thanks for hearing me out.  This forum is awesome and so supportive.  I just wanted to see if anyone else in in my boat.  I have post a similar post before.  I was on birth control for over 15 years, and I took it to regulate my menstrual cycle, not per se b/c I was sexually active.  Anyway, I stopped in Oct, and on our second try, my husband I were pregnant.  We only knew about the pregnancy for a few days, and then lost it on New year's Eve.  My LMP was 2/3 and this is my first fertile week since the miscarriage.  I am so anxious, scared and completly obsessed with TTC.  I have baby fever.  I can't wait for all of it, the dirty diapers, late nights and all.  The BD (like that acronym) schedule is demanding, and totally stressful to my amazing husband. I feel like I am putting pressure on him to perform, after he works crazy hours and is exhausted.  Please pray for me, and I will pray for all of you that this is our month.  Another miscarriage would be devastating.  My SIL had 3; I just couldn't handle it.  Again just venting.  

I have also had trouble charting the BBT.  I though I had the drop before ovulation, but I may have been wrong.  

Has anyone just relied on CM and cervical position to help getting pregnant.  Has anyone missed their LH surge thoght an OPK, but have still gotten pregnant.    Sorry for all the questions.  I just totally trust many vistors to this and deeply respect their opinions.

richeygirl · Answer

I agree completely with the ladies just relax & it will happen. I had an miscarriage about a couple of wks ago so I understand when you said you don't think you can handle it, if it happens again but you can't focus on that. Don't worry about any of it, don't put pressure on your husband, & I will be ok. Enjoy making love don't make it seem like a choir. At least you know you can get preg. It will happen! Good Luck ttc!  

My husband and I are going to try again soon also.

Blaugrana · Answer

Hi hon...I know you're not going to want to hear this, but relaxing and enjoying BD-ing with your husband will do the trick.  It did for me, after two years of ttc, doing the OPKs, and BD-ing 3 to five times during my fertile period.  The one month we had a good time and BD'd on the two days of my LH surge, we got pregnant!  Prior to that, had someone told me relaxing wouldn't work, I'd have thought they were nuts.  Anyway, I'd suggest doing the OPKs and BD-ing the day of your LH surge and the day after.  But fear not!  It will happen!  I'm pulling for you!

mh2968 · Answer

You are totally right. The issue is that we know that we have this crucial week, and we both work really hard. We both want it so bad. It is certainly not one sided. My husband will be the best father ever. He wants its too. My ovulation was a little off last month. I guess I was a little delusionsal, and I thought I would get preggo right after the miscarriage. You seem to really know you stuff. Thanks so much for the support you have given me as well as all the other members on this forum. Thanks.

JoyRenee · Answer

I relied on CM after my miscarriage and got pregnant with one morning of BDing! I have no idea how to do BBT charting. My daughter was born last March and is having her first birthday in about 5 weeks!!!

Try not to put pressure on your hubby. Make it fun and sensual, not a chore. Dress up nice, put on some sexy makeup, light candles, massage him (this will help him anyway, after a long day, but also drives men crazy), laugh, giggle, tell jokes, be FUN. I'm sure you guys will be just fine and PLEASE remember, not everyone gets preggo on the first shot (it was just completely God and I give Him the recognition, not my timing). It can take up to 6 months. So do not put pressure on yourself.