Telling my dad and his wife that I'm pregnant

[isntsure]

So I've told my mom that I'm pregnant (not that I'm closer to her but she takes things much more easily). Shes known since pretty much the beginning (around I think 7 weeks). Although I've yet to tell my dad and his wife. I don't live with my dad or my mom. Me and my boyfriend live together with his grandma and her grandkids. My question is how do I tell him that I'm pregnant? My boyfriend and I are going to go together to tell them and I was wondering how we should go about telling them. Because I have no clue. We're going over there in two days to talk to them (they know we're coming over). I have a paper I need them to sign to emancipate myself from them so I can be my own guardian at school. But I'm using the time that I'm going over there as an opportunity to tell them. So do you have any ideas for how we can tell them that I'm pregnant? Thanks guys :) OH and btw we do have plans in place on how we're going to take care of the baby etc etc in case that gets brought up. I just need ideas on how me and my boyfriend can break the news.

[isntsure]

Thanks :) that makes me feel better about telling them :)

[KTowne]

Well I was this way with my mother, I knew my dad would be ecstatic, I was 18 at the time, married, but still young, and my mom was disappointed at first, and she came around within a couple of days, they never called me names, she was disappointed, of course, but she got over it quickly. If they're really supportive, and really as close as you think you are, everything will be fine, you're his child, he might surprise you and be so excited!! Good luck hun!

[mommyof2ttc3]

I told my dad 2 days ager I found out I was only 17 at the time he was always really protective when I told him he called me any name he could think of and we didn't talk until I was 5 months along when I had my ultrasound then he started to handel it better then at 19 when I told him I was prego again he was super calm but my boys have different dads and that is what made the difference I am now 21 and ttc #3 and he is all for it he is always showing off his grand boys he loves them so much what I'm trying to say is even if he doesn't react the way you want him to just give it time and things will get better :)

[isntsure]

How did you manage to defuse that situation? That's what I was thinking. That maybe if I bring the picture it would bring out the soft grandpa side in him and make him happy you know? Who can be mad looking at a picture of their very first grandchildren right? Or at least that's what I'm hoping :)

[laylo_seeds]

Omg was it awkward..all I could do was hang my head and watch my dads face get all red and veiny.. ultrasound picture is a good idea.  its more real that way :-)

[isntsure]

That's exactly how I was. I was his only child til he met his current wife when I was 12 and we were really close. So I don't want to disappoint him. But hopefully he'll deal with it well and his wife. His wife used to be mean to me kind of but we're a lot better now and I hope she stays nice after we tell them.

[isntsure]

Lol wow that's pretty funny that your boyfriend said that. I bet that was awkward huh? I hope my dad comes around too after hearing the news. I'm thinking of bringing my ultrasound pictures with us when we tell him so we can show him and maybe that will make him happier? Seeing his future grandchild. Idk though. Thanks for sharing it made me feel a bit better and made me laugh :)

[Raevicious]

I did NOT want to tell my dad and his wife when I found out. I was raised by my dad and was always daddies little girl, his only daughter. But as tough as it was, I just came out and said it. His wife had some hurtful things to say to me and about me (until I finally snapped on her) and forgave her because she's never had children, so she doesn't quite get it. You'll be ok :)

[laylo_seeds]

My dad was pretty mad at me lol and i'm 21 and have my own apartment and my boyfriend has a great job. He didn't talk to me for a week and now he won't stop talking about his grand child. Lol you'll be fine :-)  just make sure your mature in front of him. And don't let you're boyfriend say something stupid like mine did..at my disappointed father, he explained when and how we conceived..and used the word busted...i love him though :-)

[isntsure]

Thanks for the advice :) I just wish it would be as easy as it sounds. :p I'm really nervous to tell him cause I don't want him to be disappointed in me or something like that.

[buggie216]

Just come out and say it...if you have a serious plan in place you have nothing to be afraid of. Make sure your confident when you tell him so he knows your serious about your plans and that you can do this!! :)