Ladies, we are closing this thread. It is off-topic, and getting too heated and judgmental.
Let's remember to be mindful of the hard times many are facing, and there is no shame in asking for help if you need it. We also don't know if some women just lost a well-paying job and now needs help, but her car may be leased and if she turns it in, she loses a lot of money, etc. It's easy to look down on others to make ourselves feel better, but we never know the full story.
We have many, many members who don't post and just read, and some of those women are facing hard times, need support, and might not feel they can get it here if other members are insulting those who they deem to be "abusing the system." We also have members who are pregnant and addicted, and come here looking for help for both, and we want them to be able to get the help without shame or guilt. Let's remember that.
Thanks,
Emily
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WOW that is crazy see it really does make people who need this stuff and work really hard everyday and love their kids more than anything look crazy!
about my sister- if her benifits were cut, yes it would punish her children which I dont think if fair, but was it fair to them to be born to people like my sister and her boyfrien? NO.. they are poor excuses for civilians..
And another story id like to share is DBs mother... She and DB were hit by a train about 5 or 6 years ago. she had some back problems from it, and quit her job and stated that she couldnt work. well as the years went by she babied and babied it, now she has so many issues that she cant even stand up long enought to take a shower or do dishes. there house is disgusting.. they pay her rent and give her food stamps... but yet she can affored, phones, interntet, the best cable, charter offers. if she can afford that they she dont need help. those things are not a need. she could have got a sit down job. or a job working from home. they dont clean at all. and not to mention her 21 year old daughter and 17 year old son live with her, and she gets money for them living there too. the 17 year old, okay, but her 21 year old.. really, does she deserve money for her, she is over 18 and should have her own job and place.. she buys 5 packs of cigatettes every week, to support hers and her two kids habbits.. and there food stamps used to go to 2 litters and chips for the kids, she used to never buy gorceries cause she dont really eat. hello 5 packs of ciggerettes a week, is 20 packs a month if not more, that is 140 dollars or more a month, hello..... thats groceries or an electric bill a month. I smoke and so does bd, but one pack last me a week and we can afford them and some.. you know... plus get this. she was having a real hard time with her 17 year old son, and i kept telling her to send him to his dads, and all she would say is, well then i wont get that money for him living here. and then my DB is 22 years old, and his dad owes back child support which when db was 16 he went to live with his dad and she promised his dad she would sign off on that money if he would take him. and he did, he had him for 4 years, given he made him go to school and work. but thats what a good parent does. well last yearish, Dbs dad called and said he recieved papers that they were never signed off on, and he still owed that money, so he called her to sign them AGAIN and she said well i dont really want to. its my right. and she said "Joey (dbs lil brother) is turning 18 soon and not going to school so im losing his child support too, so i wont have any money" I was like are u serious.. DBs dad took him in, got him to go to school, got him to get a job, took him to florida to live, made a better man out of him... I dont think he owes that money. well she saids i rasied him for the first 14 years.. well yea u did, but not with ur own money, will your drug money and your husbands money. so he called her again and said what do i gotta do to make u sign them. which he just sent DB 150 dollars to change his last name to his dads,a nd his mom was so mad that he was doing that and felt betrayed, so she said, id like some money and lunch.. seriously!!!!!! so DBs dad called him and said give your mom that money and take her to lunch. Db said whatever, and did it, which turned out buying her and his siblings dinner at an expenisive place..
it just drives me nuts, how lazy people are and how they use everyone else to make a living for themselves.
This is very true you need to have a plan and if both of you can work you should! Or at least be looking for work
awesome! girlie! I am not that smart to learn that but I'm really good with kids and teaching so I went into that field might as well do something you love right! Anyhoo hubby goes to school for Architecture he loves that stuff but has more to go than me so I will be finished before him but the money I make will well support us until then! I am thrilled about it all!
That sounds womderful! Both df and I want to be pathologists but its gonna take a lot of school and we are going to have to work hard for just one to go to school. I will pry go back for the degree first while he works the higher paying job. Tho we both want to get our CNA so there is no $ issues while we are back at school.