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[happy_glow]

Contemplating adoption.. This baby could have a better life without me, and especially without its father.. I have nothing to offer this baby..
Anyone also thinking about adoption?

[tavey]

Yes you have to live with the decision so just think hard about it because once you sign those papers its no going back I think being able to give your child up is selfless and you would bring someone else joy but just no that you van do it if you decide to keep baby there's help out here wishing you the best of luck with your decision

[happy_glow]

Thank you all! I have 4 months to go. And I do have to do what I feel is best for this little miracle. Even if it means being without me.. Thank you again!

[GoBrandiRanger]

In my opinion, the definition of a good mother is a woman willing to do the best for her child, no matter how much it hurts.

If you can't take care of the baby, I feel it's for the best. My SIL has been trying for 8 years to get pregnant, adopt or even just do Foster care. Everything seems to fall apart at the last minute for her and her husband. It's so heartbreaking because I personally feel she would be a better mother than ever myself.

That why my husband and I decided to get pregnant after we have our daughter and sign the baby over to her. It'll be in the family and spoiled to the core. I honestly feel it'd be selfish, as her sister, to deny her the wonderful journey of motherhood when we have beautiful, healthy babies because we I was going to get my tubes tied after this one.

I'll say this, though. It takes a LOT to be able to do, so be 100% certain before you do.

[maybaby19]

I feel like if you honestly don't think that you can give your baby the life it deserves then you are such a strong person to even consider adoption! That's great hun and I hope you find what you are looking for and the strength to do what is best for your baby, whatever that may be :) good luck!

[rosey3216]

I agree, it has to be a decision that you know you can live with. But you have to do what is best for you and baby. I have been considering termination as I am in a ****** situation as well. And I personally can't do adoption. It is probably the hardest decision I have ever had to make in my entire life. And I still haven't decided. But adoption can be a really wonderful thing.. you could maybe consider an open adoption, that way you can still see baby but know that he/she has everything that it needs. It's a tough decision, but do what you think is best. Best of luck to you hun..

[LuciaLeko]

its a tough decision,my first baby was adopted,i had her at 15 and for the first 3 months i tried and was unable too,lack of support system and overall was unable to care for her money wise,that was almost 10 years ago,basicly do you have a good family support system? are you able to money wise if you dont? the emotional aspect of it is very hard also,if the fathers ability is in question can you not be involved with him and raise on your own? there are so many things to think about and its not easy.

[Leobaby2013]

I think adoption is a selfless thing to consider. I'm not sure what your situation is. But you have to do wht you feel is right for you baby and what you know you can live with the rest of your life. Personally my babies dad wanted me to get an abortion. And wen I thought about it, I just knew in myself that I couldn't live with that decision for the rest of my life. So don't let anyone decide for you. Only you know what's best for your baby and yourself.