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bad break up news
So me & my bf broke up today, this is so typical...but I'm tired of going back & forth... We was good earlier but I got upset cause I mentioned one of my friends and he said "mmmm" as if he imagined her naked or something, it really got to me & all he said was he was playing & I'm insecure... I would rather be a single mother before I allow my dude to list over other women, & this isn't the first time he's done it...we would be walking somewhere or out and he will look directly at another woman... It's so annoying now and instead of coming to me as an adult he runs to facebook & creates a status about me that was rude... I'm just over it... I love him but damn if I'm feeling insecure its cause of his actions
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Sundae* sorry damn autocorrect. And to what was said above about being young I don't think being older makes it any better. I am married to a wonderful man and there's no way in hell I would look at one of his friends that way or look at someone else in front of him. That's just disrespectful and inmature. I know I don't know you and like she said you might be young but sounds to me like you know what you want and are mature.
I can understand if it were a stranger I probably wouldn't of been so upset, but someone I call my good good friend that is around a lot? I don't see how that's cool. I never made side remarks about his friends, so I expected the same respect out of him. It's not like I haven't brought this to his attention. I have sat down and told him my likes and dislikes in a relationship and he completely ignores them and does what he thinks is okay then turns around and calls me insecure
Definitely agree with Sunday. It's extremely disrespectful of him or anyone to look at other people in front of you and specially look at friends that way.
I'm 23 but I understand guys and females have an attraction for other ppl but its a way you go about it. To me anyway, I'm not going to allow boyfriend or husband take comments on my friends that I see a lot, we have trust issues cause he has cheated in the past. This is actually hid first time out of our 2 in a half year relationship I haven't seen or known of another woman... Plus I don't appreciate my guy walking with me or driving and when he sees another woman he basically stares, bites lip or makes a noise like damn she can get it...that doesn't fly with me, nor should it with any other woman. ( in my opinion)
Man are so damn inmature!!!! Nothing makes it okay for him to do that. And yeah hormones makes us Ben more vulnerable. Tell him he news to grow the hell up, you need a man not a kid and you won't settle for less...
Being attracted to other people is not something to break up over. Have you never looked at another guy while in a relationship? The point is that he's not acting on these things. I know one thing that helps my husband I is talking about our fantisies or attractions. The hubs has a weird thing for redheads so once in a while I'll buy a box of washout hair dye to surprise him. The point is give him some slack he's normal, it doesn't mean he's cheating or will cheat. Also do it back to him, comment on a random guy with a nice butt that walks by etc. and if he gets mad/ jealous then calmly bring up the fact that he thought your insecurities were unwarranted. He might get a hint then and be more respectful of your feelings. Also you sound like you're relatively young (I'm just guessing, thats not meant disrespectful) but it does get better with age and you grow more confident as you realize you're stuck with the body type, hair color etc God gave you so you work it to the best of your ability and laugh of the rest. Good luck.
I know how you feel. I broke up with my boyfriend last week because the way he was treating me was disgraceful. Apparently it was all my fault though because I'm pregnant and I'm a "drama queen". But mine wasn't just other girls...he ended up treating me like he hated me, and treated other girls ("friends") better than he treated me...he wouldn't even go in public with me because he was embarrassed that I'm pregnant and "fat". I decided I'd rather be a single mother than put up with that crap. So I understand how you feel - even though you love them, you don't deserve to put up with that stuff.
If my finace made that remark about one of my friends it would be World War 3. I'm sorry =(
Don't be so hard on him, he's just a silly boy. They do that stuff. Blame your hormones for being insecure, but know that you are beautiful and he probably wouldn't be with you if he didn't think you were. My fiance looks at other girls and is in love with Megan Fox but he still thinks I'm the sexiest girl in the world so I'm fine with it. Just fake some confidence until you get some. Laugh out loud when he does his silly boy things. It will show him you are confident. My fiance did the whole rubber neck thing when we passed by this girl with huge boobies, I just laughed out loud and told him not to be so obvious and reminded myself that he loves my boobies and still thinks I'm the sexiest woman who's ever walked this earth.
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