c-section ?

[having_twins]

I saw a new doctor yesterday. Luckily he will not be someone I'll have to see very often I'm not sure about his bed side manner. Anyway, he just threw it out there that I'll have to have a c-section. No big deal to him but it's a huge deal to me. I really wanted give birth to my babies. Not have them surgically removed from my body like a tumor. I am so disappointed. I feel like I keep getting screwed out of all the happy wonderful everyday normal stuff that most women get to have I'm life. Has anyone out there done both, vaginal birth and c-section? And what was the pros and cons?

[marajean21]

Even if one is breech, if the one closest to the canal is head down, you can try vaginal delivery and if the 2nd baby doesn't flip after the first comes out, they can try flipping from the outside. They shouldnt tell you if you need a c-sec until right before you're due or whatever day they'd plan to induce you and check via sonogram what position the babies are in, then again on delivery day. My doc isn't even looking at a c-sec and I currently have one baby head first and the other feet first.

[having_twins]

Thanks for all the kind words. I really wish I knew why people have decided not to stand behind me other then they are all very selfish. I'm a 36 year old women who has worked very hard in my life. I waited to have children in till I could afford then and waited in till I was married. My family very odd I guess. Who doesn't like having new babies in the family? I can't wrap my mind around it. My husband and I move to another state to start over and frankly I don't want my boys to be around my family if they are going to be nasty. I'm now 31 weeks so I'm almost there. Its been along road but the end is near. I see a new fetal specialist in a two weeks so I'll talk to that doctor about he things when it comes to the c- section. I'll also do some more research of my own. I have been prepared to have a c- section if one of the babies were breach but I wanted to go into labor, go to the hospital and try before having a doctor just be like no you will be having a c-section. I guess it took me by surprise and also its not what I wanted to hear. I know the end result is the same but I wanted that moment when you look down and see your child come into the world. That's all

[rachyrou]

Wow, Spikett - I didn't realise there was information out there to try to turn your babies. It's brilliant that something like that is out there, and your advice is great. I didn't realise that there was much you could do if you were told you're probably going to have to have a c-section. But I guess that's why we don't question them etc, as medical professionals I suppose we just tend to go along with what we're told.
I hope you do end up getting a vaginal birth if that's what you want hun. Just don't panic if you have to have a c-section in the end. Good luck.

[Spiket77]

Please, don't give up on your options. A c-section is fine if needed but do some of your own research. I think the medical community is so used to assuming multiples have to be c-section that they forget it isn't a absolute for every case.
How far along are you? Look at the site spinningbabies.com You can read about methods to encourage your babies to get into birthing position. Also, you can try for a vaginal birth but they will probably have you deliver in a OR type room if you are in a hospital setting. This way, if something needs to happen they will already have you prepped.
If you aren't comfortable with your current OB or if he/she won't work with you to have a vaginal birth...look for someone else.
My heart breaks to read losing your little girl. I don't understand why you aren't getting more support through this pregnancy. I can't imagine how painful that must be. You are doubly blessed this time. Stay positive and keep us posted.

[rachyrou]

I'm so sorry for your loss and how your family and friends are unsuportive idiots. Don't feel bad about c-sections, they're perfectly safe and doesn't make you a failiure or anything! my mum had a weirdly shaped pelvis and had to have both of us via C-section. I had my daughter vaginally. You're not the first, or last to have a c-section, and there's no shame in it hon. I know it's not nice when what you've planned is taken away from you, but you're still bringing a life into this world. Huge cuddles for you at what sounds like a really difficult time for you. x

[kfrasher]

First I want to say how sorry I am you lost a baby hun. And to hear ur family isn't supporting u with this pregnancy. That's got to be hard to deal with.
I'll be having my 4th c-section in 11 days and yes its not the traditional way to go, but its still giving birth! A c-section was the only safe way for me to give birth with my first, n I've had to have repeats with my other babies, due to them being too big to try for a vbac. It did take me awhile to come to grips with the fact I would never have my kids naturally, but id rather have them come into the world safe! Best wishes hun.

[having_twins]

I know that there is still time for the babies to turn but right now they both are traverse. I feel like nothing is going my way with this pregnancy other then that the babies are healthy and that's the most important thing of course. Last year I had a stillborn. I waited 4 years to get pregnant with her and lost her. I just wanted a child and I'm not getting any younger so my husband and I decided to try again right away. It was our choice to do so and I lost family and friends because of it. People seemed to think I shouldn't have children after what happened but I didn't do anything wrong. My poor baby twisted her cord. So I'm on my own. No baby shower no happy grandparents and now I feel like I have been stripped of the joy of giving birth to my boys.

[Clysta]

C-section is a relatively common way to give birth to multiples now, generally because one is traverse or breech, they have to come early due to other factors, etc etc.

I've never given birth by c-section (only 1 child) however I do know risks, pros, etc. I'm sure others will be able to tell you there own personal stories. And remember, you don't actually have to have anything done you don't want. Before a c-section you have to consent for it, so seek multiple opinions and choose what's right for you.