dont want to breastfeed

[mrsonens]

Hey ladies hope ur all well, we'll this is a bit of a weird one but it's driving me mad! Firstly I'm 23 weeks n I'm gonna try breastfeeding when lil man is here, my sister is 31 weeks n she says she's not going to breast feed as she's not comfortable with the whole thing which in my opinion is fair enough it's her own choice, but her partner on d other hand goes. On daily trying to persuade her to breastfeed cos he says he doesn't understand why she wouldn't as he would if he could as it's like super potion and that he just wants the best f his daughter n doesn't want her to miss out, it's getting her soo down as n i quote ' i feel like d worst mum in d world n she's not even born yet ' it's not fair to make her feel.like that but she's not one to explain her feelings she just tells him no! He's even trying to get me to 'persuade' her! I just don't know how to get him to drop it all and just see that it's her choice and not the end of the world but he's pushing her away and driving us all crazy.. Please help me help my sister she doesn't need this stress

[1st_time_mommyscarbro]

Its great he even cares truthfully. I  think she should at least try it and not give up before she even tries it. Formula is ok but even the doctor would say that if you physically can you should try for the first 3 months because of the antibiotics. He does have a say its his baby also. They definitely need to get on the same page. And you never know she might really enjoy that connection her and baby will have through breast feeding. I agree she has a choice but she needs to remember she didnt make baby on her own. Now its no longer all about what she wants and sacrifices for baby come in many ways and women know that babies will change their life forever :) in good ways though :)

[jaaked]

Im not biased bc I actually plan on breastfeeding BUT that's my damn choice wether I will or not. I also WASNT breastfed as a child & I've never had any medical issues & graduated w a 3.9 gpa! Smart & healthy!

[FirstTimeMommy89]

My bf doesn't think breastfeeding is a big deal he's even told me not to but its something I really wanna do and he respects it

[mrsonens]

Anyone's partner or husband have an opinion on this cos if I say anything about all ur opininion he says ur all gonna b biased!! N would like to hear a dad's opinion..?

[elocinin]

I think he is being a caring father and its sweet he cares so much. Breast milk is a million times better for the baby though formula works jus fine. It is her choice though the fathers opinion should matter to her. It also seems over dramatic its not a big deal as long as the baby gets fed. Goodluck i understand family drama lol family can be overbearing but usually bc they care. When they come to you i would stay neutral and encourage them to talk about it. The baby will do fine on formula, breastmilk will jus give some bonuses

[TanyaC0516]

Breastfeeding is her choice.  The father cannot make her breastfeed.  He shouldn't try to make her feel bad about her decisions either.

[mrsonens]

Thanks ladies, im trying to keep out but it makes me mad that he's stressing her out so much n doesn't see that he's going too far! Any further ideas?

[demz159]

Tell him to f off, it's her choice. Formula is just as good as breast milk they say that you should breastfeed for at least the first few days as its the colostrum that first comes out which will help baby more than formula but if she doesn't want to she doesn't have to. I would sit down with your sister and her partner and tell him straight that it's her body and not his and if she doesn't feel comfortable breastfeeding then she doesn't have to and he needs to back off because it's causing her stress and making her feel like a horrible person which isn't fair x

[drcm24]

She can do formula but to make sure it has DHA in it to help with brain development and eyes.I'm breastfeeding and giving my daughter formula to gain weight and then she will solely be on formula because my boobs hurt bad. They will put the baby up her breast after the baby is born though. Just stay clear of the whole situation with your sister and her baby daddy. Let them fight and you be a shoulder to cry on or talk to.

[jaaked]

Was he breasfed? Just point out that there are plenty of healthy thriving babies who weren't breastfed. Its completely her choice unless he's gonna pull out his *** & feed his daughter

[mrsonens]

Thing is he's done soo much of his own research that he's like a walking info leaflet on breast milk lol he keeps saying about antibodies and it helping digestion n all sorts which I don't doubt is true he jus says he doesn't understand why she wouldn't even try or to pump when this special liquid gold is freely available, he goes on at me all the time so I hate t think how much he tries to 'persuade' her!

[MamaDanielle]

Firstly, your a great sister :)

I would get information proving formula is good enough for the baby so he can see for himself that he/she will be getting enough nutrients frm formula. Maybe go together to the doctors?