family issues

[lexi_manos]

so my family hates my bd im 18 and hes 47 i know its a huge age difference but i love him no matter what the only problem is my family wants me to cut him out of my life because " hes a bad person" they wont let me see him or let him around me theyve told me they would disown me if i continue to see him but i dont want my baby to grow up with out grandparents and im due in November and he hasnt gotten a job and is liveing with friends. im affrid they wont let him be there for the birth or wont be there if hes there i just don't know what to do any more please help#!!!!

[chunky_punky]

If hes 47 and doesnt have his stuff together he most likely never will a person has to want to change no baby or other person can make them change. Dont turn your back on your family for this guy unless he gets a job and has an apartment before the baby is born bt talk to your family and explain to them if he gets it together they have to give him a chance

[Msdollie]

At the end of the day u have to do what's best for your baby.. You know he needs a job to be able to support his child. He can't just sit around and expect the baby to have what it needs.. He really needs to step it up. I mean is there a reason to why he doesn't work? seriously look at the big picture here bc the baby will be here before u know it. if your family are willing to help u and the baby than don't push them away. I hope everything works out for u all bc the choices u make affects your child.. Good luck Hun :)

[MissJessGolden]

My family hates my son's dad and constantly throw it in my face that I messed my life up by getting pregnant. I am 19 and also due in November. Your bd has about 4 months to get it together. If he doesnt have a job and his own place it is going to cause problems and you will eventually get tired of supporting your family on your own and leave him. It is all up to you though. It is going to get tougher is he cant get it together and pull his weight. Your family just wants you to be happy and believe that he is going to force it on you to do everything.

[Punkypooder]

I'm 39 weeks pregnant.. 20 years old and my bd is 36, almost done with college and works etc.. I wouldn't say a baby can't change someone.. My family also didn't like my boyfriend and were very disrespectful toward him so finally I got tired of it and told them that they need to accept the fact that him and I are going to be together and are having a child together and that if they can't respect him then they can't be in mine and his daughters  life.. He says the same to his family members about me. We have eachothers backs 100%!
I know your situation is very hard and your probably very stressed but you should talk to them and tell them what you want and what you think is best for you and the baby. Talk to bd and tell him he needs to get it together ASAP. Maybe the two of you can eventually get a place together. Anyway, I hope everything goes real well for you and the baby, doll. Wishing you the best of luck.

[usernameistaken55]

Maybe then u should let him be until he gets his stuff together....no sense in losing ur family for someone who can't even support u. Then wen he's got it together u can decide to get back with him or just have him in ur childs life

[princesslo007]

I agree with the posts above. Your child is #1, not you and not your baby daddy... If he's 47 and doesn't have his life together, you aren't going to reverse the last 47 years, and your baby won't change him either. In this scenario, I would stick with your family!

[bb_starr]

Your gonna do what you want to do, but if I was you I would let him be in the childs life. If he doesn't have a job and living with friends he can't support both you and the baby. He can be in the child's life that's not your family a decision. You are the mother, and family won't just abandon you if thru really love you they will come around. Its easier said than done.

[FebuaryBaby]

You have to be able to do whats best for the child. I to had this problem. My parents refused me to see or even threaten to disown me due to him being military.  I told them to shut up basically and said he is the father I'm not raising this child alone.  They will listen and if they do disown then they are selfish I'm sorry but parents should always love there children no matter what

[lexi_manos]

i dont want to lose my family and be with someone who cant support use but i want him in his life

[usernameistaken55]

If he's 47 n doesn't have his stuff together then there's issues. But ure gn love who u live and u'll learn one day so do wat u find best

[babybenny]

This is your child. You do what you want. You are 18, they cant tell you no! They cant tell him that he cant be there for his childs birth. Your the only one with the say in who is there and who is not! You need to tell them to back off. This is your life. Your child!