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how can i leave
Ok so this is my second baby my boyfriend was locked up with the first one came out when i was due in a month the delivery room was a mess when i found out we are having a second i was excited cause he can be here and we can try again lately its been hell i dont like the way things are he is even worst i want to leave but have no place to go and he wont let me take my daughter what should i do
You can go to centrelink and talk to a social worker *** you are eligible for an emergency payment (they give you a credit card which you don't have to pay back) and will place you in emergency housing if you want... When there's a child involved it's most likely the police will be involved for custody matters and protection just in case of abuse (which includes verbal), there's a lot of government agencies that can help you too x I'm a counsellor so I do know what is available to you x I hope everything gets sorted and you are able to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy (:
I cant work until im cleared because i had a scare Thursday night to where i was bleeding a lot soakin thru my pants and i can have a miscarriage or continue so the doctors put me on bed rest and restrictions i am ok now but i dont want it to happen again esp if im at work thank god i was at a friend's house with a hospital that was 6 minutes away
I love the make a plan idea because my family have never really been supportive or in my life and when i do try to have a relationship with them he always messes it up by threatening them and saying he is goin to come to their house so they just leave the situation alone and want nothing to do with him i will start my escape plan right now i will be silent cuz if he knows thats a problem if i call the cops he dont care he will still come looking and he knows my friends and family so i want to do this as quietly and safe for everyone as possible especially my children i appreciate you ladies helping me with such amazing ideas and im happy i have now realized to let go and be happy so i can continue to be the best mom and raise my kids in a safe environment
That is the scenario I was talking about JessiiMichelle. some states have laws that you can't leave the home with the baby. I was shocked to learn this. So, I'd rather she get her plan together and then go quietly without the fanfare of police to perhaps tell her she cant leave and have him then on to her and ready to make it very difficult.
You are the mother, I would call the police and tell them that you are pregnant and the situation that you and your daughter is in just is not good anymore and you would like to leave but it will not happen without a fight and you want an officer there to help you retrieve your personal items and they will help you,but the only thing is you will only have a small amount of time so maybe find someone to help you.
Find Help Try To Talk To One Of Your Family Members He Cant Force You To Stay & Especially Threaten You With Your Daughter Hope Things Come Out Good For You Hun You Deserve To Be Stress Free & Happy Ill Keep You In My Prayers
Hi there. I don't think anyone has to stay in a relationship in which they are unhappy and it sounds like this is you now. I'm sorry about that sweetie. Your gut seems to be telling you something. What worries me is his threat that you can't take your child. Now, I have heard this--- that there can be difficulties with this. That if you leave him and take the child, he can call the police and prevent that and have the baby returned to the home. I had a poster on another forum talk about this---- her partner was being abusive but there was no record of it. She tried to leave so HE called the police and the police said SHE could go but that the baby (an infant!) had to stay. I was a little shocked about this and did a bit of research and found that some places do have laws like this.
Your best bet is to get a plan for your exit together. Don't threaten to go. Keep quiet about it along with any evidence that you are planning it.
IF he is abusive, call a hotline for women who are abused (I am HAPPY t provide a phone number or their web site if you need it--- just be careful about computer history if you use it) and ask for advice. You need to figure out where you can go. Do you work? CAN you work---- begin thinking big picture about what kind of job you can do if you don't currently have one. Do you have ANY family anywhere that can help you-- parents, siblings, aunts, grandparents, good friends? it is time to reach out if you need to. We all need help from time to time, it's okay to ask for help.
You can also, on your own, begin looking into things like financial aid/govt. assistance and housing. Make an appointment and talk to someone. He never has to know.
Then, when your plan is together, you quietly make your exit (like when he isn't home). If you are set up somewhere else, this bodes better for you than just leaving with nowhere to go.
And if he threatens anything after you have left with the baby, look for free or cheap legal aid to protect yourself and your children so they can stay with you.
hugs, it's hard. But you shouldn't have to be in a relationship that isn't working
Your best bet is to get a plan for your exit together. Don't threaten to go. Keep quiet about it along with any evidence that you are planning it.
IF he is abusive, call a hotline for women who are abused (I am HAPPY t provide a phone number or their web site if you need it--- just be careful about computer history if you use it) and ask for advice. You need to figure out where you can go. Do you work? CAN you work---- begin thinking big picture about what kind of job you can do if you don't currently have one. Do you have ANY family anywhere that can help you-- parents, siblings, aunts, grandparents, good friends? it is time to reach out if you need to. We all need help from time to time, it's okay to ask for help.
You can also, on your own, begin looking into things like financial aid/govt. assistance and housing. Make an appointment and talk to someone. He never has to know.
Then, when your plan is together, you quietly make your exit (like when he isn't home). If you are set up somewhere else, this bodes better for you than just leaving with nowhere to go.
And if he threatens anything after you have left with the baby, look for free or cheap legal aid to protect yourself and your children so they can stay with you.
hugs, it's hard. But you shouldn't have to be in a relationship that isn't working
Yea i am lookin into things right now and trying to do it as safe as possible with no drama for my daughter's sake and my unborn child
If you need to call the police station say you want to leave bit your worried thing might escalate and you don't want that, they can send an officer to just be by so you can take your daughter without him trying anything
Then leave, find a woman's shelter or something take your daughter with you, no matter WHAT mothers WILL FIND A WAY, do some research and get some help
He does want me to stay but i dont want to i want to leave and co parent but he said if i leave we are not co parenting and he can't take care of her like i can he is more into goin out with his friends i drooped my social life and commited myself to her
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