how do you tell family that ate un supportive of your husband and your marriage???

[beyond_blessed]

Well tomorrow I am going to a family bday party and have decided to tell my family I'm expecting. It's realty but I want them to hear it from me. They do not like my husband, didn't come to our wedding and refuse to see me with him. How do I tell them and still hold my ground that my hubby is part if the family? I love my family dearly and am praying this baby may bring us back together as an entire family but I'm so scared bc I will be alone and if they say rude things about it I don't know how to react. :'( if anyone has dealt with this b4 plz help me know what to do. I'm clueless and struggling.

[beyond_blessed]

Well, I ended up going to my patents house after the party and told them....it went surprisingly well. And I didn't know my dad had emailed me earlier this week asking my husband, 2 step daughters and I to come over for supper soon bc they want to be in our lives!!!!! I just have to say GOD ANSWERS PRAYER!!!!! I am overwhelmed and still in shock from knowing I'm really preg to finding out they want to work things out. :') I'm a very tired happy lady tonight.

[sage1001629]

I'm sorry to hear and I wish you luck. I went through it also. With my 2nd I was just kept telling myself that a child is always a blessing and refused to let them bring me down. But I don't think you should do it at someone elses bday party. If there is a scene they will blame you and you don't want to take the spotlight. Good luck

[beyond_blessed]

Well thanx for the support ladies ...who knows maybe they will take it well. I will keep u posted when I can. I'm trying my best to keep the right Christian attitude towards them. But its not always the easy thing to do but I know that if I do no matter what happens I can know I did my best and respected them by telling them instead of letting them find out on fb or from a gossip. God will reward me in 8 months with a beautiful child so that's all I need to know!

[Bri_1985]

Just stay strong, keep that feeling of joy over being pregnant, and the second they start being negative - leave. You can cry later if you need to but dont let them get to you. What SHOULD matter is YOUR happiness not theirs. Selfish people really get on my nerves. If I went with ya I'd likely tell each one off and not in a nice PG way. Lol Good luck hun

[Krysi25]

I kno exactly wat u mean my family thinks I'm a failure I have heard many mean things about me I've cried and then tlkd to hubby and just keep remembering that he's my family now and our son dnt wrry bout them they will come around

[beyond_blessed]

It's so hard bc I'm SOOO un confrontational and my family is very demanding and can say the mist hurtful things. I just always walk away then cry later. I'm soooo turn bc I am beyond happy about baby but don't want them to get to me. I always let them get to me when I'm around them but I just same them to love and support me. I don't understand how they can be so hurtful when I have always been there for them(I'm the youngest of 4 and gave helped 2 siblings a ton with my nieces and nephews even when it wasn't easy, I did it bc they are family) anyway. I plan on it being rough but will be soo glad when I do it and can just come home and be with my hubby and start planning for our life together with our baby. Praying my family will come around by the time baby is born and having faith!

[Krysi25]

Mine is the same way and I've been married almost 3yrs sad part like bri is mine didn't come to my wedding either and won't attend baby shower tell them and stand tall I did and NOW they want to buy stuff for my son and I'm currently 26+3

[Bri_1985]

February 2010*

[Bri_1985]

Oh they didnt come to our wedding either which was in Feburary and my sister had said they threw away the announcement and wedding invitation. Now they are demanding pictures - I told them no. Im not a push over lol

[Bri_1985]

I went through this with my Aunt and Uncle a couple years back. -_- It was annoying for them to call or email me all the time saying I was getting married for the wrong reasons and that it was too soon, etc. My hubby and I knew each other as friends for 6 years and we dated for 3 months before he tried to propose but I kept saying no. We found out I was pregnant with my 2 yr old (my other two kids are from a previous fiancee but my hubby treats them like his own) in November then he proposed in front of everyone on Christmas. My Aunt and Uncle swore it was because I was pregnant. But all I did was ignored their negativity and we didnt let it get to us. Eventually they came around but it was still hell because of them.