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husband just bought a ps3

...obviously I'm ******* pissed. We have been fighting/ not talking so much since 4 days ago for something completely different...why would you buy a ps3 to add to my frustration! I am about 18w pregnant, we are living In my moms basement and we moved In here to pay bills and get ahead in life. Great ******* start! Whenever we fight about finances, I'm the one that's asks him for too much money I spend this I spend that. Me alone! In One week this *** hole has been to shortstop ,Wendy's, panera bread twice and and now this ps3... when they just can out with a ps4!!! Yes he's an idiot to boot. Meanwhile I'm stuck struggling with bills, dealing with finals, working my *** off spending every pay check to knock stuff out.  Im sure I want a separation and he doesn't understand why. Tomorrow/today(I'm up past my bed time)  was the day we set aside to talk and I'm not sure i can talk calmly now that he bought this ps3 . I'm furious.
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Sweetheart men will be men!!!! My fiancé did some stupid crap as well... He would leave at all hours of the night to go drinking with the guys,buy Xbox crap, eat out meanwhile we were living with his parents trying to save money? I finally had to pit my foot down. I left him for a week.... He sure did straighten up. Sometimes they just don't understand what they have in front of them. They need an eye opener. Sit down and talk to him tell him that the stress on you isn't good for yalls baby. Just calm down and try and have a civilized convo with him. Its hard making a relationship work... And throwing a baby into that mix just complicates it more. But the little stinkers are worth it. Best of luck!!!
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I understand it's difficult with money issues but in total honesty, if you think it's better for him to buy a ps4, it's really not, they are almost double the price of a ps3 and not even on sale yet. Luckily both me and my boyfriend are gamers and we bought a ps3 the other week because we would much rather wait a couple of years to even see how the ps4 does, we don't have much money but while we're waiting for our child to be born we want to relax and it's obviously what your other half wants to do. Please don't see this as me going completely against you, i'm just saying it from the other side, me and my boyfriend struggle for money but we still want to be happy before we literally can't buy anything for ourselves. Properly talk to him about how you feel and if he doesn't understand you and accept you are upset and angry at him then he's obviously not worth it or you can try getting involved with him and playing as well. I really hope you get things sorted though :/
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I feel for you about saving money right now times are hard. Lucky for my husband im a gamer too, so we can manage a game or two occasionally, but i feel it if you dont even play then its just a waste of money. Good luck, things will get better.
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Yea I think everyone is with you here on this... I don't know what it is about guysand games they are a pointless waste of money!!!!! But iI am sure once you put your foot down and actually tell him how it is making you feel and the amount of stress you are dealing with, things will turn around.
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Yeah, i was gonna say...its really stupid to buy a ps3 ...the ps4 is so much better and the same price..totally not sticking up for him but he could have at least gotten your guys's money worth :/
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Happened here too.. hubby works hard so i try to be lenient but we just moved and were struggling so its kinda annoying. The time spend on it annoys me more than the money
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Thanks so much ladies. I feel so much better knowing I'm not alone, this is just so hard especially being pregnaht. I will probably tough it out because he does do a lot for us when he's not acking like a kid. His business is all cash and i know he won't let me touch it but, we decided to go to marriage counciling and maybe I can talk him into a budget as well...thanks so much ladies...this is so cheesey but I could not have gone through this these last 16 weeks without this forum...seriously
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Uh ohhh... This economy is hard enough the cost of living is crazy ! My boyfriend is writing a speech for his class about money management. About 3 weeks ago i noticed his money was dissappearing too fast and he gets paud weeekly girl. So I took over. I told him u can either agree to it or not agree but im stil going to do this. If course he was all but its money. Well weve been on this budget since then. Both of his. Together we have collected over $600 into our safe for baby girl in 3 weeks! Im so happy nd he now loves the idea of it. He got paid yday i didnt even habe to tell him on his own he divided his money for bills personal and safe. Talk to your hubby. Why fight? Nowadays ppl give up so quick on relationships money is the root of all evil but dnt let that be a reason. Be adults wrk your stuff out the way parents should. Afterall you had a baby with each other for a reason. Wish u the best of luck!!!
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Men are d$#ks so tired of they BS. My baby daddy the same way nd now he's not working and I'm due in 15 weeks
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Sometimes men don't grow up. I dealt with tons of **** with my husband. As example, he spent almost $400 buying stupid extras for stupid games. I lost it. I was beyond pissed. There was also a time when he wouldn't get off his lazy *** and look for a job, so we lost our place and had to live with my parents. In terms of struggles I've had them dealing with this man, and we fought, and broke up, but we struggled through it and are much happier today. Now he's the man I need him to be. He works his *** off to support me and his kids everyday. Does an awful job, and often goes without so that we have what we need. I didn't have a lot of trouble with him spending money though because honestly I control all the money. Yes he works for it and hands it over. In better at budgeting out what we need and making sure everyone is taken care of. So for that I am lucky. Basically you have two options. You can leave him and deal with everything alone. Or you can tough it out. But if you tough it out, its going to be hard. You're going to have to deal with a lot of bullcrap. I went through hell, but in the end I'm glad I did. Things have been better then ever. Fight him on this, you may not win the battle, but in the end you might just win the war. He might just grow up one day, and be the man you need him to be.
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My boyfriend did the same exact thing when we were living with my mom a year ago. Wanna know what the solution was? I made him sell it right back, thankfully my moms boyfriend bought it but of course for a lesser price than we paid to teach my boyfriend a lesson. Priorities. And he's a good man now, although yesterday he was let go from his job 18 days away from our due date.. And it was his birthday to boot... It could be worse : )
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