just venting

[patra2013]

Im 18 and me and my boyfriend jus graduated last week he went to a club but didnt tell me and tonight hes at a party mind you he ignored me all day but the towns so small its not hard to find out things idk im 11 weeks and i know its not good to stress but i cant help it .

[KensleysMom]

You want him to sit in the house and you guys stare at each other?

What you imagine to happen if he didn't hang out with his friends is not reality. Men are wired completely different than us. He isn't going to sit at home and prepare for baby and have baby talk with you for the next seven months. Granted he should still be preparing the way a man should and going to work and putting money aside. He also should have a days that he does just stay with you every now and then. But day in and day out just sit at home because you are pregnant and temporarily unable to go out is unrealistic.

This is just something that you will have to accept as part of pregnancy.

[33159813]

Oh I understand. My boyfriend is a great guy, just graduated recently too. But on two occasions I've found out he hung out with other girls late at night & lied to me about what he was doing, then was acting shady when I found out. He is sad he can't do what normal guys his age do (drink, strip clubs, road trips, days to spend alone, etc) anyways, my point is, men don't become fathers until they hold their child. They just want to grasp what they can of what they had, especially these young ones. Inbox me if you want, I know exactly how you feel.

[sbindert]

Don't make any rash decisions (especially with prego hormones ha) without thinking then through for at least 24 hours. Make rational decisions not emotional ones. I'm guilty of those occasionally, and I think anyone is.

[patra2013]

We graduated almost two months ago i even went out and celebrated the point is he lies and doesnt tell me stuff i have to find out myself . Idc if hes his own person i didnt get pregnant by myself and its not fair that i have to deal with this alone

[TeamAdyn]

No offense but I think your hormones are thinking for you right now. I don't see the issue with him going out celebrating an accomplishment. You can't make him sit around doing nothing or picking up every call you make. Remember you're his girl friend not his wife nor mother. Have an adult conversation with him and express your feelings but remember he is his own person.

[sbindert]

You are so welcome. Just remember that either way well not be easy, but the right way will be the most difficult. Good luck and I wish you the best! And please, make good decisions for your little one that they will benefit from!:)

[patra2013]

Thank you so much . I didnt wana jus give up bc we been together for two years and now blessed with a baby he claimed to always want but doesnt act like it.  It just ***** that im probably gna be alone

[sbindert]

To be honest, most young guys will not be readyto step up to the plate (especially if they just graduated). Just have a sit down talk and be very calm and just say Hey, it's time to be adults. We need to be on the same page and I feel like you are not growing with me. Let him know how serious you are and how the baby is now your first priority, and if he is not willing to be an adult then to be blunt (sorry, I'm soaking from experience and don't mean to sound rude or insensitive) then you may need to give him the boot until he becomes a man. If he does not step up, the best thing for you and the baby will bee to do things solo for a bit and make sure there isn't a stressful environment! I'm sorry that you are in the boat you are in, but if your boyfriend is only going to make you worry and not be the man that you want as a role model for your baby then maybe let him know and go from there.