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marry this man of mine :'(

I'm 19 years old and pregnant with a baby girl my boyfriends family expect us too get married bc I'm pregnant and I don't believe pregnancy is a reason to rush into holy matrimony I love my boyfriend but a few months ago we were Jus college kids tryna make the grade before the baby he wasn't pressuring us to be married so y now? I know marraige is honorable and I respect it but at the same time I feel like the bad guy bc I can't force myself into marraige its not that I will never marry him Jus not at 19 yrs old bc of an unplanned pregnancy how do I make him under stand that's doesn't mean I don't love him :'(
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only you know whats best for yourself if your not ready your not ready ......your  man loves you he will understand as for ever body else tell them to take a back seat cuz your the captin....lol
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2009129 tn?1335370857
You could very well just explain that you don't want to get married now because you don't want outsiders to think the baby is the only reason you're getting married. I knew I wanted to marry my husband, but we waited until our daughter was 5 months old before we sealed the deal.
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2066946 tn?1345523888
I was 18 when i had my daughter an 19 when I married ...I'm 31 weeks preg again an Me an my hubby our about to have our 6th marriage anniversary in August :)
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Thanks I appreciate it how old were u when u married if u don't mind me asking
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Thanks I appreciate it how old were u when u married if u don't mind me asking
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2066946 tn?1345523888
I completely see your point 100 percent..I didn't marry my husband until our daughter was 1 because I wanted it to be for the right reasons ..just tell your bf straight up how u feel ..you love him you could see yourself being his wife one day but right now you want to focus on your baby an your new family ..good luck
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Explain to him you beliefs and you don't want to rush. If he loves you he will respect that.good luck <3
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