need help

[rachaelbutsch]

So I caught my husband texting some other female yesterday. Calling her baby and beautiful and it really broke my heart I'm sitting here 6 months prego with his kid and its not enough. He admitted to it but he never told the c*** about me or the baby so I did I'm taking his phone up to at&t tomorrow to get the number blocked for good. I found out months ago he was talking to other females then too he admitted to it to I asked why he said cause he's bored. Like really your bored with me now all I've done is cry he suppose to be my other half my bff and now I feel like there's apart of me missing. He's been trying to apologize and fix things and I want things back to the way they use to be. He says he does too am I stupid for taking him back? I just want the man I married back with all the romance and passion and fire and PDA that we use to have I haven't seen that side of him in a long time and I can't help but wonder what did I do wrong... I mean he did take a vow to love and cherish me for the rest of my life and now we have a daughter on the way and this happens she knows mommy upset she's been moving like crazy since yesterday when I found out. Do y'all think god is testing our marriage???

[Kierra_marie]

As a woman I have to ask..was he doing things like this before he took your hand in marriage?. I mean honestly think about that. Because as a married woman if u start to feel that u are the reason ur husband goes around and have his fun with other women, rather it's emotionally or physically cheating, something was lingering before u two gotten married...like iyanla vazant say "call a thing, a thing". There is in no way shape or form that u are entitled to blame yourself for your husband's infidelities. I don't care how bored he say he is in the marriage, once u accept a womans' hand n vow before God to take care of her through sickness and in health you took a leap of faith && know is willing to be the man of the household. If he was not ready marriage wasn't the answer. We can tell u don't give up or leave him but it's your say so && at the end of the day you have to do what's best for your baby girl. I always ask my brothers and uncles this question when I see them treating women any kind of way. Will u let your daughter date a guy like u? That question makes any man think & if they say no. They have yet to grow up. Hope all goes well with you hun

[Bentin6]

DONT Give Up! If you both know what the problems are.... work on those and watch the blessings flow. No God isn't testing you.. that's a idle mind being the Devils playground. Most men get scared when bringing a kid into the world because he has to officially grow up... fast. So stay strong

[mamabear8911]

You two should go to couple theraphy and work it out.  Sometimes married couples get so caught up with work and life they forget about the sparks and love life. It's important you two remain intimate and do things as a couple and go out on date nights. Bring the love bk bcoz once baby here she will take allot of time from both of you

[Mommyoftwolilgirls]

Need to talk to him and tell him how you fill

[Perrybaby14]

You need to ask him that question. Honestly honey, men are stupid assholes who think they can get away with anything and everything. If you really love him and want to stay with him, make him know that what he did is completely unexceptable and honestly drain his emotion with that, he needs to feel your pain and your anger and your emotions. If it were me, I would leave him, he has a beautiful woman who is carrying his child, you should be a goddess to him for blessing him with a child. Not out flirting with other girls, because what else has he done that he's not telling you? You should be the only one in his eyes and if he thinks another girl is pretty, he needs to keep it to himself and only have that thought for that second. I'm so sorry to hear about this hon, and I hope the best for you and your baby, but just know, what ever decision you make you HAVE to be strong. Because it's not just about you, its about your and your baby, and our job is to protect them. Sometimes that's staying with together, but what if it doesn't stop and your baby sees daddy with other woman than mommy? What does that teach them? Or it could not happen. If you don't stay together, you have to stay strong, and show them that you won't put up with of that and they better know not to put up with it, or do it themselves

[melcarin]

Try sitting him down and asking him why he married you to begin with and what he means by saying he's bored. Have a long discussion about it and see what he says. Before you do anything super drastic maybe try counseling.