not a question just a vent

[Zombonnie]

My fiancée is driving me insane!! We r having money trouble and we have to move and he thinks he's the only one that's stressed I'm 28 weeks and he just doesn't seem that into this pregnancy this is my first so everything is new and exciting to me but its his second and he doesn't seem excited at all he hardly touches my belly and hardly talks to her I'm all alone and have no family and I'm just so upset I'm crying and so lost he's been sick so I keep asking him if he's ok or if he needs anything but he just keeps saying nothing and no but still seems upset so just yo check

[jLove1992]

Thats,how my bf was at first this was our second baby our first past away at six months from rsv  so I think it brought alot of strein on my pregnancy at first he wouldn't touch my belly only wen I asked he just didn't seem to care I was sad but happy to be pregnant cuz I never got the chance to finish being a mommy n I wanted too she ment the world to me I thought it was gonna be hard n it is now cuz they look so much alike my baby girl would of been 2 this august ny son now is 3 weeks...things will get better it jus might take a little bit of time sorry had to vent too

[Zombonnie]

I can understand wanting to be the provider but he was saying he was upset because I don't seem that worried and that I seem like I don't care.. I do.. I just don't show it like he thinks I should and yes I have family but the closest ones are 10 hours away and even then I don't talk to them but maybe 1-2 times a month if that.. my mom took off when I was we never seen or heard from her again till about 5 years ago it took her about 22 years I want nothing to do with her I have a step mom that is my mom :) she's an amazing woman :) but I feel I get way more qualified advice from other people considering mother has abandoned 6 out of her 8 kids and bub02 wow that's aweful I'm sorry to hear that I wonder if it's all men that don't get as into their second kids

[Bub02]

My boyfriends the same. This is our second, he barely talks to me at night, hel grab my bumb but hardly ever acknologes that im pregnant. Its so unfair because I want a girl and im giving him another son. He has no interrest in coming to ultrasounds or appointments. I have to carry heavy bits of wood in for the fire, he sits there watching me.

[AnnieBrooke]

I just read your other post and see you have a big grudge against your mother for abandoning you then, and now wanting to be involved in your life.  Sounds like you have a choice to make, and I'm here to suggest that parenting is pretty hard and you should consider taking all the help you can get, imperfect as it might be.  Possibly see a counselor and get things straight with your mom.  

[AnnieBrooke]

You say you have no family.  None?  Or just none near?  It sounds like you need to be nearer your family, if there are out there somewhere.

[sorenr]

men have real problems dealing with things like money worries as they feel they should be the 'provider' so setbacks really cut them deep. He's probably feeling really guilty about the situation you are in and so (as men do) he'll retreat into himself and fret. The anger that appears to be coming ar you is probably only there because he's angry and upset with himself.

[Zombonnie]

Sorry phone cut me off... but just to check I asked if he was upset with me at all and he completely flew off the handle and started yelling at me for a bunch of things and it just upset me so much I tried to stay calm but I started to cry so he called me a cry baby and took off to the store... I'm just so upset and needed.to vent thank you