Haha how confusing!!!!
but anyway, I agree with whoever said to just let it go and dont confront him on it anymore. wait to see if anything changes when your baby comes. he is being very immature right now, but its definitely possible that its cause of the new baby.. it changes everything!!! My Db was totally different after the baby was born. and now hes back again.
They say woman have emotional problems and multiple personalities, but I dont think they ever look at them selves. my DB is the most immature, selfish arrogant a**hole I know.. haha but i still love his dumb A**
Oh, sure.
Lots of men seem to never grow up. I mean, I'm pretty young and I've already realized that! I'm only 18 btw. (: Poor me, I've got a one year old daughter and another one on the way.. only about 6 weeks but I'm horrified!
i think even then they still won't Lol
Oh, my bad again LOL!
Yeah, I was wanting to know about yours.
But anyway, see I've learned that most men seem not to mature until they're like 35, and on a rare occasion maybe 25 - 30.
So my guess would be that he just doesn't want to grow up, yet.
i have a dh. the other amanda has a db and i do not know how he is. you would have to ask her. but my husband is 23
How old is your DB?
Yes, it sounds to me like he may just not want to grow up.. mine doesn't want to, either... but he's only 16.. 17 in March, so yeah still kinda young.
i enrolled in counseling today. starts wednesday. no money or alcohol is not a problem. i have no idea when he would have time for another woman and nothing has been makin me question him about it. not sure. i honestly do not think he is ready to grow up. or take responsibility. we got married two years ago been together four. i really think it is his low life friends i know weak excuse but that's when it kinda started. and he is a marine so drugs are a no
Ooohhh.. I don't see them :/
If there are unresolved issues in the past, they do need to be addressed or they will just fester. However, they do not need to be brought up when addressing a current unrelated problem.
I have been following your other posts. It seems like there IS a problem, but he is just being selfish & won't explain. It also seems like the more you ask him, the angrier he gets. I don't think bringing up the issues again are going to help. It seems like you need a more professional approach. Would he be interested in counceling?
I wonder what is problem really is & why he is treating you this way. He is being rude & disrespectful to the both of you as a couple. Could there be any drug / alcohol problems? is money an issue? Another woman? I don't mean to upset you, but it seems like there is something else with him. I don't think the problem is you, its bigger.
Lol. darling boyfriend. there is abbreviations on you'r top left
Oops.
LOL. My name is Amanda, too. My bad, but I'm still sorry about your situation, and would still like to know what DB means?
you'r getting you'r two amanda s mixed up.
Question : What does DB mean?
Anyway, I'm sorry you're going through this... it's horrible that he tells you he's not excited about your baby being born.. that's terrible.
Honestly, I'm not saying he is but I noticed that you mentioned alcohol problems.. are you sure he's quit completely? I mean if he was an angry drinker, then maybe you should look into that.. I'm sorry to hear about all this.
there is no reason for him to even be mad or upset.
sounds like he's freaking out about the baby its pretty stressful for some men to think that now they will be responsible for someone else's life...he'll get over it, but I suggest leave him alonne and stop asking him about this issue until he calms down
yeah. hopefully. at least a girl can wish right. he doesn't think the way he is even treating me is wrong in anyway. it bothers me but what can i do i love the guy. yeah he says he is not excited. and three more months.
He saids hes not excited? that doesnt seem right, cause i knew most of me and DBs fights came from being nervous of the baby, but hes always been excited for him. hes his whole life.. i think his attitude will change when the baby gets here.. how much longer do you got?
I agree that the past is the past and needs to be left in the past. Db always brings up my past.. he hates that ive been with anyone BUT him.. so he thinks i used to be a *****. just cause hes not my only partner. and he talks about it all the time. he saids i shouldnt get mad cause were just talking, but he dont get that I dont wanna talk about it. its uncomfortable and shouldnt matter.
But I know what you mean, i delt with alot, because of love. I still deal with a good amount of BS because i love him and hes the father of my son.. I hope counseling works for you guys, i wish we could go cause we could use it, but DB would never waste money on that and he already pays 40 dollars a week for alcohol counseling.. I think id help alot
i ask him If he is excited for his child to come he says no i ask If he is nervous the response is no. and then says stop askin stupid questions you are makin me madder.
might sound childish and immature. but i am not calling or texting or speaking when he gets home. anytime i say anything i wind up cryin my eyes out because of his responses. when he is ready well talk. counseling starts wed.
the past is the past. it is not necessary bad. but why dwell on the past. and to be honest i have not the slightest clue on what he is blaming me about. but according to him everything is on me. hopefully counseling works. i love him. but this is just too much. and he just started this behavior
She doesnt want to know anything, shes just vent
But yea thats bull, but I know how you feel, sounds like exactly what my DB would do and say.. he always brings up the past... is the past bad? does it hurt your relationship? what is he saying exactly is your fault?
... What are you wanting to know??
i am scheduling a new family and father bonding counseling class. i think he is jealous and scared. maybe it will help