post natal depression

[stephk1994]

Hi I have a question .. I am goin thrpugh post natal depression atm im getting help .. I am on meds and seeing a councellor but im having a hard time adjusting to bein a mom .. I have the perfect life .. a home partner and financially stable so why am I not adjusting to my new lifestyle .. its like I miss my freedom even tho this baby is very much wanted .. hoq did ye ftm start enjoying bein a mom and got used to it ? I love my daughter and this is reli upsetting me .. shes 3 weeks old

[JadeD90]

I completely understand where your coming from x take each day as it comes and things will start to click in to place over time :)  glad your getting the right help and support as that's something I didn't do! Dont pressurise yourself with the word 'perfect' I'm sure your doing a fantastic job regardless of any worries you've got x we're our own worst enemies at times but your not the first mommy to feel this way and you definitely won't be the last. As I say, take each day as it comes and give yourself time, it's still early days and there's still alt of adjusting to do in your head and body with hormones and what not. Keep doing what your doing, you'll be fine:) x

[stephk1994]

Thanks I appreciate ur advise .. its just hard everything shud be perfect and shes growing so quick alredi and I want to enjoy it .. shes my world dont get me wring I suppose the post natal depression doesnt help .. ive had it bad over the past 3 weeks but im getting the help I need ..

[JadeD90]

I had the same feelings with my first.. It took me about 8 months to 'get used to her'.. All she did was sleep or cry at first, it wasn't as much fun as I thought it would be I suppose (as bad as that sounds) I'd feel as though unless she had hurt herself falling down or something then there was no urgency to tend to her needs and I didn't have the patience because I felt as though I was doing everything wrong anyway. But it's a big learning curve, you and baby are learning together. The one thing I will say is not to beat yourself up about it. All these things are made to sound so natural, but they need a little work sometimes. Give yourself time :) you'll warm to baby and when you get more reactions out of her like smiles, giggles and cuddles you'll feel more attached (and kind of appreciated, if that makes sense), I know I did :) my daughter is 5 now and we have the best mommy/daughter relationship :)

I'll also be sure to cherish those early days with baby #2 now I realise I missed out on them with my first - after all, they're not so small for long :(