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1454858 tn?1306784378

sex & pregnancy.

ok I know this is an irrational fear...

Have any of you been afraid to have sex during early pregnancy??  It just seems like that little piece of rice is so fragile...  I know the penis isn't actually near it, but...  I'm thinking crazy here, like an orgasim will shake it loose.  Also if I see a drop of blood from my cervix being sensitive I would worry.  

My husband hasn't toughed me in a couple of weeks.  The other day he said this was why.  At least we were feeling the same way.  I know it is irrational...
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1330108 tn?1333677304
Had a previous miscarriage and wouldn't have sex in the first trimester with this baby. Told my dr I felt that way and he said that is good bc he was going to recommend i didn't have sex.
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1454858 tn?1306784378
I remember having contractions with my daughter (when I had sex with orgasm).

I'm just scared...  only 6 weeks and with a miscarriage last year...  I know if I am going to miscarry, sex isn't going to make it happen.  Oh, I don't know.  I just don't want touched.
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When I was in my first trimester I was afraid to have sex because in the past sex has cause my AF to come early, or come back when I thought it was done. This was probably an unwarranted fear, but we waited until after ~12 weeks just to be safe.

Since then I haven't been afraid and my sex drive has gone way up! It is very healthy to have sex while you are pregnant IF you are not on pelvic rest or high risk, which, as noted, your doctor will tell you. The one thing that really scared me at first is that every time I have an orgasm I have a contraction. This started around 16 weeks, but I have been fine and my doctor said it was normal.

I am 35 weeks now and my sex drive is still really high and I plan on continuing regular sex (2-4 times per week) up until labor. The semen has many benefits including anti-biotics to protect baby while in the womb and it promotes cervical softening in the third trimester which is a natural way to help get labor progressing in a healthy way. Of course there are many things you will change. You have to be a little more gentle and you have to adjust to your changing body. If you find you are not in the mood, like many women, that is normal too. Everyone is different. Good luck.
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964234 tn?1331949207
I had a loss my first pregnancy so my first trimester when I was pregnant with my son we were both on pins and needles on top of me not feeling well.  So, we only had sex maybe once a week.  This continued until I was about 29 weeks and went into preterm labor.  I was put on a no sex/orgasm and bedrest orders.  I was allowed off at 36 weeks and by that point I wanted to have sex to go into labor and my husband didn't want to at all it scared him.  We did maybe once after I was allowed to and it weired him out.  He said he felt like he was going to hit the baby in the head and was scared of my water breaking..lol.  I was scared this was going to be life after baby too.  But, as soon as the baby was out I had to fight him off with a stick to even wait the 6 weeks.  My son is 3 months old now and everything is back to normal (2-4 times per week).  
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1303813 tn?1303159362
I felt this way...But I also had bleedin with this pregnancy too.... So... made it yeah! But we did and harry is fine... has hiccups right now!! But your sex drive either goes UP or DOWN in pregnancy... its perfectly normal... be lucky you aint like me and have it go up.. LOL..

x
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1454858 tn?1306784378
That is exactly how my husband & I feel.  We had a miscarriage last year & feeling like everything is so fragile right now. (I am about 6 weeks)

This is fine with me, since lately I have no desire for him... I just don't want him frustrated with me.  I was also mainly wondering if other women felt this way after a miscarriage....  or am I totally crazy?
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461781 tn?1285609481
On my first healthy pregnancy after my miscarriage we were both pretty scared of having sex at first and then the belly got in the way and then we both felt kinda gross but then we sort of had to do it to try to start labor and that was pretty horrific the pain was unbearable and my husband could barely "go in"

In this pregnancy my hormones are going nuts and I am always wanting it.  My husband is liking it so far, but we'll see once I get a big belly.
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1271927 tn?1310580362
smjmekg - thanks so much for your post! I am so glad to hear this is normal. When people say "not often" that's not specific - thanks for sharing numbers! It makes me feel more normal. Did things pick back up for you after birth (and healing of course) to a more pre-baby range?
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1303813 tn?1303159362
My sex drive actually hasnt changed.... its still high whic does annoy me!! LOL... but im sure when Harry is here.. well it will be non existant. LOL...
But me and John see each other once a week soo... Hmmm...

x
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889551 tn?1416184483
Well, I'm 31 weeks and DH and I have maybe done it 3 or 4 times. It's just not comfortable for me at all. And he claims he can only get the head in because it's so swollen an that it's just not worth it. lol.
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676912 tn?1332812551
Ladies, it's NORMAL for some men to not want to have sex when you're pregnant...DH said it grosses him out.

With my son we barely had sex, when it was 3-4 times a week at least it dropped to once a week, once every couple weeks, not at all...

This time he's been on a sex strike since three months before we started trying, and it's been a constant wonder of mine, and in the last six months it's been maybe five times.

Unfortunately for me, pregnancy make my hormones go the opposite way his do, I'd be happy if it was EVERYDAY! LOL. Oh well, only 7 and a half more weeks and maybe my sex drive will drop after pushing a baby out, lol.
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1271927 tn?1310580362
princess - I am only a tiny bit nervous of sex while preggo and I know dh is too. He is generally having an adversion to me. I don't know if it's because I'm cranky, I've been sick, he has been picking up most the chores lately, he has just been more interested in his cars lately, because we had SO much on-demand-sex before this, or what - but my man doesn't seem interested either.

I know it's not because of size or anything - I am still early on and am not really showing much. Plus, I am not a skinny girl anyways and he's been fine with that for 10 years so far!

Pre baby days we were having sex like 2-3 times per week on average. Durring baby making days (especially last 4-5 months) it was every day or every other day at the least. Since I've been preggo it's like once every 2-3 weeks. I can't stand it!!!!

How have other women sucessfully dealt with this? I am one appt. away from mentioning something to my dr about it!
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1303813 tn?1303159362
Sex is perfectly safe any time during pregnancy, unless you have been bleeding. Or told by your doc you're actually unable to have sex during pregnancy.. (Which has been done.. although this person didnt listen, the result in her one night stand mistake actually left her son disabled)... but your Midwife. OB. or Doc can only say this please dont let that scare you.

I had to explain to John sex was safe, cause he said when I get to like 35 weeks thats it.. cause he is scared he will poke harry in the head!! I had to show him a picture of it...and prove he will not poke Harry in the head! LOL..

If you're scared wait untill you're past 12 weeks. :)

x
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