sex ??

[mamainmay]

My poor husband is so sexually deprived its awful..I'm 36 weeks and I have been so exhausted with a capital E this whole pregnancy..I have given him what I can when I can but it has been a good couple of months since we have done ANYTHING..he says he understands and he's been so amazing taking care of me the whole time..but I know he's so sexually frustrated and I feel awful

I guess I'm just wondering what can I do to have enough energy to give him some..he works all night and sleeps all day so I can't really get anything going until the weekend but I desperately need suggestions of how I can muster up enough energy to entertain him for a little while.

[parkersmommy]

I've never really cared for tying anyone up don't mind a little rough housing but typically prefer to be on the other end of it and I do wake him up but most of the time he still isn't interested lol. I have gained 40lbs though so I get it lol

[MannaFish]

I don't think you know much at all about pregnent woman.  I guess you don't understand that the dicomfort goes further than the bump on our bellies.  It's uncomfortable to painful the have sex when you have a baby pushing on cervix bladder and Colon.  As many woman are constipated with always full bladders intercourse user many disxomforts.  Add heartburn, hemerhoids, gas, and vericose veins(on lower lips), then suggest that its not so bad.  

I just make sure to time sex for after a poop and always before eat or I will throw up. And also yes, it still hurts.  Cervix is sore, veins swell and the clean up takes forever...

[LanesMomma]

I'm with parkersmommy and morrisfamily. I work about 50 hours a week while my bf works no less than 14 hours a day 6 to usually 7 days a week. I understand he's tired but my pregnant brain likes to think its my fault because I'm a whale or even convince myself he must be cheating on me because he used to want it allll the time! It's honestly gotten to be our biggest issue.

[Babyiish]

Parkermommy 
You could say I'm pretty open minded...
I like all possitions but it don't feel the same when your pregnant......plus I feel that me on top is safer and is easier to orgasm.... =)
Hey parkermommy I think you should wake up early in the morning and surprise your men...
Maybe you could tie him up and take advantage ...lol

[lilpollywog]

At 36 weeks, sex might could help spur delivery a little faster.  My doc gave me the ok as of yesterday so i told my hubby to be prepared nightly.  Lol.  I'm sick of feeling miserable and exhausted, but i can roll over if it means a week or so less of this.  Haha

[parkersmommy]

Babyish you know what you should try if you don't want him on top or feel like being on top is spooning I know some women don't like doggy but if you lay on your side with him behind you it's not bad

[louieforlaughs]

personally, since you are wanting to, i would just start no matter how tired i was. i find that even when i'm super tired and he gets me all worked up i muster the energy and have a great time, no matter how tired i was to begin with.  doing it just after you wake up is also a great idea. you are going to be tired for a long time anyway so might as well get comfortable functioning with little energy now.  
best of luck!

[Morrisfamily2012]

Parkersmommy I am so with you. I asked him if it was cause i'm fat. We are unsecure enough being pregnant without a man not wanting you. Lol. He tells me I am perfect that he is just worn out.  Then when he does want it i've had a long day and am too worn out. It has been very frustrating. But it's amazing when we both find the time for each other.

[Babyiish]

Hey ... I'm 33w 4d
...I have back and rib pain only when I stand for a long time...so
By the time my husband gets home from work I feel tired...And don't feel like doing much...
..I don't feel comfortable with him on top....My belly always get in the way...so the only ways is me doing all the work.   My husband won't take no for an answer he don't force me but he keeps insisting by hugging, kissing, and cuddling untill I give in... Don't have any pain during or after sex... I just need to get in the mood because I don't feel attractive now that I'm pregnant... =( lol
Sex is great stress reliever specially when your pregnant..
I highly recommend sex... For depression, anxiety, and stress...lol

[Riot_Queen]

I've been having probs with fatigue this pregnancy too. I hate to say it but my sex drive has dropped to almost nothing the past couple months. But I know he has needs as well as I do, so I let him do his thing and put on a show for him if I'm really not in the mood. Also, I'm sorry if this is TMI for y'all, and I dunno what type of intimate relationship you and your guy have, but if I'm absolutely just way too tired to do anything for him- you can always just strip down and lay there for him while he fixes himself. At least he's not sneaking and fixing himself to porn- y'know? I'll do that for my husband sometimes. Gives him something to look at n grab n it saves me from having to do anything. lol. Some people use pornographic films to get things going. Dunno if that's an option for you- I'm pretty open to stuff so I guess it wouldn't bother me. My husband knows how to push my buttons though so 75% of the time he knows how to get me to play along. lol. I know a little oral on me gets me in the mood pretty fast- so tell your man he needs to give a little to get a little. lol

[smiley_one]

Last time me and my fiance tried to have sex, well it's more him rubbing himself on me because it's too painful for actual sex, the baby would not stop moving at all. I swear it was like she was saying "get off my mommy!!". I couldn't help but laugh about it lol. Your comment made me think of that and I felt like I needed to share lol.

[jdreyn]

I'm with parkersmommy. I want sex all the time & my hubby is like " I don't want to hurt the baby " it extremely annoying! And if he feels the baby move before hand, then, its a deffinently a no!

[vicki23]

Get them a playstation soon forget about sex I'm off it a lot and only 10week pregnant feel sorry for my bf

[parkersmommy]

Oh my god I have the exact opposite problem. I am 33w3d and I want sex allllllllllll the time but my old man does not ever want to have it. He even gets the bl*#jobs regularly but he's just not into it! It is the worst

[Helenk38]

Same here, so not into it since I got pregnant.
First couple of months was due to all the symptoms and lately I just don't have the energy.
Plus all the anxiety of being a FTM. I do feel really bad for my poor hubby, special since some of his female friends told him how they were really into sex at some point of their pregnancy. I think he was looking forward to that, well it haven't happen yet. I apology for it and he told me he understand that I got a lot going on. He's just happy me and the baby is doing fine so a couple of months without sex it's not a big deal.
Ya, I good a good hubby too ^_^

[mamainmay]

Lookingfortheone..he is a great guy! Don't let a woman tear you to pieces..Communication is key to any relationship..just keep your head up and everything will work out!

[TxMamma]

Omg try doing it when you have TMJ plus being preg and feeling like crap. Not happening. Luckily my hubby doesn't need much pun tang so I only put out when I want. How about a hand job as an alternative?

[lookingfortheone]

He sounds like a really great Guy. I am very demanding in the bedroom, but I think I would still be happy if I was with an amazing woman. You must be a really amazing woman :D. I am so jealous of you guys :(

meanwhile I am ridding an emotional roller coaster with a woman that is tearing me to itty bitty pieces.

[mamainmay]

Lol you guys are hilarious! Lookingfortheone its not as easy as it looks..it takes some effort to get it just right..lol! Mrssandefur since he works at night I can't sleep so we both sleep pretty much all day until he has to get up for work..but I guess I could wake him up a little early.  Tmmooreusmc yes he has been absolutely amazing..he works 10.hours a day and comes home and if I need anything he does it! I guess I just desperately wanna give back a little if ya know what I mean!! Thanks everyone for the advice!!

[mandamouse21]

I have not been in the mood for sex since I got prego ffor the most part. I know tmi but I bought my fiance a pocket *****,seems to work pretty well. He don't complain

[lookingfortheone]

Well I never said it was easy. As a man i do enjoy that. However...

Why cant he spoon with her, and have sex sidways. I am sure she would not have to move much and it could be just as good.

I have done this before with a girl. She wasnt pregnant, but it was still pretty amazing.

[smiley_one]

I can count on one hand how many time me and my fiance have had sex lol. But I do have to admit a ** will ease them for a while lol. I can't lay down or bend to where I give it to him, so we tried it with me laying down and him on top, and it was so much easier lol!!!! I barely had to do anything, I know makes me sound lazy, but my fiance loves being in control and with him on top like that it gave him the control. Plus you can position your hand and arms to control how far they try go and if you need a breather just simply push him off. I know that was TMI, but it helped calm my fiance's urges without hurting my lady parts lol.

[mrssandefur]

Giving a ** is the most aggravating thing ESP when you have a huge belly and you can't get comfortable. You don't wanna bob your head around and you sure don't wanna donut for 45 minutes straight. And it makes your jaw.sore. ugh!
Try getting some lubrication (water based of course) and try using your hand lol. I have.no.idea I am in the mood often enough for.my husband. Not as.much as he'd like but enough where.he isn't going crazy sonic haven't had to.encounter this.

[lookingfortheone]

Um No I never tried that. Something about a BLANK in my BLANK doesnt really do it for me.

LOL