tubes tied and just found out im pregnant...

[mellowyellowsevenup]

i have had my tubes tied for nine years now. i missed my pierod this month but thats not unusual. what i actually went into the hospital was i had bronchities in june, and im still coughing. so i went in on july 21st and they did a pregnancy test which came out positive, my hcg level was 250 on weds. and on saturday it was 600. the doc did a US and he seen nothing anywhere. the cervix was closed, but no baby anywhere was it to early?? plus i have this thing dark brown fluid that comes out. from the beginning of the day to the end of the day its about less then dime size....i dont know whats going on. im scared out of my mind....can someone please help. the specialist even said...its up to my body...what does that mean??

[Avanaar]

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss.  I had a missed miscarriage at the end of January and had a D&C a few days later.  Thankfully, I didn't have much physical pain, however, the emotional pain still catches up with me.

After the surgery (when it was 'ok' to resume sexual activity), I was moreso afraid to have sex because I didn't want to get pregnant and lose the baby again.  But at the same time I *wanted* to be pregnant again!  It was quite an emotional dilemma.  Hubby also was afraid of getting me pregnant, so our sex life did take a bit of a dip.

It was already a 'miracle' that you were able to get pregnant with your tubes tied.  I do wish it had worked out, and I'm sorry it caused you so much physical and emotional pain.  I would never wish a miscarriage on anyone.  But one thing my hubby told me that always gives me strength is this:  You cannot live in fear of what 'could be' because you shouldn't be afraid of something that may never happen.  Live in the moment, in the day and be thankful for all the good things in your life.

I am so glad that I am not living every day of my current pregnancy wondering if this baby will pass on too.  I'm not telling you not to grieve or worry ...that's only natural.  But don't let it consume you.

As for having another child, there are ways to have tubals reversed.  Speak with your husband about having one more child, and see what his opinion is.  If he is in agreement, go to your doctor and discuss your options.  I wish you and your family lots of luck!!

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I wish I knew the answer to your question, but I really don't.  You may want to post this on the fertility forum also.  There is one here on MedHelp.

[mellowyellowsevenup]

after all the mess, im now healing nicely. but i do have a question. since my tubes are tied and i do have the biggest urge to have a baby now. . and since they removed my tube anyway. what would my options be? would i have to go with IVF? or is there any other method....i have never wanted anything so much in my life.. but im so scared of have sex with my hubby now (not that i would so soon after my surgery) but im scared for future intimacy. it was so painful for me and the most horriable traumatizing experience i have ever went through. anyway. if anyone would throw in there two cents on what my options would be. and what the cost would be, your help would be greatly appreciated again.....

[Rosa20]

hunny im so sorry you had to go through all that...misscarriages can make you and emotional mess trust me when i had my misscarriage i was the same way...i couldnt stop crying and i couldnt sit for more then ten mins...i couldnt sleep i eventually had to go to doc to get some sleeping pills....i was getting even more upset and ancy becasue i couldnt sleep...once i got sleep i felt ten times better!! Are you sleeping ok?? you probably have alot racing through your head i know how hard it must be to think you cant have kids then get pregnant and thinkits a miracle....then have that happen...honey you are in my thoughts and prayers....as far as the pain is..i never had any..but all i had was a dnc i never had my tube removed but i imagine it must hurt a bunch!! If your worried you should call your doctor for some awnsers....im sure they will be more then happy to awnser any questions you have!! Again hunny im sorry...i hope you feel better soon and if you need someone to talk to then you can pm me if you like!!

[mellowyellowsevenup]

its been five days since i had my D&C and tube removal. is it spose to hurt this bad? omg. its like massive period cramps. the docter gave me darvocet. .. . the only thing is i dont like to take them because they make me feel wierd. how long does it take before i feel normal. my emotions are running wild to i noticed. i cry alot, then i get normal, and then i cry again. i have been resting all week. i felt a little better yesterday. eneough to step outside. then i came back in.

[Becky30]

I'm so sorry for all you've just gone through.  Sometimes we end up with more questions than answers, but what God spoke to you in that office, "I am with thee," is still true.  I'm lifting you up to Him this moment.

[JoyRenee]

Oh honey I'm SO SO sorry!!!

If you need help or encouragement we also have a miscarriage forum at:

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/show/283?camp=msc

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I just wanted to tell you how very sorry I am to hear this.  I wish I had the right words.  I just want you to know that you are in my thoughts and my prayers.

[mellowyellowsevenup]

i started having pain on my right side so i went into the hospital. and they had to do a D & C...thats such a ugly word.....but the baby was growing into the tube . the egg was growing with a bubble of blood,and causing the bleeding which i was having but all togeather its something that i hope no mother has to go through. the pain was horriable, and afterwards, is the hardest dealing with what just happened to my body. and emotionally hard. i thank you for all your prayers and encouragement. you all gave me hope spiritually and emotionally. this i thank you for.

[JoyRenee]

Is the baby in your tube? He would've been able to see SOMETHING by now. You can see an embryo/sac at HCG levels of 1200 or more. Check out misdiagnosedmiscarriage (dot) com.

I really hope you get answers soon! Maybe you could ask for a second opinion or go to a doctor with a VERY high tech sonogram machine.

[mellowyellowsevenup]

my appointment today my hcg level was 3000, still no baby in the uterus. its still closed. is it to early yet? the specialist said he could give me a shot of methotrexin or something like that which would cause me to stop "growing the cells" and i would naturally abort. i dont want to do that. i dont want to be responsible for ending a life that is trying to start. but he also said if it were in my tubes, because my tubes are tied then he's known of tubals going only as far as 5000. so.....i dont know what to do. i cried so hard today. i want this baby so much, i felt like i was slapped in the face, cause EVERYWHERE we went to day..pregnant smiling happy women, big bellys, or women holding new babies. babies crying.....i just broke down and i lost my senses there for a few minutes...people probably thought i was wierd.....i just feel so alone, so lost, i dont have any idea what to do. i have never cried so much or prayed so much.....someone...please..please. help me.........

[jesslee83]

well that's awesome!     i wish you a happy and healthy 9 months, and look forward to hearing from you more!!!

how many children do you have?

[BabyHardiman]

God whispers, you just have to be listening to hear it.

Congrats!

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I am so happy for you!!  Yes this baby happened for a reason and yes God is with you.  That is just the coolest story.  I know you are scared but just have faith.  I love the part of your story about reading that scripture also.  That is really neat :)  God was speaking to you!!

[abbysmommy4]

Congrats on your pg.  The brown spotting can be normal, i had it in the begining with this pg, only when I wiped. I am now almost 21 weeks.  And yes, God is with you and He knows the plan better than we do.  I will keep you in my prayers.

[mellowyellowsevenup]

i went in for another US. it looks like it "progressing"...which i pray to god it is....because on that thursday my hcg was 250, on saturday it was 600, on monday it was 1200...and yes i know this is truly a gift from god. im just scared to death because i have brownish discharge, it dosnt come out and i dont notice it until i go to the bathroom to wipe, (sorry but i think it's gross, and i should be telling you) but im so worried, i actually think i found my "spiritual awakening", is that possible?? because the specialist told me "not to eat or drink anything after 12" just in case i might have to have a D & C...i was so terrified i cried and stayed up all night the night before...so i went in and did my hcg test saturday and i couldnt keep a train of thought, my mind was racing, i was going to panic, and i leaned over and i picked up a magazine, and i randomly opened it and i just read anywhere, and i just happened to read a passage by isiah 41:10. "do no be afraid, for i am with thee".....i instantly felt calm, i just wanted to cry...but please pray for me.....please

[martikadragoon]

Just so you know levels must be at LEAST 2000 or more for a U/S to show anything and ususally it's gotta be even higher.

Go back in a couple weeks to a month for another U/S and they should be able to tell you if they see anything.

CONGRATS on getting pregnant!! You know that this baby is MEANT to be here. :)

[BTS1022]

I am sorta in the same situation, except mine isn't with having my tubes tied. Hubby had a vesectomy and I was on depo provera(birth control shot) and I ended up getting pregnant. The lord works in mysterious ways, and you can say that you are having a miracle child. I know my baby is my miracle baby, and that the lord gave him to me for a reason!

Good luck and I hope everything works out in the end

[jesslee83]

God does the STRAAANGEST things.....in a few weeks they may set you up for your first u/s....but don't freak out if nothing is found, sometimes it takes a little longer....being you're tubes r tied, i'm assuming you have children, so you know what i mean.....i'd def say, when everything works out, congrats! i know it's stressful, but i love thinking that children born after mom and dad say "no more" have a special purpose here with us!!!!!

[Cheesecake7]

Im sorry that you are going through such a stressfull situation. I cant tell you exactly what is going on, but I can tell you that with hcg levels at 600 it is likely way too early to see anything on the ultrasound.  My doctor couldnt even see a sac until 5 1/2 weeks and by then my levels were in the 10's of thousands.  Your hcg levels should double every 2-3 days in a healthy pregnancy, and yours did.  At this point I would say it sounds like there is a good possibility that there is a healthy baby in there and it is way too early to see anything on the ultrasound, way to early. You are still early in pregnancy, so there are no guarantees, but I hope that everything works out in a way that brings you peace and happiness.