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[isitunusual]

So, I've gone to the dr's and they say, no fetal pole but I am prego.  I've gone in the begining of the month to the er, because I have been spotting and their ultrasound said 6 wks. Although, current doc says, they may have only seen the sac, not the fetal pole, so that the size of the sac was the suggested time frame of how far they determined I was.  I don't know... I'm thinking of getting a second opinion.  I'm sure the doc knows what they're talking about, but I just didn't appreciate the fact that when I was informed that it's an abnormal prego and I asked what exactly is it that they're trying to say, they said, (like we were also playing pictionary), "I will spell it out, and write it down for you, so when you get home, you can google it." I was in so much shock of what he was telling me, because otherwise, I would've flipped out.  I'm not dumb, I know what abonormal means... I had to ask, one question at a time, so what are you telling me... and they just kept telling me the same thing, the pictionary part of it, then after I asked.  they say I'm prego, they see no fetal pole and so I asked, I'm prego, but you see no baby. they said yes. I asked does that mean I may have had a miscarrage? they say yes. I'm sorry for your loss.  So, for me, for a doc to tell me, they'll write it down and spell it out for me to go home and google it, instead of clarifying my question just made me question this doc.  I don't think this is just me... I think I have a good reason to question this doc?

[isitunusual]

I'm sure it will turn out well. Every situation is different. this would've been my 3rd,  unfortunately, as far as for myself, I guess it just wasn't to be. with my first, I spotted, but for only a few days and they were light. i thought this situation was going to be the same so I really didn't put too much thought into it. Well, thank you for your thoughts and I'm sure everything will be well for you and your family.

[brose374]

Well I've researched so much my head hurts and yes it's all very confusing. But I believe everyone is different and even though I feel it's possible I'm going to miscarry that everything points to it could be fine. I started cramping pretty bad yesterday almost like I was going to start but then it went away. No heavy bleeding no back pain like everyone says they felt so who knows!!!

[isitunusual]

What a mistake I made its the other way around  with my hcg. thats why its so confusing.

[isitunusual]

Thanks for the response.  One other thing... when I was informed that I was about 6 wks, which was on the 10, I would be about 8 1/2 wks along by now. I've been spotting for this entire month though... I'm thinking to myself that maybe this is a loss? But I've read on other posts that it's common to spot for the first trimester. Geez... So confusing... I've had an HCG and the first results came back at about 1500 and the other day came back at about 990... so does this mean I'm more likely not going to carry through? You know, I asked the doc this and they say that if I wasn't prego that I should be at 3000 or so, but instead my HCG has dropped. I am so confused.  They gave me the choices of those results of what I can do.  I'm unsure of their answers.  I can't do anything until Tue to get a second opinion and I'm thinking to myself, is it necessary... I'll keep you posted.

[brose374]

I saw my dr at what I thought was 8 weeks for light pink spotting sent for hcg came back 47000 sent for ultrasound to be sure everything was ok. Ultrasound tech treated us the same way the er did you. I spoke to my dr and he said I am measuring 5 weeks 4 days and it's ok not to see much at that stage that we will rescan in ten days and see if any change. I trust my dr and he says don't panick! So go get second opinion for sure! Keep me posted and best wishes.