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so. he got off work and came home. i asked hubs what plans there was for his dumb friends birthday he mostly said a bar. and that he didn't need me to pick him up and etc. i said okay. how are you gettin home. he said taxi. i said i will just get you. so has always he started the argument about me getting mad about him not wanting me to pick him up. but i wasn't mad. so needless to say he is getting ready to Go out. and here i sit. marriage. maybe i am just jealous. or maybe for the first time in my life i am insecure. just weird. any suggestions or advice from you wonderful ladies
it is so good im telling you and the girls and guys there are going through the same thing you ladies are! The guys have to do challenges and even clean with pg suits on LOL very funny when they start whining about their backs hurting!
it is called they need a reality check. and need to grow up. i am having a serious talk with him tomorrow. when he is not sick. ha. this is coming to Hault. and time is now i have DELT with it for twenty five weeks it will no longer Go on. never seen the dad camp show though.
You and your DH need to watch Dad Camp show on VH1 all the episodes are there! The guys there thought the same thing and they made them get a wake up call on how their women are really feeling and what they are going through and that just cus the baby hasnt arrived in NOT an excuse to pardy hardy! It was an awesome show i aint got kids but i couldnt stop watching it i was up all nite watch the episodes!
I can totally relate....I am 38 weeks and he thinks he has until the baby comes to be his "old" self. It's really hard because we are married and none of his friends are so it just makes everything worse. He doesn't get that I need him esp. now even if it's just to sit beside me. There is a big change coming up in both our lives and I am about to go through a big thing by having a baby so yeah I need him with me and not his friends. We actually had this conversation last night because he choose to go with his friends instead of following through with our plans. Don't get me wrong I am not saying he shouldn't see them BUT he broke plans with me. He didn't see the problem because he just went over to his friends house and they didn't go out of anything just drank at home. I left him do what he wanted these last 38 weeks without complaining (although I wanted to). Yeah well men it must be nice to not have responsibilities when we are pregnant. I asked him how he thought I felt over these last few months not being able to do the things I wanted to do and being uncomfortable. He really had nothing to say to that one!!!! It's easy to get jealous because we have given up everything from the day we found out we were pregnant (or before if you were trying like myself). I don't know how to tell you to handle it but you seem to be doing better than I would. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and I hope he grows up soon for your sake.
If my dh stayed out till 3 am...well he'd be spending some thinking time at his mother's house...not ours.
yes seriously. I'm not saying that men shouldn't go out sometimes.... Men need their own friends too, but If his woman is not allowed to go pick him up??? I say why??? and 3 am? time to grow up. He has You girl!!! that should be way better. You don't have to settle.
TOTALLY HAVE TO AGREE WITH YOU!! Something is up my X did this crap to me all the time! Never came home never spent time with me i paid all the bills and i made the choice I wasnt going to live like a single person with a sometimes roommate! I packed my crap and left! It was the best decision ever! i met a wonderful guy and now we're married! He never leaves me home alone we spend time together when we can and arent working he gave up his party days once we got married! and hes always been there for me!
I dont know how or why women put up with men who that junk! It's redicioulus all of my X's sisters did it for their husbands and when we went out of town to visit them he wanted to go party and get high with them all while they left us women at home to do whatever! after 4 yrs of it I was beyond frustrated!
I dont know how or why women put up with men who that junk! It's redicioulus all of my X's sisters did it for their husbands and when we went out of town to visit them he wanted to go party and get high with them all while they left us women at home to do whatever! after 4 yrs of it I was beyond frustrated!
don't get me wrong... men can get drunk & it is fine (sometimes) boys will be boys.. but if you CAN"T be included on what is going on, the is something wrong.
it all seems shady, like he was hiding something from you. What was it that you couldn't pick him up?? I don't mean to get you all worked up. I'm sorry. My ex was a lying, cheating, selfish *******. I hope this is not the case for you.
my now husband is so wonderful. I know it is just not that the newness hasn't worn off, as we have been together for a few years. Men CAN be wonderful. You don't deserve to be treated like this. Tell him to grow up or get out! You deserve better. sorr, I guess I shouldn't be telling you what to do. it just a shame, there you are up & worried, pregnant... Wtf? What is he hiding?
my now husband is so wonderful. I know it is just not that the newness hasn't worn off, as we have been together for a few years. Men CAN be wonderful. You don't deserve to be treated like this. Tell him to grow up or get out! You deserve better. sorr, I guess I shouldn't be telling you what to do. it just a shame, there you are up & worried, pregnant... Wtf? What is he hiding?
he woke up and told me. sounded pretty lame. and he is a hung over bird today and i have not a ounce of pity for him
Sounds like he got alil carried away.. id be waking him up and demanding to hear everything that happened.. Thats what i did when my DB was going out all the time
Going out with your friends on occaisson even as a father to be and father is okay. But if it is happening often, it has to stop. Plus, there is responsible going out vs. problematic going out. Throwing up the next day is not being responsible.
nope he is still asleep. he got up a few times to throw up. but i will wait to hear everything when he is awake. my point is. he is not a single man anymore like his friends. he has responsibility and a wife and baby on way. it is time to grow up
I know that being pregnant you have a ton of insecurity issues, I know I do. But it seems like your husband just doesn't want to be treated like a child being picked up by his mother/wife. Sometimes we do treat our husbands like our children and we need to let go and let them make their own choices and have their own consequences. For us if our husbads treated us that way we would feel sort of cared for. But for them they feel less of a man and they feel like you dont trust them and maybe you don't but you have to pretend like you do trust him. And if there is something that he does that it is worthy of not trusting him you will find out soon enough....you always do, they are really dumb sometimes.
This sounds exactly like my DB, before his 2nd DUI... All he did was go party and drink, he never spent anytime with us. and he wouldnt come home till morning, and he was calling into work the next morning, and spending all of our money. Now he has no license, no vehicle. and two DUI's on his record. he hasnt drank if over 3 months and we actually have money, and he spends all his time with our son now. It does bother me that it took this for him to straighten up.
When i wa pregnant, DB used to have me drive him to bars and hang out while everyone was drinking and smoking. and then drive him and his friends home all hours of the night, pulling over every 10 minutes for someone to throw up.. so Id be very thankful that he was considerate in not wanting you to get out of bed to go get him.
So he got home at 3:20am and just went to bed. have you talked to him yet?
When i wa pregnant, DB used to have me drive him to bars and hang out while everyone was drinking and smoking. and then drive him and his friends home all hours of the night, pulling over every 10 minutes for someone to throw up.. so Id be very thankful that he was considerate in not wanting you to get out of bed to go get him.
So he got home at 3:20am and just went to bed. have you talked to him yet?
thanks girl. i am watching a scary movie with my puppy. yeah. what we do for love right. i just do not understand. and why would he do this we me being pregnant.
Not fun.... All you can really do is try and relax as stated above.... Some men never grow up tho.... I have Bern with mine for 6 years and have a 4 year old autistic son and I'm 25 weeks preg and he hangs with friends everynight and gets high.... And when he works night shift where he get off work at 330 in the morning he goes to the casino till 6/7 in the morning and then sleeps all day and then barley sees Hayden and my other son and then goes to work and then the cycle repeats..... So I am pretty much always stressed and mad.... He never watches the kids so I can have a couple hours to relax..... I can't even go to a hair salon.... Ridiculous I hate men.... But from expearience they are all pretty much the same so I just deal with it and pratically live like a single mom with a "roomate" lol you should call some of your friends and have a bit of a girls night or watch a movie and pass out.... Try not to let it bother you too much or it will drive you crazy :)
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