want to go natural

[immediatelyinlove]

this will be my first baby and I know I've wanted to go through my pregnancy with little drug interference.. so I told my bfs mom that I wanted a natural birth (cuz she's my birth coach) and she keeps saying your gonna want the drugs.. It really irritates me that she doubts my strength!! yes I haven't been through this before but its my body not hers

[doulamommy]

Be prepared for it! Read stories (yes even the horrible scary ones) and prepare your mind for every possibility. I had a dear friend that decided to have a natural birth. After close to thirty hours of active labor (and going on two days with no sleep) she decided to get an epidural. It relaxed her enough to sleep for an hour and she only pushed for five or ten minutes. (She'd been attempting to push for about four hours, but she was so exhausted it wasn't doing much).
Natural is great! It's the best for you and baby, usually. I'm sure if my friend had delivered with an OBGYN instead of a midwife she'd have been taken to surgery hours before her little one was born vaginally. The epidural actually helped her. Minds open. But remember that the pain of labor is natural and helpful, and only in rare cases too hard to handle.

[immediatelyinlove]

well if contractions are anything like period cramps I can definitely deal with that

[jessa1990]

I'm a ftm and wanting 100% natural and my Mom is doing the same to me I have my boyfriend but his job is a few hours away so if I go into labor my mom's  going to be there until he can get there  with me she wants me to get the epidural and to try to get induced so we can know when I'm going and my boyfriend can be there from the start she wants me to use formula and I plan on breastfeeding you just have to put your foot down and let her know its your choice and she should respect how you feel and want to do things I've warned my mom I love her but if she starts at the hospital on the epidural issue I don't care if I'm by myself until he can get there I will have her removed from my room

[bebe5709]

I want to go natural as well. I am keeping an open mind though, especially since I think my boy is going to be very big :)

[calesha]

Im 19 and also having mine all natural. Water birth in a birthing center.

[MizzLala7777]

Hey girly Im here to tell you that the mind state your in to want to go natural is beautiful. I know your strong. Everybody isnt the same but I can tell me and you are similar. The first child I allowed both gramas in although I really wanted to just be me n hubby. The other times I stood my ground and allowed no one but hubby in. I have a total of 4 babies and 1 due in june. I had all of them natural. No pills, no shots, no nothing. 100% natural. I always weighed 120-150 small structured body. Strong minded.Willing to prove to myself that in nature this is natural. Hubby and breathing in my nose and out my mouth were my pain relievers. The worst part to me was the contractions. Pushing wasnt a problem at all. We can so handle this. Thats why I have 4 and one on way. Its ok. Be strong and breath. Close your eyes and remember it will be over and youll be holding your babe soon. To add to all of this two of my children are twins and I pushed both of them out back to back. 3 mins apart. Naturally!!! The doctors were amazed. They continued to ask me if I wanted pain relievers but I kept refusing. They told me to be prepared for a csection also bcuz they were twins. I refused also. Its your body and your baby. Stand your grown big mama. You can do it. Oh an 1 more thing I had my first at 18. I am now 23. I recovered quickly after all the births. My womanhood was back to normal. I did tear but they stitched me up with no problem. Thats when I got the numbing shot. After the birth. Not even 2 months later I was fully healed. Its what our bodies are made for. We can do it. Dont let this new world and technology and followers make you feel weak or make you second guess yourself. You can do it. I promise you. I believe in you. Dont give up. If you have any questions or concerns or anything. I wont judge you. Heres my email ***@**** CONGRATULATIONS ON BEING A STRONG MOMMY!!!

[immediatelyinlove]

maybe I should do it by myself anyway..I hate asking for help

[doulamommy]

You can do it. In rare cases epidurals are godsent! Cases such as when a mother has been laboring a very long time and is unable to rest between, an abnormally painful labor (spd can sometimes cause this, as can pre-existing back issues), and cases where surgery ends up being needed.
But women have birthed naturally for all of time! I'd be lying if I said it didn't hurt or that it's not so bad. Truth be told, contractions are rough! Delivery is hard! But you CAN do it!

[hlr13]

If people arent supportive of your birthing preferences DONT let them in the room. We are having our second child and chose to do hypnobirthing.  We are so happy and so excited to have an all natural and drug free birth.

[immediatelyinlove]

I'd rather have mine at the hospital just in case something bad happens...and y'all are right I just need to ignore these people telling me I can't do.it!!

[Kolina24]

I'm going all natural lol but I am also having a home birth

[MamaJanes14]

I have the same issue! I feel like no one believes in me except my fiancee. He stated it like this, women did it for years without drugs AT ALL, you can do it too. You're just as strong.

[Rockagil]

I'm actually going to try for all natural as well and I do have the support my mom she even said try not to get the drugs be strong . She went through it four times with us and all four Girls . Stay Strong, Positive , Focus  And Wish Us Luck !! Haha

[MrsKWhite4eva]

U will forget all about that once you hold your
little cutie pie and then you will realize the pain was worth it...

[immediatelyinlove]

thank you for the support ladies!! I'm also worried about the complications that the pain brings

[MrsKWhite4eva]

Thats true @moonlily1...if u have your mind made up then u can do it..we are all strong women..our bodies were made for this..be strong....u can do it trust me..it is worth it..

[moonlily1]

Its different for everyone some can do all natural and some cant but we all are still the same strong a**women for handling it in which ever way we choose too i myself want an all natural birth as well and its painful but believe me once you hold your baby you forget the pain well thats how it was with my daughter but this time it might be a lot worse because my first was a preterm baby any who good luck mommy

[MrsKWhite4eva]

My first baby i got an epidural and it was smooth sailing from there...but I had my daughter natural and it wasnt that bad actually...but this time bring on the epidural lol...

[GeekMom1213]

If she's not going to have faith in you and support you in your decisions about how you want this birth to go then maybe you should look for someone else to be your birth coach. Tell her that you won't allow that kind of negativity in the delivery room and that if she doesn't think you can handle it you'll find someone who respects you enough to believe you can do whatever you put your mind to. She'll either shut up and start to trust you to make your own decisions or she won't - and it's better to know now rather than when you're in active labor.
You can absolutely do it. Be stubborn, be strong. Make sure you know what transition is gonna be like before you get there - that's the worst part and nobody warns you about it in advance. You can get through it much better if you know it's coming!

[LadyBeeley]

I JUST did yesterday lol. I can tell you with pitocin they say youre more likely to want the epidural bc it makes your contractions much worse. By the time I was at 8cm I was sitting on the edge of the bed shaking sooo bad sobbing, barely able to breathe and my bf rubbing my back and kissing my forehead telling me it was ok. And thats before the contractions were straight up one after the other and hunched over, pushing with two hands stretching my vagina to guide my daughters head. Its horrible. But as soon as they put her on my chest.... I know I had pain I just dont remember the pain itself. Be ready to stand your ground and just tell people who doubt you that you need their support not their opinion. The nurses were so used to starting epidurals they already had the anesthesiologist down in my room and rubbing my back before I could ask who it was. Good luck momma, you CAN do it.