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who had these signs bb4 their missd period?:/

im due for my period n 4 days. Past week or more i have had lower light belly cramps right above the pubic line, past about 3-4 days my breaste have grown n become very sore, i have only felt sick a few times n got sick once. 2 days ago  i became constipated and about  3-4 days ago gas startd.
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1072295 tn?1255449536
ok lol i pm'd u back
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145992 tn?1341345074
She is here, see post right underneath...she realizes she wasn't so nice and asked for more advice.  I just sent you a pm.  I understand you relating to someone, I think we all have been in a place where we can relate.  I don't blame you for defending her, but things that she said that were really offensive to one poster were deleted.  It wasn't necessary and that's why people said what they said.  It wasn't to hurt her, they were just trying to give her some advice since she's trying to get pregnant by her ex-boyfriend.  All the girl said to her was maybe you should wait since you aren't with him anymore and gave her own experience and the girl lashed out.  Again, those posts were deleted.  I have no argument with you, I actually admire the fact that you came to her defense.  I just wanted you to know why the post got the way it did.
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1072295 tn?1255449536
well seems how i can relate to the girl and am not bashing her i feel i can post here, so taking my own advise,yeah that makes sence!  i am not making the comments i am answering comments left here by ppl seems how u have all scared this girl off, and shes not here to defend herself. anyway stick to what u know
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145992 tn?1341345074
Posts were deleted, you came on late in the game.  She was extremely rude to someone prior to the comments we made, that's why the post got the way it did.  I thought I had stated that before.  You keep bringing the post back to the top because you keep making the comments.  It had already died but your latest responses has put it back on the board.  Maybe you should take your own advice.
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1072295 tn?1255449536
of corse she got defensive,like i said,if you read it all youd see why...your right to not waste any more time on it.if you cant cant help,give support or advise then you shouldnt answer the post.
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1194973 tn?1385503904
I'm not even wasting more time on this. You can keep defending it for her. Point is, anyone can believe what they want. What I posted is what I saw and read. People only asked a few questions. She got defensive and went about it wrong. In the end, it doesn't really matter.
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1072295 tn?1255449536
well if you read from the first post witch i did, i dont see her being rude, i see ppl getting at her for her age and because she minds kids.thats where i see it starting,and her standing up for herself. read it through. and i cant see how ppl were  helping,i can only see judging, and yes im getting at the age thing because thats what most ppls problem seems to be.would there realy be comments like that if she was 29 or 30, dont think so.
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1194973 tn?1385503904
Age doesn't mean anything. It's all you seem to get at. Her being so rude to people only trying to help is what got to a lot.

And as I said in a last post. She can be mature. She doesn't seem it.
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1072295 tn?1255449536
well nobody can sum up this girl because of a comment she made.she is only 18 but could be a very mature 18 year old who got affensive for whatever reason,but you dont know her so cannot judge her. getting back to the piont,she is welcome to post here,pregnant or not, ttc or not,or just questions about pregnancy.. so if ppl can just stop judging other ppl,either give support or not,regardless of age. she did not come on asking opinions on whether or not she should get pregnant.everyone has a diffrent opinion that should be kept to themselves unless there asked for it.just to remind ppl,she came on asking about symtoms of pregnancy,and it ended up a debate on whether she should have a baby or not.its her chioce if she gets pregnant or not,its nothing to do with anyone else,now if she comes back and asks if she should get pregnant then by all means beat her down with those nasty brushes some of u seem to hold. but until then,stick to the question that was asked and hold your negitive comments.
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1194973 tn?1385503904
Haha. There's the few...but most grow up thinking they knew everything. I know I was one of them.
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145992 tn?1341345074
What teenager thinks that they don't know it all?....lol.  
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1194973 tn?1385503904
Age can be a factor. Maturity can too. She's showing hers to be far below that of someone who can care for a child, and do it well. Of course, defensivness will take over when you think you're being attacked. But you can't assume that because you can babysit and family says they will take care of you that you can be a single mother. The father says he will help. How many other dads say the same thing? How many bolt at the first chance they get. Is she considering all the possibities and what if's? It's selfish and she should consider the life her child would get instead of what she imagines it could get.

Now. By all means it can be done. It happens everyday. This is just what I get from reading the comments I've seen posted and reactions to them. No one can change anyone's mind once it's set, but you can hope they might try to at least see where they are coming from instead of insulting the people who try to help.
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1072295 tn?1255449536
yes it is realy hard to raise a child,not been able to go out with ur friends,you cant just get up in the morning and go bc you have to feed and change and dress the baby,you have to bring the child every where with you,and then the money issue,besides all the obvious nappies food etc,you have to think of doctors fees for when the child is sick,witch can happen alot.clothes for the child,preschool fees,then school.there is so much things to consider.and dont forget u have the lovely body of an 18 year old,that will never be the same again! just add it all up before deciding what u want to do.
on the other hand im saying its hard,im not saying its impossible.there is plenty of girls 18 and younger that have done it and are doing well.mind u if u ask them i bet most regret not waiting. i was 15 having my first,i got a job and a one bed apartment,i worked very hard to support my child,of corse my ex left when i told him i was pregnant,i never got support off him nor have i seen him since.but i done it on my own.there was times when i ate nothing but pasta for weeks just so i could feed my child and pay bills.i had to grow up very quick.up until i was 15 i was a happy bouncy child,from 15 until now i can hounestly say ive had a very hard life.but now im married,i have my own buisness,everything is great for us now,but it took years to get to this, years that i wouldnt wish on anyone. but i wouldnt listen to anyone when i was 15 so i just know there is no piont in trying to convice somone to not have a baby.if she wants a baby so much then she will get pregnant.and she will love the baby so much,she will also be crying at 4am while walking around the house trying to stop the child from crying,but its all part and parcell.this will be her child,she will love it and care for it and would do everything in her power to provide for and protect her child,because she wont be a young girl  anyone,shel be a mum. and maybe she wont have the designer clothes or the expensive stroller with all the mod cons,but she will give the child the best that she can.it is very hard raising a child but NOT impossible and i dont think being 18 is a factor.she could be a better mother than most 30 or 40 year old mothers out there.
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1194973 tn?1385503904
I've been reading all the posts here, and what I can kinda make out of Bayybii2010's, and I've never before seen such offense. The advice the women on here gave was extremely good and also thoughtful. I'm 20 and utterly terrified of how I'm going to do this. I can't work, and we're hoping my fiance's paychecks will cover what we need. Family say they will help, but do you really want to crawl to them for everything? And they will in the end get extremelly sick of supporting you and your child. All families do. They're not a charity. Sure. For all anyone does know. You're rich. If this is true, you don't need an ex boyfriend for support, nor your family. This is why people didn't assume you had money. But you can't jump down people's throat because they do have experiance. You're 18. They've been there and done these things. At least attempt to consider what they say. I'm sure they know more of it than you.
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1123420 tn?1350561158
lol thats funny mami!
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145992 tn?1341345074
You are reading things the wrong way noone thinks you're rich at all. I don't know where you are getting that. Again we are just telling you like it is. At this point talking to you is like beating a dead horse. Good luck.
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1057060 tn?1266513126
im sorry if i have offended you in anyway, this wasn't my intention. i just wanted you to realize how hard it is. i can't even say from total experience because i am still pregnant and the full reality of it hasn't hit me yet. but what has hit me is scary enough and i wouldn't want anyone going through it or their baby for that matter. and just because you get paid to care for these kids, thats great! but that money is going to stop when you have your own child...are you really going to be balancing a newborn baby and someone else's kids 24/7? if you can do that then i am impressed, but your newborn baby needs as much attention and care as you can give. and, unless you keep working, you won't have that money much longer. even if you have saved it, eventually it will run out and then what will you do? your right i don't know you and neither does anyone else on here, we're just tryin to help. no one is tryin to hate you or assume we know your life, we're just giving you the facts that we DO know. but again im sorry if i have offended you in anyway, i was tryin to help you. i hope whatever decision you make will be best for you and your future child. i know that you didn't come on here asking for advice/opinions and i know from experience that that can be frustrating, so im sorry for being somewhat hypocritical. i just saw this as an important thing and i wanted to address it. but ive given all the advice i think i can give..i wish you all the best.
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1123420 tn?1350561158
You said the doctor said you miscarried. So I'm sure thats what happened.  If your so unsure then take a test. its not that hard, ask your sister to buy you one or something.. But for one you dont get paid for watching your own kid thats for sure, and can your really support a child on baby sitting money?
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yes i dnt have to finacially care for these kids but i care for them as a parent wuld. And i  get paid to do this as well, so yes im finacially able. I thnk i had a miscarriage but ppl are makn me thnk i culd be prego. But u are all acting like because im 18 finacially im not ready, YOU DNT NO ME! For all u no im some hi maintance, rich chick living in a huge 3 story house in cali or sum crap, u dnt no me or my life style. So if ne one wuld further like to continue this convo msg me, im on my mobile and tired of going thru all these cmnts
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1105450 tn?1375683721
Bayybii I very happy for you that you feel confident that you can do this.  I know what you mean on you feel like a mother already to the children that you care for. I did the same thing I was the oldest of 4 girls at 15 years old, my mother was a single mother so that left me with my sister all the time. Al we are trying to do is just make sure you know you options and the difference between being the living babysitter and being a full time mother. Having the feeling and caring for your own child is a lot different that caring for children that you did not give birth too. Do you ever think that once you do have your own child that you will want to care for sisters children? Have you discussed this situation with your sister and how does she feel about actually helping you out with your child, I know the thought of family helping out is all great, a and if thats the case for you I am happy for you  but if it turns the other way, and sometimes there are family member want the help from you but they dont want to do the same for you. Everyone here is just really trying to look out for you. My advice to you would be is just to really live life and enjoy every bit of it while you can and IF you are or get pregnant just let it happen but just done press the issue, make sure no matter what situation you are in right now, make sure by the time the baby is here that you can take care of the baby all on your own, just in case these people  who say that they will help you  turn there backs on you, We just want the best for you just really know what you are getting into and try not to jump down people throat because you didnt like what they had to say Good Luck
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1205562 tn?1554747006
WHoah! There's a lot of comments on here...

I had all those symptoms when I was pregnant the first time!!! I say take a pregnancy test...
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145992 tn?1341345074
Again, no one is saying that Bayybii, you are perfectly capable of taking care of a child.  However, it's a lot harder when you are trying to finish school and work when you have a baby then if you get established first and then have a baby.  You and your boyfriend aren't even together anymore, so wouldn't you rather share your experience with a man who is stable in your life, that you live with and have committed yourself to?  Wouldn't you like to go on vacations and explore every bit of your life before having a child and once you do, you won't be able to these things so freely?  It's not about ability to care for a child but it does help to have your life in place before bringing a baby along for that ride.  That's all, it's nothing to get upset over.  You can do what you want when you want to, just be a little bit more open minded that's all.  
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1123420 tn?1350561158
Bayybii- No one said that you couldn't mother a child just because are 18. Any one could mother a child if they wanted to.. But it takes more then experience, or love.  And just because your friend did it, doesn't mean you can. And tinytoes is right, you cant stop someone from doing what they want, all you can do is try to help them, which is what we did.  And you couldn't handle it.. so please no not try and play the victim card.  We didn't do or say anything hurtful.. We just offered the truth.. The truth hurts sometimes.  Yea no ones life and pregnancy is the same, but its all hard.  And do you have a job?  no you said your sister and her husband would take of it.. Yea I would help my sister to if she needed it.  But they shouldn't have to help you, they shouldn't be put in the position, just cause you couldn't wait until you settled down with a job and a husband.
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tinytoes-thanks so much for having my back. All dem ladies think cus wow they got experience or w hatever that everyones life n pregnancy will be the same. My friend was 18 when she had her kid, 19 now. From like a week outta the hospital she wrkd, we graduated high school together. She stil wrks, her n the father arent together but share responisbilties, so juss because ppl got a kid they dnt bno how sumone elses life will be. So i wish theyd stop pretty much sayn bc im 18 i cnt mother a child, or care for on finacially
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