28 and First Child (Anxiety thoughts running rampede)

[JadedMystery]

OK...First mommy jitters and I'm terrified. I'm more than blessed to be where I am...but I guess my main concern is..I'm 213 or was. (218 now) I use to be 297 and basically killed it with healthy eating and exercise. I was so close to my goal to be 180 and then...i was caught by surprise. I wanted to be out of the 200's before I got pregnant for risks of terrible downfalls for me and my baby. But I see I might be hurting myself more mentally than anything. I constantly find myself still being neurotic about counting calories and I don't know If that is something that I shouldn't be doing with a child on the way. I've seen and heard so many war stories from family members and or coworkers telling me that no matter what I do, I will never get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I even had my mom say to me that I did all of this weight loss for nothing. I am currently 6 weeks and stressing myself out because of the future and possibly stressing out my baby because I'm so scared of getting back close to the 300s again. it's hard knowing that I worked my butt off and hearing that there is no return of fit-life from people that claim to love me. I see myself already searching negative things about being overweight and pregnant. While I feel that I am more active then most women who weigh the same as I do, I know that with me being overweight is still a problem for my child and me. I am trying to calm my anxiety so I don't feel like there is no hope for either of us. I guess finally being smaller Than a size 16 or a 26 for that matter really made me fear the future...I want to know if any women find their weight to be a concern before and after the pregnancy.

[Mommabanielle]

I have heard that if you continue to exercise while you are pregnant, it makes it much easier to lose the weight after baby is born. Don't beat yourself up, everything will be okay.

[Firstxmom]

I'm past due, this is my 1st. I started off at 190lbs and I'm now 260lbs. I do beat myself up about it but I know when this baby finally comes I'll get back on my diet hard core. I had lost 100lbs 1 yr. So I know I can do it again. You can do it. I hear you loose after having the baby and then from breast feeding. It's a help in the direction we want! Lol you will be fine. Enjoy your pregnancy

[LittlestRed]

You can lose weight after having a baby. I was working on losing weight and getting healthy when I got pregnant with my first. I continued to eat well and exercise and had a healthy baby. I lost most of my pregnancy pretty quickly. Just eat well and exercise and you'll be fine.

[weezy789]

I'm in the exact same boat!! Was almost 300 at my heaviest in my mid-20s then got down to 220. Last fall i set a goal to be under 200 by the end of the year and then found out i was pregnant. I've gained 13lbs so far and am 21weeks. I try to stay away from the articles about obesity and pregnancy because i know I'll just scare myself and get stressed out. My doctor says I'm okay so far and it isn't a problem but i can't help but worry.

I know I'm having a girl and i worry about her having the same body image issues and struggles with weight as i have all my life. I'm  determined to not ever devalue myself or my body in front of her.

For now, though, I'm doing what i can to eat healthy and be active so my body stays healthy and strong to grow my baby... I'm not even going to worry about my pre-pregnancy weight for now. Just take that off your plate.

[babymama36166]

Just keep eating healthy and don't go crazy! I know someone who exercised until the day she delivered. I walk everyday and eat tons of fruits and veggies. I was 180 ehen I got pregnant with my first. I was 210 when I delivered. I got back down to 185 but was a little stuck when I found out I was pregnant with our second. You know what it takes to lose weight you can do it again! Just try not to over stress it's hard on you and the baby.

[JadedMystery]

congratulations to you as well! It is a big achievement to work so hard to feel so good. Everybody kept telling me that I am eating for two so that I should up my calories, but if I just don't feel like eating what am I supposed to do? I atleast try to eat 1800 a day. Sometimes I may lack and hit 1500...it feels great to hear that the whole eating for two thing is necessarily not supposed to mean that you are to over eat.it is a blessing also to see other women And hear what they've gone through. I don't feel so alone...I'll get back on it and eat healthy here on out the pregnancy.

[KellSull]

Just make sure you continue to eat healthy. You will gain weight during your pregnancy and it is completely normal and healthy. I was on a weight loss trend when I got pregnant. I had lost 15 lbs and was feeling good, then bam! Pregnant! I am 26 weeks and have gained right at 10 lbs but I have been continuing to exercise and eat right. Pregnancy is not an excuse to let ourselves go. And there is hope for that post pregnancy body. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It will take hard work and determination, but out can do it. Enjoy your pregnancy, momma! Don't sweat the lbs, be healthy and your baby will be also!

[AprilBabe26]

Oh honey I feel ya. My heaviest was almost 280 size 26/28 pants & I was having issues with my blood sugars told I was borderline diabetic @ 22. I was so unhappy with my body but I've always been big & didn't know any other way of life. Then I started looking at my portions & walking. Took up hula hooping & zumba (in the privacy of my own home!) & even started jogging & running. I got down to 184 within a year & looked & felt f*ckin Fabulous! :-P Slowly in the last 3 years I've put it back on-some just pregnancy weight as I am 27 weeks-but mostly it was stress from my job, wedding, & lack of commitment to my exercise routine. My husband is a overweight & I swore I wouldn't let his eating habits & inactive lifestyle affect me but it has. He never wants to go on walks & salads are for rabbits. Not saying at all its his fault it is soley my own it would just be so much easier if spending the time we do have together could be more productive than sitting! If I push it, it's an argument & I do it alone or give in to his "tomorrow" bs. Anyway, I'm really disappointed with myself that I've let myself go & all my hard work only lasted a little while. I'm trying not to gain too much while pregnant & I am deadset on getting back in the game once baby is out because I didn't buy all those new clothes for nothing! Don't give up-there are thousands of women who have children & then get smaller than they ever were before with diet & exercise. I know a 45 yr. old woman with 7 kids & she's got a solid frame but she's strong as an ox & has more stamina than any 20 year old around. I just want to be healthy, not skinny minnie just happy & strong. I'm going to get that back & there's no one to stop me but myself. Don't stress-be happy & don't get in that eating for two mindset where you over eat, just stay healthy for you & baby & know you can continue what you started once he or she is born! Congrats for losing so much weight so far too it's a wonderful, empowering achievement!! Good for you!! Stay strong & keep your head up girl don't listen to the negative comments they simply aren't true!