my husband the know it all

[bbm1188]

My husband was iq tested awhile back, his scores came back saying he was genius level. Now I've been bookmarking all these baby book pages and ill read the pages or quiz him before hand and he's always right, he knows way more then I give him credit for but I don't know how he knows when its his first baby and he's never read a baby book. I had to learn by reading and researching.  What tips would any of your husband's, partners, or bfs give him that maybe he doesn't know or realize. He was wondering and so was I what he may not know or be prepared for based on personal experience. Mr. Smarty pants wants to learn lol

[Babylevy]

Being book smart and street smart is totally different. He may be a book geek but not a baby geek. JS

[Kate037]

You'd be surprised how many men THINK they know how to change a diaper, but when it comes down to it are totally clueless.

[bbm1188]

Thanks ladies, all very helpful advice for him. He's got some stuff to think about now

[Mandatace]

One thing my hubby always says to expectant fathers is...
-don't ever ask how she is feeling/going during labour. (I about launched off the bed to attack my hubby when he said that)
- when the emotions hit during labour and after the birth, just nod, hold out a tissue and tell your missus what a great job she is doing! (Even if she is doing your head in, he reckons)
Oh and one from me... No matter how much you read, I garuntee you baby will do something unexpected or something that will scare you and you will forget everything you have read and learnt! Lol
One last thing, nothing will prepare you for the amount of love you will feel for that tiny little demanding being that has come into your life!

[havincinco]

My hubbie was an EMT, and he was way better with babies than I ever was....he had to teach me in fact. Sometimes even now after 4 of them, he's way better at it! But he's never felt so useless as when I was in labor and trying to help with the nursing after baby was born. No matter how much you he knew or how much experience he had some things he just couldnt help with, and he struggled feeling that helpless.

[bbm1188]

Yea he's scared about me being in pain and that there's nothing he can do to take it away, watching me suffer that day will make him uncomfortable he says. He's been with me when I had two minor surgeries and had to take care of me afterword so I'm hoping he learned something through that lol

[shastas84]

Nope you read it right Lol...my hubby was just as unprepared for my post birth pain & emotional roller coaster. (I'm hoping this time he has a little more of a clue. Lol)

[bbm1188]

Ohh I read that wrong but I think I get what he means

[bbm1188]

Ah yea the emotional aftercare is going to be what he struggles with I think.  He's unsure of what that means. I mean he will be good to help out but he doesn't know how to comfort somebody in pain very well. Thanks for your input

[shastas84]

I read your question to my hubby. His thoughts are "the serious rush when the baby is born (emotionally speaking). And to be prepared for the serious amount and type of after care that mommy will need."