8 days left boyfriend issues

[ashleyheather]

At this point in my pregnancy im not feeling very sexual. Im huge and uncomfortable. It feels like he asks for sex several times a day from yhe moment we wake up til we go to bed. Its not like we never have sex. We just did two days ago and i didnt enjoy it. He gets upset when i say no. He just stormed out of the room saying he already has to wait six weeks after and now im making him wait forever. i feel like hid attitude is making me change my feelings toward him... Any suggestions or comments?

[sandy_baby3oct6]

I think your boyfriend is being very selfish, at this point in your pregnancy having sex can induce your labor trust me i slept with my boyfriend at 37 weeks on Christmas eve and within 2 hours my contractions were close enough they we had to rush to the hospital and i gave birth at 1130 am on Christmas day best xmas present ever but my daughter was only 6lbs 13oz. But i also agree that there are other ways then sex that you could assist with during times when you don't want to have sex. Hope this helps at least you have an excuse now besides that your just not in the mood!  

[2nd_time]

My advice:

1. Try giving him a **...he shouldn't complain too much about that :/ Not fun for you, but read on, there's a silver lining....

2. Just bite the bullet and do it (it could start contractions, which would be good if you only have 8 days left). I'm sure you're ready to be done with pregnancy by now!

Either way, you can use it a leverage against him later ;) that baby is bound to make some pretty stinky diapers, or want to wake up and want to play at 2AM before you know it!

[Lillah]

2ndbaby I sent you a message
Ashleyheather I'm sorry I over did it... But wish you well and congrats on your baby almost being here.

[2ndbaby162]

Sorry lillah - I thought it was the original poster that put your last post. Generally still applies though. Talk it through and find out whasts going on in his head - does he know how miserable you are?? Take care x

[2ndbaby162]

Take a deep breath hun. Perhaps he's just feeling insecure. For a long time its been just you two now he's going to have to share you and that causes jealousy. Its not worth divorcing over and giving up on all your years together. Talk to him about it and get to the real reason he's getting angry about it. Anxiety of the upcoming labour is going to cloud your judgement. If there are other reasons and you were unhappy and wanting to divorce before baby then that's a different story. You know your marriage best and if its worth holding on to. Best wishes x

[Lillah]

I have to add that this is making me pretty miserable and I'm ready to let him go once baby is born which is within a month and after almost 13 years of marriage.

[Lillah]

I partly agree with the other ladies but I also believe that if he wants sex it's a good sign. It means he loves you and wants you. My husband hasn't touched me in over 2 months maby more and their is no worst feeling then feeling unwanted. I know in part it's because I say I'm in pain but their is other stuff besides sex... Before I got pregnant we had relationship problems and I would turn him down when ever he wanted sex and now he doesn't care for it, atleast not from me.
I'm not saying this will happen to you and he should be understanding but maby you can compromise every now and then and help him in other ways if you know what I mean. Good luck and sorry I gave you this whole story I needed to get it out of my head.

[k8sh2013]

In my culture a we gotta wait at least 3 months after the babys out before resume sex again.  My man haven had any since i was 38 weeks and now my son is a week old.  I told him i have to let my body heal completely before returning to sex.  If u dont care for ur body who else will.  I think ur mans being selfish and childish. He needs to sacrifice his sexual life now thats hes about to be a father coz after baby not everything revolves around him anymore. Good luck wit ur pregnancy nd have a smooth labor..

[Maleka87]

That's pretty crappy :(

[ashleyheather]

Thanks guys. I wish hed just go "take care of himself"  but hes never done that i think i spoiled him early on... Im just gonna stick to how i feel... Im not gonna let it get me down...

[BarbieAnn85]

give him a bottle of lotion and tell him thats what his hand is for....sorry im feelin kinda mean today idk why. he needs to realize that if mommy is not comfortable baby is not comfprtable, baby is whats important right now and even after the six weeks he might not be getting it all the time anyway, cuz childcare is tiring and sometimes u may not be in the mood. he needs to man up and realize the world doesn't revolve around him....sorry being mean again ill just stop talking =]

[BabyTurnip]

I think hes over reacting. I mean yes he has neefs and but your growing a baby!!! Your about to pop and if hes having issues with the whole wait six weeks then hes being selfish. You need thst time for ur body to heal and restore itself. Youve been carrying your baby for 9months and that all of sudden its out. Your hormones blood level everything has to go back to normal. I try to give it to my man often but usually two times a week is all i can summom out of me lol sure he jokes about it all the time but he understand too. If we are planning on doing it lets say tonight but then i dont feel good he wont fuss over it! Ur guy needs to understand that and if not just give him vaseline and a sock and tell him to go and get himself going in privacy. Lol