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Annoying mom in law

How do I handle this? She wants to go to all of my ultrasounds and keeps pestering me ab the baby. This is her first granddaughter but it's starting to aggravate me. Or maybe I'm just being mean. Ugh him 26 weeks still got a ways to go i think I might go crazy.
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For the ones who's mil don't care I'm sorry I dnt want to seem like a selfish brat but trust me the constant breathing down my neck is a little frustrating thanks for the advice guys
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I wish I had your problem!  Mine doesn't care at all. With my daughter and now with this one they don't even acknowledge that I'm pregnant,  don't ask questions or anything. My mother in law ignore my daughter for her first 3 months,  im not expecting anything different this time around. It's really hurt my feelings. We actually live on the first floor amd they upstairs I spend the whole day home and she never wven bother to ask if I need help or even come to say hi. I don't know. It's might be their religion. She recently told me that her family back in her country dont know she has a granddaughter. Sry for the long reply.
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My annoying mother in law doesn't care enough.  Shes talks more about her daughter getting pregnant than me who is already pregnant and her daughter isn't and may never want to be.
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Another thing I might add: I would establish boundaries now. If she is this way now, what will stop her from being intrusive once the baby has arrived? Just food for thought. I encourage u to respectfully voice your feelings to her and stand firm after that.
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Omg that would drive me batty! I get irritated even when people ask how my appointments go. I just don't tell anyone when they are and hope they forget to ask.  The only person I like discussing it around is my honey.  Both mothers will likely be there at my birth, and I'm pretty sure at one point I'll have to snap at one of them.  Lol....hormones.
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My MIL drives me crazy. Every US is excessive, in my opinion & I don't think that's mean at all. We went to a place that offers live screening to people we invite by email, then they pay $10 & they can watch from anywhere in the world (via computer or smartphone). We went to that place twice & it was great for both sets of parents, we feel that was an adequate amount of sharing. Everyone knows their own boundaries, define & express yours :-)
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The responses so far have been the right way to deal with good ole MIL. But here's what I did anyway.... Lol..... My MIL has a history of not respecting my wishes when I have asked nicely.  So.... About a week ago I told her to stop calling (she was calling my husband or I every day asking super personal questions - of course we didn't answer any of them.  My baby's progression, or my labor progression is simply none of her business.) I told her no news is just that - no news.  And I said we would let her know when the baby has arrived.  (FYI I'm 40 weeks plus 3 days). Everything I said to her was very direct and perhaps harsh.  But this is the first time she has ever respected my wishes.  So sometimes you do have to be tough.
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Definitely talk to her about it. Do it as a couple but make sure you do it gently so she doesn't feel attacked. Just let her know how you feel about it being something you two want to experience as a couple, but that you'll tell her all the details, perhaps share ultrasound pics with her. When we got our 3D ultrasound we sent copies to my in laws since they don't live close. Find ways to make her feel apart of it without her having to be glued to you for the next four months!! Just try to remember she's excited and means well I'm sure, and with being more emotional and full of hormones we don't always see it that way.
Good luck hun :-)
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My mom was the same way with this baby and it drove me crazy. I started making my appts at times I knew there was no way that she could make it. Hopefully things calm down and I would have your husband talk to her about giving you guys space.
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I would say u want some privacy. Its your baby and u are allowed to ask for space. I generally let my husband deal with his family tho, maybe ask him to tell her to back off and give u some privacy. Might be better coming from her son.
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