Baby Shower???

[lala_mommy]

Ok so this is my third pregnancy and I am considering not organizing a (b/s) this time around.  With my first there was a bit of family drama and after my MIL offered to arrange one she decided not to. With my second one she again offered to arrange one for me, of course she wouldn't stop yapping about how ungrateful her daughter was (whom she organized one a few months before) with the gifts she gave her and how she didn't consider all the money she put into it and how it wasn't worth it due to the gift outcome. So I organized everything to my liking even made my own diaper cake and center pieces with some help of my other sister in law and my MIL. With this my third pregnancy no one has offered to organize one for me, and I'm definitely not expecting them to. I would prefer no (b/s) mainly because I don't want the hassle. I don't really have friends in this area, all in-law. I'm very particular as far as I like things and it would be hard to stay away from the planning. Anyways, I mentioned to my mother and hubby about this and how I'd like to organize maybe a brunch after baby arrives so everyone has the opportunity to meet baby and if they have any gifts they may bring them as well, but they both think this is odd and don't really agree. My mother lives out of state therefore she can't arrange one for me. Well sorry it's soo long but do any of you agree/disagree with my plans? Does it sound weird?

[Jaja65]

Wow...well this is my 4th and I've had a baby shower every time! LOL I never threw them someone did them for me 1 was a surprise the other 2 were not and if I knew about it I would say what I did or didn't want to happen etc. This pregnancy I'm having my 1st girl ans everyone is excited and asking me where am I registered and when is my baby shower. I think your idea is great! Do what you want and what you feel comfortable doing! That also gives your guests a chance to at least see the baby as well which doesn't happen most times.

[lala_mommy]

I totally love it was all laid back and not really having pressure of the b/s thing. That's right what I want ;)

[KristiGG]

PQLJmommy, my mom said the exact same thing to me.  I love what you guys did with this baby! Super cute, fun and relaxed.  Nice not feeling like you are asking for gifts!

[meekagibson]

I'm on my third child. I had a b/s with my first,  I went home and my moth threw one. I didn't have one for my second because I didn't live near my family and had no friends.  I think brunch is a great idea, wish I would have thought about it.  My husband is begging me to have one for our third so I probably will.

[nitrah]

I'm kinda in the same boat. Ive had four baby showers held for ny first child by my in laws, church and co workers, my mother wants to host one still for me even though I've already had the baby. She lives out off town so her  side of the family wants to feel apart of the baby's life of course. I'm not complaining, but like you  I understand the hassle of putting together a shower so I asked for a baby arrival party instead. A day where everyone can come see the baby and have a breakfast or brunch together, and those who have gifts to bring then  they could bring them as well. I love the idea. It's easy, didn't require a bunch of fluff and extra. Just enjoying family and friends company celebrating the child.

[lala_mommy]

Wow! Thank you ladies I wasn't expecting the positive feedback and support.  I had considered organizing my own @motherofthree88 but I honestly feel very anti-social not wanting to see anyone and chose like @fabNrome to put my $$$ into better use. My hubby was just thinking it was odd or kinda selfish.  But he completely agrees now since his family is run by drama and nonstop gossip we just don't want to be a part of. My family also but my mother was wanting me to have one since it may well be my last but since they won't be around I see no use in it. Thanks again everyone :)

[fabNrome]

I thought I was the only one debating a b/s. My husband and his sister wanted to organize one and I decided that it's not worth it. My s-i-l would provide her house,  since I live in a very small apartment, and my husband and I would pay for it all. At the end, we would end up spending hundreds of $ and take the risk of a horrible turnout, since there's so much drama in his family. I rather spend the $ on my baby and the things she will need. My family lives 5.5 hours away, so they prefer to visit when the little one is here. I

[motherofthree88]

This is my third child, with my first there was attempt to have a b/s but the turn out was horrible, but since this is my last child i want to have one, but i will be planningit myself. People an never put they feelings totheside and i dnt have time for that. So i dnt care about the sterotype of the mom not suppose to plan her own shower, but to keepthe drama down I will do it.

[KristiGG]

I personally only had a baby shower with my first.  After that it seems people kind of lose interest in my experience.  Like you I also had a lot of drama.  My MIL's cousin wanted to throw me one and so did my mom.  My mom was willing to work with her but she wasn't willing to work with my mom.  My MIL yelled at me on multiple occasions about it and her cousin was very rude to me and treated me like her servant at the shower. I am now pregnant with my third, i didnt do anything for my second and some people were upset with me for that.  So long story short I like your brunch idea for after. It gives you and your husband all the control and your mom can visit when actual baby is here.