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Breastfeeding naysayers

My husband, my family and his family are all against me breastfeeding. Now this is MY first child, and as a mother I feel I can decide what's best for my child. I'm pissed off that everyone thinks I shouldn't do it bc I won't get any sleep, I won't get blah and I won't get blah, that I will regret it. It's got me hanging up on ppl who I love bc I believe anything I do that's good for my child is worth it. What do other mothers WHO ARE BREASTFEEDING think?
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It's your choice. If you want to do it do it! If they don't like it they don't have to come around while you are doing it. How do they think our ancestors fed their babies?? Did milk just magically appear?? NO they breastfed
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My husband was originally against it. I told him this was my no compromise decision (his was getting our son circumcised). Once we had our son and he spent time in the nicu, my husband saw so many posters showing the benefits of breast milk, he changed his opinion. He got used to my breasts being used for their natural purpose. And actually told me how happy he was that I chose to do what was best for our child. I hope your family comes around! If not, at least you will be doing what's best for your child.
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My mother and her side of the family were completely against it. She said it was gross and my grandma told me it was inappropriate to do in public. If you want to breastfeed you need to do it in the privacy of your own home. My dad could care less if I fed my son right in front of him, he was a breast fed baby. My husband loved it cuz I never really pumped so he didn't have to do the night time feedings it was all me....

Feed YOUR baby how you want. Nobody else has any say in it. Its better for baby then formula and I loved being able to breast feed.
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I breast fed my first son and i personally think its easier then bottle feeding cuz you can jus pop out you boob and dam lol, you can feed layn dwn without holding a dang bottle lol
7543158 tn?1391978069
And they think you'll get extra sleep by bottle feeding? That makes no sense. Do what you want. My husband, before he knew I wanted t breastfeed, told me that formula was a no go bc it's expensive and that my milk was better for the baby so I'd better breastfeed and not fall for all the hype other girls are going for these days. I looked at him like he was stupid like.... duh....
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I had all this with my 1st how very dare they! Best thing I ever did for my daughter...she never suffered constipation. ...colic...or ever had any infections.  Plus my stomach went down quicker. You protect yourself and your baby from diseases in the future. ..and cam avoid astma..ezcema and dyslexia if that's in your family..needless to say all the rest. I was young and one of the only ones that breastfed out of many other friends I knew at the time..and I always suffered criticism.  Dont listen to them its none of their business..if you want to do it. And if you decide not to then thats up to you as well. I never had to get out of bed and do bottles...bother with sterilisation. ..so theres all that that is easier. My daughter was a verycontented baby and so dont llisten to narrow minded busy body's who think they can tell you whats best. You are the mother and this is your baby! Goodluck :)
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I breastfed my first for 1,5 year. Every feeding was magical moment for me. Connection between mother and baby :) I would never resign this. She was very healthy during bfeeding.

There are ofc some cons, its harder when teeth appear and baby on breast milk are getting hungry more often than on Formula, so I had to wake up few times during night. And breast pump was usually hurtfull :p for me.


But I would never give up these few months od breast feeding :)
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Tell them it saves money and is healthier for the baby. if they really give you crap, then pump into bottles to use around them. There is no benefit to using formula, unless the mother is HIV positive.
Some cultures have a taboo against breastfeeding as a sign of poverty/ reminder of Mammie slaves, if that is the case you should have a discussion and explain why you want to breastfeed and bring information from the doctor to back you up.
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Its up to you no one else do what you want. I don't breastfeed but if you can and want to go for it. We home school and no one but my husband agrees with that not that I care.
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I have 3 babies with my 4th on the way I beat feed 2/3 and I got so much more sleep with the ones I breast feed. Since you can lady down when breast feeding I would sleep while the baby ate and I'm such a light sleeper that I would wake up when the baby finished and burp the baby and try and see if it wanted the other boob i never felt like I lost out on sleep. With my baby I bottle feed I only bottle feed because she wanted daddy so when I tried to beat feed he would have to hold her on my boob and it just didn't work out it made me so sad but we never got sleep u have to get up make the bottle warm it up try not to fall asleep while holding your baby then burp them and by Time your done with all this your either wide awake and can't go back to sleep or your so tired the baby ends up sleeping in your bed. I know I was always to tired to put her in her crib I was always afraid of dropping her cause I could barely stay awake for feedings I always woke up with my husband to help keep him awake while he feed her.
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Some people in our culture are so weird about boobs!  "Get them out of the mouths of babies and back in the black lace bras where they belong!"

I just don't get it.  You won't regret it- you might regret if you let them bully you into giving up the most natural thing you can do as a mom.  
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Our families think it's dumb we are not using bottles, or disposable diapers or cheapy alcohol filled, chemical filled wipes, or strollers (we're trying 100% baby wearing out first bc of the bonding & language development benefits)... But the way I see it is our moms had their chance to raise children however they saw fit... Nowt it's my turn to raise my first child however I see fit.

Sometimes I do wanna hit my mom on the head with a pan and scream "Not the momma! Not the Momma!" Haha.
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Do it cause you want to because frankly all the studies are skewed the way they want to push you. I have 4 bottle fed kids and the oldest is 8. None of them have any health or learning disabilities and not one has ever had an infection even at there older age. I can lust unbiased studies to prove it. Breastfeed because you want to but leave all the hype about health out of it.
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I honestly do not understand how people be against breastfeeding!  I breastfed both of my kids and will with this one unless for some odd reason I cannot.  I understand some women have trouble with milk supply and have to bottle feed, which is fine, but if you can breastfeed you should.  There are sooo many benefits for your baby. Your milk is special and formulated for your child, there is no formula that is like that.  Do not listen to them! It is the absolute BEST option for you and your baby!!! There is nothing anyone could ever say that would make me even consider not breastfeeding. Even if it was my husband.
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Its your decision and completely up to you.... I breastfed my 1st for 1.5 months exclusively and then combination up to 4 months before I dried out... this one I am hoping to go for much longer... my mom didnt breastfeed any od her kids and thinks its a little weird but she doesn't say anything. .. its completely natural to breastfeed and not getting any sleep isnt a reason not to. . Cause you wont either way... my plan is when im extremely tired im gonna pump so hubby can feed her (thats what I did last time too) in the middle of the night... (but still have to wake up to pump)... I always laid her next to me where we werr both on her sides and she latched on... as a new mom who is tired and BF... you get a little creative in the positions you putthem in to feel them
7745094 tn?1396429352
Disagree with @kcwayman, it is related to health.
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Im not saying if you bottle feed your baby or child will get sick. But there is truth and facts about the health benefits. I am a qualified nutritionist and there are thousands of studies around the world that prove it. I would never make a person feel guilty for not not doing it or doing it. Each to their own.
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Wow.. breastfeed away darling. If everything in life was easy and peachy where would we all be? Sounds like the type of people that have 0 drive, ambition, goals etc.. I'm so sorry for you..tell them all to f off..
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I'm a nicu nurse and breast feeding is ALWAYS better. Better for digestion and immune system. We even use colostrum to clean preemie mouths that can't eat or use harsher chemical bacteriocides. People who say its the same are in denial. Read the labels sometime on formulas and see for yourself why babies tolerate it better. And YES. There are proven medical studies on benefits of breast milk. Sure some babies "turn out okay" but why settle for that and do what's best if you can.
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You should show them all the chemicals and unknown stuff that goes into formulas. And then ask them if its still the best choice. I breastfed my son for 4 month. But i plan on doing it longer this time around. Good luck with everything.
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I bf for just over a yr had all sorts of troubles the beginning months but will go thru it all again without a second thought! Also at about 2 months I had to bottle feed cuz I got my first case of mastitis and they put me in antibiotics I couldnt feed with soI was pumping and dumping for 10 days and no bottle feeding is not easier. God blessed us with 2 "bottles" attached to our chest that is always at the right temp ready to go at anytime. Yes it was only me that got up to feed my lo everytime during the night but any downfalls are far exceeded by the benefits of bfing. It reduces risk of cancers in both u and lo, u burn about 500 calories a day just making food for ur lo, always ready to go, made specifically for baby and can change its composition to accommodate lo, never recalled, FREE, seriously diapers smell wayyyyyyy better, less likely to be gassy or colicky and i only had to ever burp my son maybe 4 times. just a couple reasons y its great. Id seriously tell everyone putting u down about it to shut their mouth or to not come around until they are willing to support ur decision on how u WILL be feeding ur child. Im sure ull have some bumps in the road with it but ive never heard anyone say they regretted it
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