problems with the bf

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Hi, I have never posted here but I think I'm getting depressed. I have had many arguments with my bf because we seem to have missed connection. Right now everything makes me cry and I feel that he doesn't care that I am pregnant, he still argues with me over things that don't make sense. I always end up crying myself to sleep and I have anxiety most of the time. Please give me advise, I don't know how to deal with this. I feel that being depressed is going to affect our baby.

[littlecookie1]

Thank you ladies for your advise, it really helped. I'm happy to say that I'm in a much better place now, he has started to help me a lot and we seem to communicate better now, I think he was just not ready to have a baby and was taking it on me. He has apologized and is always here for me. We have picked a name for our daughter already and he's been great. I guess there's always light at the end if the tunnel, and smllbby you are right its better not to force anything because if it meant to be it will happen :)

[smallbby]

I even asked a friend "i wonder if all the serotonin (the sad hormone i believe) will build up and transpire to my baby all we do is fight and argue and all i do is cry" she said it doesnt work like that lol. She is very intelligent deans list nurse. Also my sis cried alot during her pregnancy and her son should def b awarded the happiest baby award all he does is laugh its actually weird for how much she cried. And all is good in their relationship also.

Just relax and be happy for ur soon to be here baby :)

[smallbby]

Omgee i posted something like this once before. I mean so exact. Feeling like we never really got along, always crying, even contemplating leaving. I am now 6 months and just became the happiest fiancee. I believe i mustve been 4 months. And i am now 6.

My biggest things were
1) Love is Resilient (if u are in love)
2) try hard to understand each other. Dont force. If there seems like it will be a agree to disagree do that. Leave the issue alone. Dont even bring it up again.
3) actually try to be happy. Its like when ur sad but u smile. First it feels force but then that smile just becomes easier and easier and more natural.
4) you know ur mate and remember think twice before saying or doing things if u know it will get him upset. Dont tippy toe around him. U shouldnt feel uncomfortable. Then theres a problem. U should be able to talk to him, but just think about how things are worded, if its the right time, or if he would appreciate it or not
And finally
5) be the bigger person. Let him think he won a petty argument. Sometimes its really not worth the fight. And just think about it. Even if u argue with him and u know ur right what will u get out of it? A pat on the back. "Yea baby ur right." (With men ur never really going to hear those words much n e way  lol) so whats the point. Sometimes its better to just b the bigger person

Even stroke his ego and remember you guys will be a family soon and how precious is that :) good luck

[angiejujuoscar1]

Its your hormones that get you to that point he probably is so scared and is not prep to be a father in time everything will fall into place try to avoid arguments just remember 1 thing an argument takes 2 ppl

[CeeCeeBean]

My husband and I had a difficult time during my first trimester because he couldn't see how I was feeling on the inside like my body symptoms and emotions (of course not, right?) I have a history of depression and it was hard to stay positive.  We ended up fighting and resenting each other. I worried about the health of my baby too.  It took a lot of empathy from both of us to get back on the same page.  Make sure you make yourself a priority.  Love yourself.  The rest will come.

[soontohavethree]

Talk to your dr. I had bad pregnancy depression with my second. If it is truly depression you really want to nip it in the bud because you really dont want ppd.

[springblessings2014]

I think he likes to see you crying,  don't pleasure him . He's crazy, you have to be relax think about your baby and you . Everything is going to be alright God bless you I wish you merry Christmas and a happy blessed new year.  What pretty outfit are you going to wear this Christmas beautiful mami ? .

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Hey be calm n stop arguing with ur boyfriend.
Maybe he was nt prepared for all this n its getting reflected in fights. So give him some time once baby arrives everything ll be fine. Right now u tk of urself and baby. .Be excited and be happy about the good things that is happening to you.