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4437866 tn?1388119624

Divorcing him after all

I was ready to try and work things out.. but turns out that's not gonna happen. I'm so mad right now I'm still shaking! I was out driving around and went to Starbucks to p and get coffer and a snack. As i just got parked,  grabbed my wallet and walked to the door to my surprise there sits my husband sucking face with this woman. Who is very well pregnant... I asked him what was going on. She got mad at me. Guess she didn't know I was married to him and pregnant with twins. His twins. She said they were together a year! WTF how could I not see this? She's due next month!!! He started to cry... again... she slapped him ( good girl) apologized to me. And told him she would be after support. the girls working at Starbucks came out to see what was going on and I told them and everyone else there and he left. But hey got free coffee out of it... I'm so hurt. I feel so stupid. What an @$$!
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554628 tn?1362777919
o my gosh! so sorry for all you are going through, i know its gotta be hard but you definitely deserve better than that! and he is having twins with you and another baby with her... wow...im almost at a loss of words but so sorry for all of this will pray for you and your babies, you are a strong woman!
4437866 tn?1388119624
How could I have been so blind? A year of him cheating and I didn't have a clue... god I'm so dumb
Avatar universal
Omg! I am so sorry for you! How long have you been married? Is this your first pregnancy? He is such an ***. Don't stress yourself out, I can't imagine though how hard this is for you, we're all here for you to talk to, if you need someone to talk to I am here,
Avatar universal
Ur not dumb, he is, didn't be even have any guilt gee men suck
4437866 tn?1388119624
We've been married 6 years this fed. This is my second pregnancy. First on with him... I feel so sick.
Avatar universal
Wow 6 years and he does that, he doesn't deserve you, you have your kids they are your life, my kids mean the most to me, don't worry you get thru this
4045844 tn?1356308927
OMG I don't know what to say that is awful!! I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. What a selfish loser you don't need him. Get rid of him fast get support and move on. Yay for free coffee at least. Wow I'm just disgusted for you.
4437866 tn?1388119624
Thanks. He's done.
305005 tn?1358728290
I'm so sorry :(  your not dumb, you just did what you were suppose to do and that's trust your husband, but he beyond proved that he could never be trusted. Just take care of you and your baby's, hit him for everything he's got. You need to find out who that other woman is for when you take him to court, there's all the proof you need right there
Avatar universal
well he is such an  idiot... It's horrible you had to find out this way but at least you can let go now. I'm so glad the twins have you... Emma, stay strong!
Avatar universal
I'm so sorry. I don't even know what to say. :( lots of love for you my dear.
Avatar universal
Im so sorry youre going thru this :( that was my biggest fear when i started being with the guy who is mow my husband :/ that he would cheat my parents couldnt stay faithful to each other :( it would have been totally unclassy and mean to her which youd need to apologize to her but i would have said really loudly gee honey!! I didnt know they let pregnant strippers work?! But maybe she would know he was basically calling her a stripper to come up with an excuse to why you found that shirt :/
4437866 tn?1388119624
the stripper is a different woman. I made that known to him in front of the pregnant woman. My god I'm confused on this... I asked him ' the stripper and her? Who wlse' she didn't know about the stripper or his wife! I'm not mad at her. She didn't know and she took off in tears we were both mislead.. why would he do this to me.. it not like he wasn't getting enough. Almost everyday! God I'm so sick. Dumb @$$ is not only going to have to pay child support to her kid. But MY twins and spousal support. He is sooo done! Just hope I don't have to wait till after the kids are born to ditch him. He can have his last name back.
Avatar universal
I woulnt give my babies his last name either!! You don't have to. He can still b on birth certificate for support reasons. My goddess!!! I would want him dead but then again dead means he wouldn't pay as much as he should. Maybe we can just hope for total parapoligic!!
4268628 tn?1375041176
Oh sweety...I'm so sorry. :( deep breath and do you have her name? He still staying with your folks? Might have them.dump his crap on the front porch if he is. Wish I could say something to help.
4192942 tn?1360615437
Omg thats so terrible! Your twins dont deserve a father like that, good for you for deciding on a divorce. What an ***!
4545793 tn?1394592544
Is that other gurl also pregnant with his baby sorry I think I missed that
Avatar universal
I am so sorry to hear that. The guy cheated on both you and the girl. Some men are just sickos. Stay strong girl.
184674 tn?1360860493
I am so sorry! I had followed your story for the last couple of weeks, but I was hoping for the best for you once you'd said you wanted to work things out. I feel sick for you, this is just terrible and I'm so sorry.
Please don't feel like you were dumb or a fool. You were not and are not. But I understand the frustration and pain on that level, although it didn't happen with my husband. I've been through a life situation over this past year that basically hits on the same level of pain and betrayal from someone I deeply love and care for (an immediate family member)--I never saw it coming and it just blew up in my face one day and I'm still left with no answers for it. I felt the same way; like such a fool and like I should have seen it coming. What's worse is that I've had multiple other people tell me they saw it coming, so...it's been a tough year but I've had to learn that I was not being foolish or stupid about any of it. Still struggle with those feelings from time to time, though. It's so hard.
Big hugs to you. Again, I'm so sorry. ♥
4368956 tn?1357406071
what a jerk!!thats the good thing about karma both of you got to find out before she had her baby and he looses everything. When my hubby left me he thought he was going to live it up. Right before I had my baby, he lost his job his car and became homeless. He lost everything and had to learn a huge life lesson what goes around comes around. Everyday youll become alittle bit stronger and one day you will be so glad that you got to close this chapter in your life. I wish you the very best and a beautiful new start with you and your precious babies.
4437866 tn?1388119624
ThNk you all so much.. I didn't sleep much last night. So upset I kept vomiting.. now my throat hurts. Think I'm gonna have a lazy day of nothing but paranormal shows lol. He tried to call but my dad said he never went hone. So no idea where he went.. I know I can raise my kids alone. I've done it before. It just scares me. It was hard with one babe...  now there's gonna be new born twins and a 10 year old.
4368956 tn?1357406071
dont worry sweetie you have a support system and the ten year old can help so much. Twins arent that hard just got to put them on a scedule. When u feed them sit in a butterfly position and feed both at the same time. Thats saved me so much time! Good luck
Avatar universal
Karma will get him mama. And it will be awful. You have already paid and I see nothing but going up from here. Now go watch some taps or celebrity ghost stories. Tell the spirts how you feel. Goddess is watching and she will make sure all is well
4437866 tn?1388119624
Thanks ladies
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