Fear

[lizbeth85]

Hello Everyone :)

I am newly pregnant (about 5 weeks) and everyone is putting fear into me about the possibility of miscarrying. I have only told a few select people, but they have all been telling me not to get too excited yet because misscarriages happen to 1 in 5 pregnancies.  The "problem" is is that I am SO excited and happy, but I feel like its been hindered by all of this negativity and its making me scared and unhappy.  Anybody have any thoughts or wisdom?

[AminaM1]

I totally understand O had someone do the same exact thing ad if it's nit scary enough! I SAY TO THOSE PEOPLE before theu even finished "PLEASE, I DONT SPEAK OF MISCARRIAGE I KNOW IT EXISTS BUT I'D RATHER NOT SPEAK  IT INTO MY pregnancy" in my MOST  firm voice. Its horrible that's whay comes to peoples mind. Congrats to you.

[Candy_T]

Congrats on your pregnancy, Lizbeth. I feel Chefswife said it best, worry and worship cannot coexist (something I'm going to have to remind myself now). Don't stress yourself, be mindful of what you do and enjoy your pregnancy. It's a joyous time.

[dannyzgirl]

Regardless the first 3 months r crucial and u can miscarry that's y they say wait at least 3 months before u announce anything because u can loos the baby

[dyingangel246]

I'm sorry ppl are being like that. I have been super worried about miscarriage as well but honestly because of this forum. I see so many women who post their sad news on here and while I feel for them I sometimes wish I hadn't read their post because it can be so scary to think about it. My family has been super supportive and even tells me I worry too much. But ignore them, don't stress and enjoy your pregnancy, yes I know it's hard if you're in the bathroom most of the day. Ever since I heard my little ones heartbeat last week I've been looking for strollers, clothes trying to fill up my registry just keeping myself busy and happy.

[canadiana]

I know how you feel, I've been really trying to keep my excitement under control and think more rationally, but the longer I am pregnant (almost 11 weeks now), the more excited I get. I told lots of people already, although I'm not going to be publically announcing anything until 3 months. The way I look at it, it's going to be devastating for me if I lose the baby, but I can't let my fears rule me. I'm glad I've told so many people, because I'm going to need a support system if anything DOES go wrong, and keeping it to myself would make that more difficult. Be happy that you're pregnant, and enjoy it, whatever could happen. At least enjoy yourself right now. Being happy isn't going to curse you into a miscarriage or anything, anymore than telling people will jinx it. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

[ravenamaru]

After Trying For A While, We Were So Exited ThatWe Told Our Families When I Was 8 Weeks. Maybe It WasNot The Best Time, But My Husband Was So Proud Of Himself! I Am So Happy For You And All New Mothers. The Excitement Is Hard To Keep In!!!

[mamagris]

I had a friend buy me a gift as soon as I found out...she said it is good luck to buy things right away lol! Like the above have stated, MC can happen ( I have had two) but try not to let those party pooper bring you down. Gosh why can't people just let you be excited. I am excited for you!! Congratulations!! Dang people and their negativity anyway! Lol!!

[A_Jo]

Don't let others busy your bubble. If a m/c is going to happen them there's nothing you can do to prevent it and not much you will do to cause it,  aside from excessive drinking drugs or else coasters.  But seriously,  try not to obsess and even a little spotting can be normal.  Others should be happy for you.  Politely tell them thank you for your input but you'll cross that bridge of your every her to it and don't need to live your whole pregnancy in fear,  this is a HAPPY time for you.  Congratulations.  

[Chefswife]

I know how you feel. My husband and I painted the room while we were trying to get pregnant, announced at 5 weeks and bought the crib already (I'm 8+2). I have had friends say things like "it's bad luck" or "I worry about you getting too excited, something could happen". But here's how we see it. We painted the nursery in preparation that our prayers would be answered. We told everyone out of faith that it's in God's hands either way and we will celebrate with faith. And we bought the crib also in faith. We know that anything can happen. But why live like in a worried state? Just remember, worry and worship can not coexist. So, stay strong and have faith!  No matter what happens God is in control! :)

[hannah_louise10]

well I told a few people in rhe first fee months because I was sooo excited! but I was afraid of the same thing to the point were I would go to the bathroom to check to make sure when I wiped there was nothing there (tmi sorry) but i had to stop myself obsessing because I was stressing which ultimately can cause miscarriage! just try not to worry about it too much and focus on the health and well being of your new little baby!! :-) . . . thats what I did! and im now 34 weeks! best of luck with your pregnancy!  :-)