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Hurt feelings.

So my baby shower was yesterday which was fun. But not on of my friends came. My mom came but she told me that she'd have to come empty handed cause she was broke. OK cause you haven't known I've been pregnant for the last 9 months. But she had enough money to take my brother to the bar for his 21st birthday 2 day earlier.
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I'm sorry hun but believe your blessed. I've come to see even with my young age that as your life changes some friends just have to be left behind. I realized this when I got married that me and my single friends don't have much I  common anymore and now 8 years later with our first child I'm feeling the same way again. Priorities are just different. Find some comfort in knowing they aren't real friends (well some of them some maybe had legitimate excuses) but also realize that everyone's priorities are different as well don't stress just know your in different places in life and focus on whats important.
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9764007 tn?1405807828
My babyshower was sat an my mom an my sister had bs excuses.. atleast your mom came uhh... Oh yea basically almost every so called friend was sick.. had work or gave a bs excuse or didn't even say a thing.. I'm so over it.. I even had a cousin who mad at me because she was leaving a expected me to ask around to the people at my babyshower can they give her a ride home.. like really.. now she ignoring my text.. I'm so over some people.. but all in all even though they didn't come or she who was an no mad at me I had a great time my babyshower was still a success and packed.. I just now no who the bullshyters are.. oh well :-)
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This is the reason I gave up on baby showers. For my first two, I spent more money than I got in gifts... My last baby and this one baby shower Money was spent on them.
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9445847 tn?1408059755
I had invited a ton of my friends people I took care of put a roof over their heads at one point and they didn't show up either OR even have the audacity to call me.  I know exactly how you feel. I haven't heard from ANY of my "friends" since I got pregnant is been two years.  I've realized they weren't really my "friends," just leeches. Luckily my mom is a hair stylist and I still had about 50 people show up.  But they are all her friends.  I'm having another baby shower and this time it's for close family and friends. I do now have a few mom friends I'm hoping will be there.  Don't feel bad people are just a s s h o l e s. :) ♡ you'll come to realize the people who wanna be in your life will. Good luck keep your head up!    
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That is how you know who your true friends and family are. Stuff like that sickens me.
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I'm so sorry. It sounds like ur moms priorities are a little whack. I hope you got lots of needed goodies :)
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9812003 tn?1452545539
As long as she was there to celebrate your baby that is all that matters. It suc ks that none of friends were there but at least you enjoyed yourself.
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I know the feeling. My babyshower was really just my family and 2 of my friends. All my "friends" had an excuse of why they couldnt come. It always seems to happen.
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Wow that sounds really mean of ur friends and mom... and finding lame excuses such as they forgot? That's horrible but at least u still had fun without them and that counts. I wouldn't let it bother me.
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Don't feel bad. Stuff happens it kinda Su.cks that your mom did not bring anything and what kinda friends don't show to their friends baby shower.  Just think you will have your baby soon and this will all be a thing of the past.
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I'm so sorry. Its heartbreaking when you expect your family and friends to be there during an exciting, stressful, overwhelming time and they aren't. Just remember who is there for you when you need them and who isn't.
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Most of my friends don't have kids yet so I don't think they under stand. But I got a bunch of texts at the beginning of the day saying they were sick or had honestly just forgot. O well.
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10289679 tn?1419123337
That's terrible, I am sorry to hear that! What are your friends deals? I find that when a woman gets pregnant other woman get weird and rude... not sure what it is or why, if it really is jealousy like everyone says, but your not alone, don't let them make you feel bad.
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10037378 tn?1420563810
If she had money to spend at the bar for ur brother's b day..she could buy something for ur baby that's so mean of her
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