No sex drive ?

[char2730]

I am nearly 33 weeks along in my pregnancy, I started noticing my sex drive get lower and lower as I entered my second trimester. Not only is sex EXTREMELY painful, I think the way I feel about myself and other issues are contributing to my low libido. I find my partner very attractive and our sex life prior to my pregnancy was outstanding, I try to explain that it is not him im just tired, pained and sore and I just would rather cuddle. I feel guilty like I am letting him down and not fulfilling his needs. The pain is the most unbareable if we have sex we are constantly switching positions because after a while each way starts to hurt the deeper the more painful, hard is painful, fast is painful and It doesnt make me look forward to sex or even bring up a conversation that might lead to sex. My question I guess is, is there anything others have tried that have helped intercourse be less painful and Are their any pregnant women in a similar situation ? I feel alone!

[Amy1830]

Oh and I forgot to mention the worst part - my sex drive is actually extremely high. I want it all day long. So not being able to hve it is going to drive me crazy.

[Amy1830]

I'm 36 week and sex is painful for me too. We tried doing it the other day and I couldn't even let him put it in. Even his fingers going in hurt. And we had plenty of lube. I don't feel attractive either but he doesn't seem to mind my big belly so we would still do it about once a week throughout the last half of my pregnancy. I don't think it's going to happen til after the baby comes and the 6 weeks it takes to heal now.  When I went to the dr today she said the baby is extremely low, though I'm not dilated at all, so I guess there is just too much pressure down there.

[anitaof4]

I have the same problem this is our 4 n I'm just so tired all the time n I just down right hurts most of the time during then after some things that helps some what is if u r dry down there and pulling add something like ky n the least uncomfortable position is my on my back n him on his side makes it so he has to go slow n can't get to deep hope that helps

[michelle32780]

There is nothing wrong with feeling uncomfortable during sex, some of us are more sensitive to penetration, I'm 31 weeks and 6 days, I find it painful at times to, to have sex and yes a man has needs, but in the long run your husband should feel honored that you carry his child, if he can't handle that then thats on him. But I do find that oral sex can be very satisfying

[Lollilani]

Ladies, I feel and look very big. Everyone asks if I'm not caring twins. Point is I don't feel attractive to my hubby and he has not touched me that way since February. I have complained, had the talk it didn't help. This is our second, it was the same with our first baby. I told him this is definately our last as I just can't handle this. I decided to stop insisting just in case I don't enjoy when we do it. So abstaining for me till after birth. Will I still remember what takes me to cloud 9

[ceara07]

I'm going to be 37 weeks tomorrow and I've had the same problem for quite some time and now its even worse. My husband seems understanding but I still feel bad. Right now the best I can do is other means of pleasure. The sad part is u usually have to wait 6 weeks after delivery for sex. I hate that he has to wait and it makes me feel like a terrible wife. But sex just hurts wayyy to much right now

[BecMarquis]

Ill be 30 weeks on Thursday and i have been dealing with the same thing for about a month maybe longer.

[natjayne]

Your not alone I feel exactly the same. Im 29wks. The times I do are just so uncomfortable and I feel like I've been kicked in my privates. No a nice feeling at all. Plus the fact I'm so tired. I try and explain to my partner and as much as he says he understands hes a man with needs. I get that. I just can't deal with the pain after. No issues prior to pregnancy and my other pregnancies were fine sex wise. Just this one is just to much for me x