Pregnant and relationship not going so well

[mommasBaby3]

I'm on the verge of cheating. Me and my unborns father haven't been getting along. I love being sexually active and he knows it, but him on the other hand not very much at all. It's been over a week since we've last had sex. We planned on doing it Friday, Saturday, and Sunday but every time he finds a reason to pick a argument with me. Then he acts all upset and doesn't talk to me any more that night. And we both had planned on having sex,but he constantly strays from it. And by the way he's 36 and I'm 25 and sometimes he says that he needs time to build up, ok that's sort of understandable but it doesn't take a whole week. Oan he says that having sex will wear the relationship out. I don't consider 3 times a week to be asking for too much. Maybe even 2 for his consideration even though I could go way more. His sex life ***** he doesn't like to go down town, suck on breast or caress women. I don't understand him maybe he had a bad experience in his childhood days or something. But how ever this is driving me insane, I need some sexual attention. But I'm trying my hardest not to go any where else for it because I love him. Are maybe he's cheating, what ever it is has gotten me extremely sexually frustrated. Please Help

[mommasBaby3]

Yes, and thanks everyone we've just talked again, he seemed to be more understanding about the situation. We're ok now, I hope it stays this way. Thanks for all of the advice. It is very well appreciated.

[sfrazier0610]

I can't even believe the things I'm reading.  Dont cheat,  be classy for you and your children.  This is the kinds of things that give women bad rep.  

[kokopu92]

My baby daddy is less sexual than me. My perfect week is 4x a week or more, but once a week is fine by him. I don't think cheating will be the answer though. It might turn into a whole doubting the child scenario because he's hurt. I'd suggest watching some porn, that works with us. Or if you dig fellatio get him wanting it. But don't just cheat. And yes, he may be gay ( sorry no offense just my opinion). Also, please remind him that sex is not just about him, unless he plans on doing it alone. Good luck.

[sbindert]

Ask if he is gay? Maybe he doesn't realize it then, and it will make him think about it and either come to the realization or emphasize that he is making it seen that way. Expect an immediate "no!" Either way haha.

[mommasBaby3]

And I don't think Ed is the issue he can get aroused and continue doing sex. He just doesn't like to have sex like a normal person.

[mommasBaby3]

And every one else that views the situation says he might just be gay...

[mommasBaby3]

I have but he doesn't understand me, he says  it shouldn't be when I want it but when he wants it. Which is never, and he says that I'm too demanding. I've tried to talk to him but his understanding isn't right, he's just crazy. When talking to him he likes to get loud and upset even though I'm not yelling. So yeah I really hate to say this but he might just not be the one for me.

[sbindert]

I am in a similar situation, I want sex often but when he wasn't on the same page I talked to him and told him that I needed more affection and I felt he didn't want me like before, and he told me that he honestly feels uncomfortable having sex too often because of the baby. He feels dirty almost. I understand that completely and have slowed down a bit, but now we have both compromised and things are better in that department. I never wantedto cheat(except maybe with myself, lol!) So it sounds like there is more to it than just that. I know that no matter what I love him and I want this baby to grow up with him, and I wouldn't do anything to change that. Every relationship is different and I'm not judging, but it sounds like you need to have a talk with him and be honest about feeling neglected in that aspect.

[SonoTech55]

I know your situation is tough but have you considered that perhaps he has a problem.  Erectile dysfunction is a possibility.  Maybe you should try to sit him down and have a serious conversation. Try not to put him down or make him feel bad about it but if you voice your concerns,  he may be willing to see a dr. There might be a easy fix with medication, leading to a much happier life for both of you.

[junebaby2]

Do you want to have a relationship long term with this person? Was he always this way? Maybe he doesn't want to admit that sex with a preggo makes him uncomfortable? If you don't want go ruin your relationship is say get your masterbation on!  If you think you're always going to be frustrated with him and you're never going to feel fulfilled and happy, you might need a relationship status change. Give that decision a lot of careful consideration though since it effects two others lives as well.   Good luck.  Ask himto try enhancement products??