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Pregnant and relationship not going so well

I'm on the verge of cheating. Me and my unborns father haven't been getting along. I love being sexually active and he knows it, but him on the other hand not very much at all. It's been over a week since we've last had sex. We planned on doing it Friday, Saturday, and Sunday but every time he finds a reason to pick a argument with me. Then he acts all upset and doesn't talk to me any more that night. And we both had planned on having sex,but he constantly strays from it. And by the way he's 36 and I'm 25 and sometimes he says that he needs time to build up, ok that's sort of understandable but it doesn't take a whole week. Oan he says that having sex will wear the relationship out. I don't consider 3 times a week to be asking for too much. Maybe even 2 for his consideration even though I could go way more. His sex life ***** he doesn't like to go down town, suck on breast or caress women. I don't understand him maybe he had a bad experience in his childhood days or something. But how ever this is driving me insane, I need some sexual attention. But I'm trying my hardest not to go any where else for it because I love him. Are maybe he's cheating, what ever it is has gotten me extremely sexually frustrated. Please Help
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Do you want to have a relationship long term with this person? Was he always this way? Maybe he doesn't want to admit that sex with a preggo makes him uncomfortable? If you don't want go ruin your relationship is say get your masterbation on!  If you think you're always going to be frustrated with him and you're never going to feel fulfilled and happy, you might need a relationship status change. Give that decision a lot of careful consideration though since it effects two others lives as well.   Good luck.  Ask himto try enhancement products??
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I know your situation is tough but have you considered that perhaps he has a problem.  Erectile dysfunction is a possibility.  Maybe you should try to sit him down and have a serious conversation. Try not to put him down or make him feel bad about it but if you voice your concerns,  he may be willing to see a dr. There might be a easy fix with medication, leading to a much happier life for both of you.
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I am in a similar situation, I want sex often but when he wasn't on the same page I talked to him and told him that I needed more affection and I felt he didn't want me like before, and he told me that he honestly feels uncomfortable having sex too often because of the baby. He feels dirty almost. I understand that completely and have slowed down a bit, but now we have both compromised and things are better in that department. I never wantedto cheat(except maybe with myself, lol!) So it sounds like there is more to it than just that. I know that no matter what I love him and I want this baby to grow up with him, and I wouldn't do anything to change that. Every relationship is different and I'm not judging, but it sounds like you need to have a talk with him and be honest about feeling neglected in that aspect.
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I have but he doesn't understand me, he says  it shouldn't be when I want it but when he wants it. Which is never, and he says that I'm too demanding. I've tried to talk to him but his understanding isn't right, he's just crazy. When talking to him he likes to get loud and upset even though I'm not yelling. So yeah I really hate to say this but he might just not be the one for me.
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And every one else that views the situation says he might just be gay...
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And I don't think Ed is the issue he can get aroused and continue doing sex. He just doesn't like to have sex like a normal person.
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