Significant other did not make it to birth in time

[aw219]

My labor was unusually fast and my boy friend made it in after he was out of me. He is so heart broken and so am I.  

It kills me inside he was not there.  I can't stop thinking about it.

I try not to but we both blame my sister.  She thinks I'm a big baby and she told him on the phone to go home and shower and that I was fine.

I On the other hand was in horrible pain (I had no time in between contractions) she didn't take the thing seriously. He was at work and she brought me to the hospital.  Granted everyone thought I would be in labor for hours and hours but it was only an hour and a half.

But I just can't get over him not being there. I'm so upset about it.  It was 3 weeks ago. I think about it all the time.

Any one else have this happen? Or them not be there at all?

[Mrs_MP3]

My husband made the birth of our first, but missed the birth of his second due to his job sending him away. We are now having our third...although he and I was bummed, time heals all wounds. There are so many more memories to capture...enjoy your life time of memories, they will be just if not more special.

[Sass508]

Try not to be so hard on your sister too. It's easy to point fingers but at the end of the day, she probably just didn't want him to feel stressed out! The last thi g you need right now is to have resentment and bad feelings towards your sister. It does take time to forgive and forget but do arleast try and work on it so you guys can move forward.congrats :)

[aw219]

Thank you everyone.  I don't tell her or show her that I blame her.  And i know it's not exactly her fault.  I Just wish she took me seriously. Because she didn't and she looks down on me and thinks I'm an over reacting baby,  I missed or on something I'll never get back.

Also I know it could have been worse.  Everything can always be worse,  but it's something that hurts abducted affects me and my heart.  

I try to think about how many women with husbands in the military have had top guide birth without their SO.

I appreciate it all. I am just having trouble getting over it.  :(

[OhDatsSlim]

Congrats on the baby!

[Finurligaida]

Feel your pain sister! That could definitely happened to me, but my sister will not even be in the same country when I give birth so Im lucky. My husband could still miss it though if it's a quick one like yours. But I think it's definitely harder if it's someone close to you that makes a decision that result in him missing it totally. I don't even think my sister would have blamed herself, she would more blame me for being too quick... I don't know how to cope with the loss of birth experience, you where supposed to have that moment together. Nothing can change that. I bet he will be at your heels next time ;)

[susamor]

It was no ones fault... No one really knows how long a baby will take to be born. But lesson learned, and your bf should not listen to your sister next time. Because births ARE so unpredictable he should have gotten there as soon as possible just in case.  No use in feeling down about it anymore. It might just cause friction in your relationship. Instead try to focus on the first moment he saw her face to face and treasure that moment forever.

[CaliLoveMumaOf3]

It could be worse, you or the baby could've died... Be grateful that he only missed the birth... I do feel bad.. let your sister make it up to u... congratulations!

[cef1990]

Try not to let it get you down, it is sad that he missed it but plenty of dad's do (and some mums) in cases of emergency c sections the dad isn't aloud into theatre. All you need to focus on is that you baby is here and healthy and you and your little family is together, I no it is hard but no matter how much you think about this it won't change what's happened and you don't want to look back at your babies first months and just remember being sad, cause that will hurt more. Appreciate the amazing situation your in a focus on making new memories with the 3 of you.
Also maybe not be so hard on your sister, she probably feels guilty about it and it she's not a midwife she reallu didn't know that she was doing wrong. Good luck.