Social services

[louiselloyd89]

A long post.. basically years ago before my partner got with me he has a little girl with another woman. This woman found out she was pregnant and dumped my bf. She then had all 3 children taken off of her and put into care (2 were someone elses) now i am pregnant social services are wanting to visit me and my partner this week. Im obvs very scared and worried. As this had nothing to do with me and my partner was not the one who neglected his girl. He has a 14 year old who he sees on a regular basis. Just neeed some advice/reassurance that they wont take my baby away from me i cant stop crying now. I dont need this. My first baby im 21 weeks pregnant x

[Tuulituts]

The advice given is spot on. Just be open and honest with them and ensure that your house is clean and safe for a baby. Everything will be fine, like the above said SS arnt there to take away children just simply to ensure they r safe. Plz dont worry

[louiselloyd89]

Thank you so much for your kind words. Means a lot. My little girl will be so loved and cared for and i wouldnt of had a child with my partner if i thought he was gonna be a bad dad. Just when i think of social services i think of the power they have and it scares the hell out of me. I am prob worrying over nothing but this is not the way i pictured my first child with them involved. Thank you again x

[ksarahd]

Try not to worry. They are just going to check and make sure you are going to be a caring Mommy. And the fact that you are so distressed at the thought of someone taking your baby shows you care. As long as you know that you are able to take care of your little one and have a plan to do so then everything will be fine. They may even give you some recommended services if you do get in a bind. Try to remember that they are not there to snatch away children, they are there to make sure that children are safe, happy, and healthy. They know that the very best place for children is with loving and caring parents. As long as you are going to love your baby and take care of him or her then you have nothing to fret over. Try to stay calm for your health and your baby's also. You are going to be a great Mommy and everything is going to be fine.