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Stress while Pregnant!!
So my hubby has two kids with his ex. I love his kids, they are my world and I treat them like my own. But this b!tch.. she's stressing me out!
We pay this woman $500 in child support. Every once and a while we miss the full amount by $100 or so. She flips her freaking wig. Like really?? We pay child support every month, whenever she asks for more money for the kids field trips - we give it to her (outside of child support), whenever she needs us to watch the kids - we watch them! My babies came to my house with no freaking underwear on and shorts in 40 degree weather and we gave her clothes from what we bought just so they didn't go without! You know why? Because the stupid b!tch forgot to do laundry!! WTF how do you let your children go to school cold because you didn't do laundry?!!??! But she says my man is a horrible father and not a real man! UGH! Then she complains that her worthless boyfriend cant get a job and shes supporting her household all on her own and its our fault that she's struggling. WHHHATT THE FF???? Her boyfriend watch Alex during the day because our baby boy got kicked out of school. When he got kicked out, we took him and took that responsbility so we could have more time to raise him better and they wouldn't have to worry about day care or anything like that. Well we don't have full custody so the stupid b!tch took him back when she got her panties all in a wad and said "Oh my boyfriend can watch him!" But its our fault?!?!?!? No her boyfriend is a hobo who got you pregnant (Oh yea we're freaking due in the same month!) and she tells us, "Oh you know your not the only one who is expecting a baby in the next few months, I need the full child support." Its not my fault you went and got yourself pregnant by Mr. I like To Sit On The Couch All Day! And then on top of that she's threatening taking him back to court and try to put him in jail. Like dude really he is NOT a dead beat dad! We may not always be able to pay the full amount but he does pay every single month! It is NOT our fault you have $500 car note and jobless boyfriend!
It upsets me because I know my hubby does the best he can and is an absolutely awesome father and partner. I know he doesn't care about her but his dad was a herion addict and he's very hard on himself about how good of a father he is. It just upsets me that she puts those thoughts in his head. I know he won't say anything to me but I see it in his eyes, like it stings him. I just wanna punch her in her throat. It's taking every bit of my control to hold back these crazy hormones. And I have to see her today to pick up my babies for visitation!! >:(
Ugh sorry so long... Rant over :P
We pay this woman $500 in child support. Every once and a while we miss the full amount by $100 or so. She flips her freaking wig. Like really?? We pay child support every month, whenever she asks for more money for the kids field trips - we give it to her (outside of child support), whenever she needs us to watch the kids - we watch them! My babies came to my house with no freaking underwear on and shorts in 40 degree weather and we gave her clothes from what we bought just so they didn't go without! You know why? Because the stupid b!tch forgot to do laundry!! WTF how do you let your children go to school cold because you didn't do laundry?!!??! But she says my man is a horrible father and not a real man! UGH! Then she complains that her worthless boyfriend cant get a job and shes supporting her household all on her own and its our fault that she's struggling. WHHHATT THE FF???? Her boyfriend watch Alex during the day because our baby boy got kicked out of school. When he got kicked out, we took him and took that responsbility so we could have more time to raise him better and they wouldn't have to worry about day care or anything like that. Well we don't have full custody so the stupid b!tch took him back when she got her panties all in a wad and said "Oh my boyfriend can watch him!" But its our fault?!?!?!? No her boyfriend is a hobo who got you pregnant (Oh yea we're freaking due in the same month!) and she tells us, "Oh you know your not the only one who is expecting a baby in the next few months, I need the full child support." Its not my fault you went and got yourself pregnant by Mr. I like To Sit On The Couch All Day! And then on top of that she's threatening taking him back to court and try to put him in jail. Like dude really he is NOT a dead beat dad! We may not always be able to pay the full amount but he does pay every single month! It is NOT our fault you have $500 car note and jobless boyfriend!
It upsets me because I know my hubby does the best he can and is an absolutely awesome father and partner. I know he doesn't care about her but his dad was a herion addict and he's very hard on himself about how good of a father he is. It just upsets me that she puts those thoughts in his head. I know he won't say anything to me but I see it in his eyes, like it stings him. I just wanna punch her in her throat. It's taking every bit of my control to hold back these crazy hormones. And I have to see her today to pick up my babies for visitation!! >:(
Ugh sorry so long... Rant over :P
Yea you apologized to KieaRai but gave me attitude and called me immature. You told me I was being hostile simply because I responded to you and said "I didnt post this to get advice from someone who obviously has no idea how this feels." After explaining my situation and clarifying what you didn't understand. You apology was mediocre at best. You wanted to state your opinion, well you did it. Congrats!
Please move on so maybe women who go through what I am going through can look past more of your uncessary comments.
Please move on so maybe women who go through what I am going through can look past more of your uncessary comments.
It's an opinion there like ******* ' s everyone has one and some are ******. Lol this honestly wasn't that serious to me and I've seen threads get crazy and wonder how it could go so wrong amongst grown women. I've always said I'd just take a breath and apologize which I have. And thanks to the one person who explained where they were coming from which actually made sense. Sorry for any hurt feelings out there.
Tbj1985 u r being rude n hostile. N the whole post this on the pregnancy social forum is stupid cuz uve talked on other posts that are meant for that category n seemed to have no issue with them.
AMEN sister!
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Oh yea, we are putting a stop to that right now. But some stuff we don't receipts on like the clothes we give her because its from the stuff we bought for our house so the kids have their own clothes when they come here. So we're going to start taking before and after pictures.
The other day I almost cried. Karianne came to me and said I don't have any underwear. I looked in my bin and there were none. (As she itched her little booty.)
OMFG! So freaking sad. Of course we gave her undies that we had in her dresser and even gave her an extra pair to take home for the next day. Never thought I would have a child who had that problem. Of course when they are with us, they don't. :( I would go without clothes to make sure that my child had everything they needed FIRST. That is just what being a good mother is all about! What is so hard about that??
The other day I almost cried. Karianne came to me and said I don't have any underwear. I looked in my bin and there were none. (As she itched her little booty.)
OMFG! So freaking sad. Of course we gave her undies that we had in her dresser and even gave her an extra pair to take home for the next day. Never thought I would have a child who had that problem. Of course when they are with us, they don't. :( I would go without clothes to make sure that my child had everything they needed FIRST. That is just what being a good mother is all about! What is so hard about that??
Yes we had a heads up but that doesn't mean we're going to abandon the men we love just bc their exs are psychotic. I'm pretty sure she expected comments but only from women who have been through this. You have already stated you haven't, hence the reason you sound more judgmental than helpful. I'm sure you meant no harm in it but saying what you did to a woman looking for help from people in situations would ruffle some feathers in any situation. It's a lot harder to imagine what she's trying to put across if you've never experienced it. Not so hard for us bc we've seen what vindictive exs will do to their own children just to punish the ex hubs and his new family.
My recomendation is to not give her money outside of child support and if you do so do it in money order so you have something to show the court save all the recipes from what you guys buy the kids that also helps a lot..
Its a sh!tty situation to be in. But I love my hubby and my kids. There is never a day that I regret having them in my life. It will all play out in the end. I just hate seeing my babies not being taken care of. This is my first pregnancy but I've been with these kids since they 12 months old! Its so hard not being able to mother them all the time. :(
Well kiea I apologize if I came off hostile. Although I'm just stating my opinion and I'm a blunt person. I'm just saying his ex wife my be saying horrible things about her too. So I'm sure people would agree that she's a terrible person. But that's not true. And again there is a forum for social pregnant people which is more for this topic. Personally I don't think you should post your drama online if you don't expect people to comment or disagree with your perspective. But no I don't think you brought it on yourselves but I do feel if you knew the situation ahead of time you had and heads up.
I know how you feel. I have family that I am close too in a very similair situation. It is so sad how our judical system fails our children in so many ways. This is why I am going to law school! If you haven't noticed I kinda like to argue Lol But I also realize there is some serious issues in our court system. I want to represent the lost and and unspoken children that slip between the cracks of our judicial system!
There is always one of you people on these forums. Not angry with you at all. LOL! If this is immature (rather than doing something stupid like starting a huge argument with her that would lead no where but me strangling her infront of her kids and god) then yea sure call me immature but gosh I though I just had a little bit of self control! Poor me! :P
Enjoy your pregnancy and yes PLLLEASE ignore my posts. I rather not have unnecessary stupidity on my posts.
Enjoy your pregnancy and yes PLLLEASE ignore my posts. I rather not have unnecessary stupidity on my posts.
We can't take her to court as well,first the money thing and second because we live in Arizona same like Texas.tbj1985 it really sounds like u are one of those baby mamas.
If they know people*
Not even that if they people, Jess. Hubby's first wife is in Texas. He had proof that his daughter was being molested by her mother's boyfriends and they still wouldn't do anything until she turned 13 and said she wanted to live with her dad. Then they kept letting her push out the court dates for almost another two yrs while she bribed his kids to stay with her. It worked with their son but his daughter came to stay with us. You need to document absolutely everything and hope that it's enough.
And tbj, I actually agree that your post was the one that came off judgmental and hostile. This is a public forum but if you haven't been through it you shouldn't get into the thread. You just came off as wicked offensive and made it seem like anyone who's married into a family situation like this brought the drama on themselves.
And tbj, I actually agree that your post was the one that came off judgmental and hostile. This is a public forum but if you haven't been through it you shouldn't get into the thread. You just came off as wicked offensive and made it seem like anyone who's married into a family situation like this brought the drama on themselves.
You found me pompous... and I found you hostile to each their own. Why didn't you post this under pregnant:social where it belongs. And if that's your idea on how to handle stress you seem a lil immature. I mean you're mad because one person disagreed with you? That's sad.... you can say what you want but be assured I will promptly forget this conversation and you and go back to my baby bliss. Good luck
That is why we are afraid to take her to court! Texas is very liberal and noramally on the woman's side of these kinds of cases. I mean it takes some serious screw ups for the woman to lose her child, like drugs and stuff like that. :(
This is so sad! There are so many women out there dying to have children or have ACTUAL dead beat dads, not even wanting to take care of their pregnant girlfriends or children. Men like my man are made to look bad because of women like this. I wish we could all just ban together and take em all out! Lol
Hostile? Did you see the topic of my post.. STRESS. I am not hostile, or a "baby mama." If I was hostile, I wouldn't be expressing my feeling here. I would be expressing my feelings with my foot down her throat. There is a difference.
I found your post a little pompous and unnecessary. I posted to get this off my chest, knowing there are other women who have experienced or experiencing my pain. Not to have someone who has no idea what I am going through to chime in with a pointless comment. Your right, this is public. Have your own opinion but it would nice for you to stick to stuff you actually know a thing or two about instead of something that just interests you.
I found your post a little pompous and unnecessary. I posted to get this off my chest, knowing there are other women who have experienced or experiencing my pain. Not to have someone who has no idea what I am going through to chime in with a pointless comment. Your right, this is public. Have your own opinion but it would nice for you to stick to stuff you actually know a thing or two about instead of something that just interests you.
I feel u,it is the same here but she can't have kids anymore and freaked out when she found out I'm pregnant.she is horrible mother.u don't even know why he's giving child support to her because her mother has them 24/7.and then on top she start stalking me and being aggressive till police came. :/
Me personally call cps not for abuse but for neglect...so when ya do get a chance ro go to court everything u guys have is proof shes unfit....hope u guys resolve this sticky situation and try not too stress ok mama
I hate women like that, that don't take care of their kids, is true, u should take pictures of them like that and write everything that she does, and we u can take her to court, do it, women like that don't deserve their kids
My husband's first wife does the same crap. His child support is done with this month and now she's threatening to take him to court to get his retirement and kick out their son if he doesn't keep sending her money. She's had 3 other children all by different men and makes more in a month off child support from them than most people make in 6 months. We tried taking her to court and they basically told us we were just being petty and didn't want to pay. Well of course we don't want to give her his retirement! She's not entitled to it! She was married to him for 4 yrs during his 22 yr military career. In order to get his retirement she would have had to been married to him for 10 and have tried to get it at the time of their divorce. We got the case moved here so she can't try to get a judge she knows and pull one over on us. It's been 3 yrs since hubby got out of the army and she hasn't asked for retirement once so our judge basically told her she's a money grubbing heifer and to take her crap out of his court room.
For years he tried to get his kids from her but no matter how much evidence he had that she was an unfit mother, her judge friend wouldn't do anything about it. In this day, it's really about who you know that can help you screw people over. It's sad.
For years he tried to get his kids from her but no matter how much evidence he had that she was an unfit mother, her judge friend wouldn't do anything about it. In this day, it's really about who you know that can help you screw people over. It's sad.
Well I would say take her *** to court for him to have full custody! But I understand not having the money, always something to put a damper on it.
It just ***** the kids have to go through all that mess. She seems a mess herself an taking advantage of the child support she gets. I'd wanna punch her in the throat too!
It just ***** the kids have to go through all that mess. She seems a mess herself an taking advantage of the child support she gets. I'd wanna punch her in the throat too!
Whoa chick this a is a public forum... I didn't see you post the reason why until now. But I can post however I feel. If you can't handle that it's your issue not mine sweetheart. And I said usually there's a lot of animosity not always but you seem to be a hostile person so I'm looking at what she's dealing with too.
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