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5787844 tn?1376082584

Tomorrow is my first appt for baby #3! nervous

Im actually nervous! I know the drill...
But Im afraid of the doctor's comments about my weight. She made comments last time I saw her when I was having my 2nd. I was only barely overweight then. She got on me about my eating habits. Made me feel like a real heffer.
Part of me wants to walk in there and be like "Im fat, I know it. Im trying not to gain a ton of weight,now that's the end of it!"
To put it in perspective I'm 5ft 8. 220lbs. Im a size 14 and very busty.  Like disproportionately so. Im rocking a 42DDD and it makes me look about 50lbs heavier.

This is my biggest concern for this pregnancy. .... my weight. I didnt mean to get pregnant so fat! Lol

Ladies, you're always so good at making me feel better! Any advice or stories for me? <3
11 Responses
Avatar universal
I feel the same way! Im 5'3 and 222 lbs.... this also is my third! Im not only worried about what the doctor is going to say  but I have told some people that I was pregnant and automatically they look at my stomach and im like im only 6 weeks thats just fat!! Its soo embarrassing and annoying !!!
1351078 tn?1416316746
im the same but on baby #7 i think you will be fin e :) just watch what you eat  i dont gain much wait pregnant . congrats on the baby i had my first apt today at 8 weeks :)
5628321 tn?1376277193
Yay for first appt! Number 1: you can not only maintain but I have seen women working closely with their dr lose during pregnancy. If this is what you want to do, go for it. ;) Number 2: I say if the dr wants to be nasty and make comments, go ahead and tell her what you think of them. ;) good luck hon!
Avatar universal
Your doctor sounds horrible! The most important thing is that you know you're overweight and know that you need to do something about it. To me this is a positive. I don't know what 220lb is in kg ( I'm Australian) but it sounds as though a lot if your weight lies in your boobs.  I wouldn't worry and if the doctor makes you feel bad, consider changing to someone more empathetic to your situation...
Avatar universal
I feel the same as you. I have a doc appointment tomorrow and I'm dreading it because I feel no matter what, weight is always an issue. when I went to my first appointment the nutritionist claimed I was technically over weight for my height which is 5ft7 and I was 158 pound. I am very large framed woman and it made me laugh because my mom was complaining that I was too thin. Then on my 2nd visit I had went up to 164 pounds and they said that was too much weight gain.then on my 3rd visit I had gone down to 160 and nurse wanted me to see the nutritionist about why I was losing weight. I just had a lack of appetite for the first trimester I was nauseous all the time but now at 14 weeks I'm currently about 162 and I'm wondering what they're going to say to me tomorrow lol according to the weight tracker of this I'm expecting app I've gained too much weight as well.
5787844 tn?1376082584
Wow,really? Id be interested in learning more about that!
Avatar universal
I personally Would Get A New Dr. But You Shouldn't Have To Go In And Explain That You Know You Are Over Weight. My Dr Allowed My To Gain Up To A Pound per  Week. I Was Pregnant 1 day Shy Of 42 WeeksWhen I Had My Baby And Gained 43Lbs. I Started At 175 And Ended At 218. I'm 5' 7". My Daughter Is 1 And I Am Stuck At 192 Right Now.... I Can't Loose The Last Almost 20Lbs From Being Pregnant. I Think Its Cuz I'm Breast Feeding But its Driving Me Nuts. All That To Say Everyone is Different. Some Women Lose The Weight Quickly and Others Don't. Don't Get Discouraged. You May Even Loose weight During Your Pregnancy.
5787844 tn?1376082584
Ive been mulling it over.Im not gonna let her bully me at all. This aint my first rodeo! This is #3! Its old hat. I know what to eat and what not to eat. Im basically only going to make sure there are no problems. Everything else I pretty much know already! Ya know?
Avatar universal
My 3rd as well & I have put on weight everywhere already!! I'm only 9w+2d!! I look fat but cant tell people y!! I feel really un-toned aswell :( but as 4 ur doc saying that how rude!! I wudt worry every one is a diff shape & size & u can't help gaining weight wen ur pregnant for goodness sake!! Lol don't b to hard on urself :)
5628321 tn?1376277193
There you go! The dr works for you. She should show you the respect you deserve. ;)
5787844 tn?1376082584
The hubby is getting out early for the first appt. Ill post an update later :)
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