Too stress, can't stop crying

[Sergia]

Hi,  I posted about my 1yr old humping everything.  I talked to her doctor he said it was normal,  I talked and ask a bunch of people who have girls they all claim that's it normal.  But I'm so stress from sunday to today she has gotten worst. To the point where she will cry foe no reason and when I put her to bed thinking she's tired she goes right to humping.  Im soo stress can't stop crying keep feeling like its my fault,  feeling like a failure and to add to it she seem to completely hate me today . feeling like I won't be able to handle this behavior once jr get here in January. A lot of parents are saying that some keep grow out of it soon others arw saying that their 8&9 yr old kids are still doing it.  I don't feel equipped to handle this trying really hard to not to react when ahe does it.  

[jessmoments]

This is normal. She will grow out of it.

[Sergia]

Thank you ladies.  Took her to the doctor she's A okay!  I know I was probably over reacting but I couldn't help it.  I notice that once I made up my mind to stop stressing it so much she doesn't do it as often anymore.  And she's back to just doing it in jer bed before bed time.  I do my best to concentrate on others things when I know sjes shes up to that and it been helping me alot. I notice that sje know it mkaes me sad when she does that so whem she has to "scratch the itch" she cries a lot until I put her to bed and then after in leave she goes it. I love her soo much , I know she doesn't know what's she's doing but I was feeling like such a failure.  But hearing that others mommies are also going thru tje same thing,  help me feel better, not that im happy ot happening to others but it help me not feel like such a failure.  Thank you ladies your advice and comments werw big help to me .

[essavb]

Agreed Shana, self exploration and soothing is completely normal only societal views make it shameful. Its not a concern as long as all health issues can be ruled out. As for being embarrassed in front of others just wait until she is older and can understand what is appropriate public and private behavior. Even then its healthier to respect her private time, for now just calm down. No one expects a 1 year old to behave perfectly in public.

[MelMoxey]

The worse thing you can do is make her feel unloved for what comes naturally to her. Try playing with her if she does it in public and you get embarassed. Dony worry about when Jr comes she will be completely fasinated at his presence she might even forget her habit. Women have more shame then boys eventually she wont do it for you to see. I know kids that do it till like 10 11 just straight masturbation. Dont freak out she is still young.

[ford122109]

First off thank you for posting this, my 2 year old daughter had started doing this too and me and my husband had no idea why and where she got it from and had been freaking out. It's good to know it's not just our daughter.
  Second if the dr. says it's just something kids go through then I wouldn't worry about it. I'm going to try when she starts to try to get her to do something else like get a book out and read to her or take a bath etc.
I hope for the best for you and know it isn't just your daughter so it's nothing you have done :)

[Jessi1983]

Dont stress over that. I have a 2yr old son and he has NEVER seen any type of sexual acts nor motions and he does the same thing. Humps EVERYTHING. i think its just a fase that they go thru. Although i must admit, i find it very hillarious when music comes on and he "humps" shakes his lil booty......

[Shanna_Banana]

I still say you're blowing this way out of proportion. She had the "nerve" to do it in front of the neighbor because she doesn't know it's wrong, she's 1. The way you're responding to it is a little silly and it sounds like you're creating unneeded stress for the both of you. Bring her to a regular GP to rule out infection of any kind and if it troubles you to the point of nervous break down, make a psycology appt for her to have her behavior observed. It's more widely accepted and believed that boys masturbate in childhood, but girls do it too. Because she is too young to know what being sexual is, her reasonings are very different and are more intended to help calm her down or go to sleep. She'll out grow it.

[asmith21488]

Id still bring her in and have her tested ive had utis with no outter symptoms or smells good luck

[Sergia]

It used to be just her crib but for the pasr few days . Anywhere she sees a teddy bear. Today she had the nerves to do it in front of my neighbor. Buy after I hid the bear she stop doing it,  but when I put her down for her ahe didn't sleep at all she spend the time humping till I just got tired and just had her skip her nap. She doesn't seem like she's in any pain,  just cranky.  Probably cabin fever.  We been home for like three days without going out cuz it been so cold and she's a bit sick.  She doesn't have any of the system for a uti.  Idl if I should still ask her doctor to check her for one?

[Sergia]

Thank you ladies,  no I just called and explain it to him.  I though she had a uti , was gonna take her right away but decided to first  make sure before.  Only her overnight diaper had an odor all the rest were good no smell at all. She was a little pink yesterday but I think it was from rubbing too much. Today she was rubbing for about an hr ahe would stop play with her toys and then go back to it. Just put her down to bed and as sad as this to say I'm glad she cried her self to bed instead of humping. Anout medicine,  she been taking medicine for about two weeks on and off now due to a cold she still has. Gosh soo tired been crying all day  over this.  I know she doesn't hate me but it felt like it today.  Idk it might be cuz since im not working  we been spending more time together and he been stuck home all. But this morning I didn't see it like that

[asmith21488]

Perfectly said shanna

[Shanna_Banana]

Does she seem in pain?  I'm curious about an infection/UTI as well. If you have already ruled that out than I really wouldn't stress over it. Masturbation is very common in children and some will use it as a way to self soothe. I know it seems concerning, but the bigger deal you make about it the more your child will feel a sence of shame over something so normal. My niece (now 21) would "hump" herself to sleep from about age 1-5 and as odd as it seemed, nobody made a big deal of it and she eventually grew self conscience of it and stopped on her own. She's completely normal sexually and emotionally. I'd only be concerned if you suspect sexual abuse has taken place or she has a possible infection. Relax, it'll all be fine.

[cwilliams01sc]

That really sounds like she's having a reaction to her diapers and it's less of a "this feels good" issue.  I think i remember you saying she wears huggies. Even though that's a great brand, maybe consider switching. Does she only do it in her crib? Maybe it has something to do with the detergent you are using on her sheets. Something is obviously bothering that poor little thing.

[wishes2891]

Did the doctor test her at all for any kind of urinary infection? If not I would either insist they do or take her to the ER and insist there. Your last post just didn't sound like normal toddler exploration. And as for hating you she isn't old enough for that its probably just frustration that she is taking out on you bc sheddoesn't know what else to do. Have you tried giving her any Tylenol or Motrin and see if that has any affect?

[asmith21488]

Did u actually bring her in to make sure she doesnt have a uti or anything? Or did u just call?