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Tubal Ligation and possible pregnancy help!!!!
Hi, I am a 30 yr old mother of 3 who had a postpartum tubal ligation in march of 2011 after the csection for my last child. All was going ok at first other than being on the ortho evra patch for keeping my periods light. In December of 2012 I started spotting so my doctor told me to stop the patch that I must be starting to become immune to it. All seemed ok after that till Aprill 22 2013 when my periods stopped altogther. I started having pregnancy symptoms as well. The only thing was there was no positive test, I had one very faint positive line but that never showed up on the other 8 I took. The doctor did a urine and blood and it came back negative it was a 4??? anyway she still was worried for tubal pregnancy so I went for an ultrasound. Turns out I have a thickened uterus. Still sent me to a obgyn who did a bunch of tests to make sure no early menopause (perfectly healthy) and did a biopsy for cancer (not back yet). He also prescribed pills to make me have a period but I don't feel right taking them. Something is saying wait a week or so more. So today I started with brown mucus discharge when I wiped (just a tiny bit) it's stopping now (sorry tmi). I don't know what to do. I have been pregnant 4 times (first was twins and one sac collapsed and lost it at 4 months). First pregnancy I got pregnant on the pill, second on the depo shot. All doctors say Im very fertile. I had a tubal ligation not knowing the cons of having it. My husband regrets letting me do it because of what I'm going through. Thank god for my extremely supportive family but I'm scared because i feel like no doctor is listening. I know post tubal viable pregnancy isn't normal but my body isn't normal and just wants to get pregnant. Looking for answers on what i should do, do I trust my body and not take the pills and see or do I take the pills as prescribed and possibly loose a pregnancy??? If I don't take the pills I don't know how to explain this to my OB he's going to think I'm nuts.Looking for any advise I can get. Thanks!!!!!
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Hey Everyone, Sorry i have not posted in a long time. Things have been bad, I miscarried. Also I found out I have tumors in my uterus which was why no one thought I was pregnant because the baby was behind the larger one. It has been very difficult to deal with so I had to take some time off and grieve the loss. Im very upset things turned out like this. I knew in my heart i was pregnant this whole time and when I finally got the doc to believe me it was too late. I feel like more could have been done to keep the pregnancy viable if I wasnt made to look like I was nuts. The worst thing is everyone but me knew about the tumors. Maybe if I knew things could have turned out different. So I had to deal with two big changes and not welcomed ones. I have experienced a loss before with my first daughter being a twin and the one did not not survive at 4 months along, and I can tell you it does not get easier. This whole thing made me realize I made a Giant MISTAKE!!! having a tubal ligation. I ruined a life!!!! please please please if you are going to have one understand its not all perfect after. Its far from that, its life changing. Most of the time permanent. I do not recommend it. I truly thought I was done with children but if you experience a loss your body and m,ind change. Please take into consideration every possible situation that could make you change your mind. I would have given my own life to save that baby in a heartbeat! To all have been following my journey I thank you for being here for when I needed ppl to vent to. Trust me, I am not done and you will be hearing from me again. I possibly am going to see a fertility specialist to see what my options are. I must deal with the tumors first, I do not know if they are cancerous. More wait and see. Look forward to talking to you all again soon. I will be keeping this thread. Who knows in 2014 I may have good news. Praying
How are things going?
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Any news?
Thank you everyone for you kind words, they definitely mean a lot. Months and months of not knowing have really gotten to me. I'm looking for the right answer not just the one to make me give up. I am ready to find out good or bad. Frustration has set in and sometimes if I'm alone I cry because I've experienced a loss before and I'm scared it happened again. But I have to be strong for my girls. They are my whole world! Whatever happens is in gods hands now :(
Aww im definelty praying for u still!! And my bf is from buffallo and loves thr sabers! Haha we r going up there beginning of next yr to see his fam in cheektowaga. Anyways glad u r seeing the doc finally, the anticipaticion is killing me i cant imagaine how u r being so strong!!
Oh my! You've gone through so much and the answer should be fairly simple. I so wish the doctor were more concerned about your well being and communicating with you instead of putting you off. I pray that you get answers soon. Please take care.
Awe, honey! I really wish I could just give u a hug! Im keeping you & your family in my prayers! I ptay you get som insightful news Wed! Jaceandkhimommy said it perfectly! We are all hete for you!
I have been following your post from the beginning. I get angry when you are angry and cry when I feel you want to cry. My prayers have been woth you and still are. I hope and pray you get answers soon and its what you want to hear. You are a very STRONG woman and I commend you on the journey that you are taking. Good luck
Hwy guys, no new news other than I actually get to see the doc on Wednesday. I can not wait. I'm asking to be referred to a specialist that deals with pregnancy after tubal. I don't care if I have to drive 3 hours away! As I see it even if I miscarried I was still pregnant so it can happen again. I need to find out if my tubes reconnected or if they didn't. My first goal is to make sure what it going on. Second is the new doc. It's interesting because occasionally lately I feel flutters again, lower abdomen. I have not did a test yet. Im a little scared to. My middle daughter is turning 9 on Sunday and I am having a family get together after dinner. I'm looking forward to that. My sister looked at me yesterday we went to a buffalo sabres game, and said "if you were not fixed I would swear you were glowing" then laughed. I could not believe it. I'm keeping this quiet with family. The only person that knows other then my hubby is my mom. I don't need ppl getting happy or sad then talking about it amongst each other or to strangers. It makes me feel good to talk to you guys that's forsure. So Thankyou for listening to my endless rant of waiting and waiting. I appreciate all of you!:)
Thinking of you!
Any news? You doing OK?
Started reading your post yesterday & you have me sitting on the edge of my seat. So, I def cant imagine what you are going through. Sorry you have been through so much! Praying you get wonderful news!
Hey guys, no news long story but I'm getting a new gynecologist! So done being screwed around. They were closed today and I'm very angry that they messed up my appointment. This is very important to me, more:/ than anyone will ever know. Now I get to wait and see if my family docs nurse is in tomorrow and hopefully they have a copy to tell me. Calling them in the AM :'( feeling angry and sad :/ :'(
Yeah trust me I'm fed up. This has been since April, mind you it took till the end of June for my family doc to refer me. She doesn't believe in being able to get pregnant after tubal. You know docs, if its not written in a book its not true. I've been an emotional wreck and my hormones are messed right up. I held it together for my kids and husband, but its hard owning a daycare and seeing all the other pregnant moms and moms with babies everyday. Sometimes it bothers me but mostly I'm happy to be able to help them learn and grow. I think if how great my own girls are and if that is all i will end up having in the end I will be happy because I am blessed with them. This afternoon hopefully I will have an answer that is 100% I am sick of the what ifs and maybes. So ready to move on in whatever direction I'm meant to go.
I too can't believe your still playing the waiting game and dealing with that doctor and his office. I wouldn't be able to stand it off be driving to wherever was necessary to get answers..crazy thing your having to go through
I too can't believe your still playing the waiting game and dealing with that doctor and his office. I wouldn't be able to stand it off be driving to wherever was necessary to get answers..crazy thing your having to go through
Hope all goes well for you. Saying a prayer. Keep us updated.
Good luck! !!!!!
Thanks guys. I'm from a small city and there are no obgyns here. I have to go to the next city about 20 minutes away and the only doc available that isn't the one that did my tubal is this guy. I can't bring myself to see the doc who did my tubal because I am very mad for her doing this to me. Not being pregnant but conning me into have the ligation done knowing the complications and telling me nothing but good. I go tomorrow for my results. Being honest I'd be very surprised if the baby was still in me. I truely think I miscarried that night after my transvaginal ultrasound. I should have never done it. Of course I will be completely ecstatic if I still am. But I have to be realistic. If I'm not I'm demanding the tests to see if my tubes reconnected. I don't care what he says about that, its happening! I've also decided to bring my pregnancy tests with me so he knows I'm being truthful. Because none of my blood tests came up enough to say yes I was pregnant. So tomorrow afternoon I will know forsure. Please keep your fingers crossed, I need all the help I can get. Hugs to you all!
Why in the world are you staying with this doctor? Why wouldn't you find one who cares? You deserve better!!! At the very least go to the hospital and tell them you suspect a miscarriage and need an ultrasound. No one should haveto worry and suffer as you are!
Glad to here ur hanging in there and tryin.to stay busy. Hopefully u will get a real answer at ur dr apt...so weird they make u wait like this, there is no other dr in that lffice that can discuss ur results?
Thankyou, and I will :)
Hey , this is my first time posting about this topic , ive just read all ur post , I can understand ur frustration , im praying for you and plz keep us updated , I wish u the best
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