Visitors

[AprilBabe26]

Isn't it funny how people that never gave a damn about you before suddenly come out of the woodwork when you're a few weeks away from having a baby?
I got two phone calls today from people I never see or hear from (relatives) wanting to know as soon as the baby is born so they can come to the hospital.

No thank you. Honestly I want the first week or so to myself with just my husband & new baby to bond & recover.

Why is this so hard for people to understand?? I'm tired of getting nagged about this & I hate that people will have hurt feelings but I plan on turning my phone off & locking my doors!

[BabyWidmer]

I ALWAYS hated people passing my kids around and it will freak me out with this little one too. My husband actually brought it up and said that he wAnts it to be just us and that sounds like an amazing plan to me:). Since we will only be there 1 night our kids will be waiting at home to see baby brother or sister. NO visitors what so ever. Everyone kind of got upset and this will be our only day with our baby alone.

[BabyWidmer]

Good for you!! I am so sorry you two are fighting over this:(. He's not the one in labor, delivering and trying to somewhat human again. This is my 4th and having visitors was a disaster with my 3 kiddos. You shouldn't have to feel like a host and hAve long conversations with people when you can be holding and cuddling with your baby:).

[AprilBabe26]

Lol no I get mad too that's why I reply! We're all hormonal & I bite my tongue enough but when people say stuff like that it's hard to hold back...we're all just trying to do what's best for ourselves & our families, opposite opinions aren't what we want to hear especially our first time around. It is what is! Good luck with your bundle of joy! I wish my husband was on board with not having any visitors but it's been many arguments just to get him to wait until after I deliver to tell people! He doesn't understand the anxiety it's already causing me thinking about his huge family all coming in trying to kiss & pass the baby around. Ugggh!! I will be standing my ground with some much needed boundaries!

[BabyWidmer]

*Aprilbaby, NOT probably

[BabyWidmer]

Probably, I think you are making the right decision for you and your little family:) rock on mom! And sorry if my curse words offended you but people like that ignorant Bitc* make me livid. And again, kudos:)

[BabyWidmer]

Bonita, I think you can shove your opinions up your ***!!! Are you F N kidding me, ungrateful and bratty? Seriously get a life Bitc*! People like you **** me off!

And I agree, we are having NO family or friends come to the hospital, how's that Bonita?

[AprilBabe26]

Ungrateful & bratty? No, I'm just not a push over. I see no reason why I should have to go out of my comfort zone during the most special time of my life just so people that haven't even been a part of my life for years can stick their nose in or get a baby fix.
Rude comments like yours don't exactly make you sound special either, keep that in mind.

[BLESSEDwith5tobe]

Trust me I wish I would have done that this time around!! I went in the hospital thinking I wasn't going to have any visitors so turns out I should have let the nurse know that before I had the baby I literally just had my baby and in come like 10 family members turns out my mom and mil decided to take it upon themselves to invite people to the hospital I didn't even get a chance to get out of the delivery room before I had company!!

[babyboy419]

Don't listen to anyone elses opinion. Do what you want to do and don't feel bad about it. Don't let people push you around. I'm sure if you explained you want some time for bonding they'll understand.

[mw89]

I am doing the same thing we are not having anyone over for the first week. We both feel its our time with our baby.  I dont think its bratty of you at all. You and hubby are the only ones who matter to baby. You dont have to share baby with anyone else or have to deal with baby being tossed around like a hot potato!

[BonitaMichelle]

Whats wrong with a distant friend or relative welcoming your child into this world? Somethings people in your life will show up for; ur wedding,  birth of a child, and ur funeral.

Sounds like your ungrateful and bratty.

[imexpecting007]

Be glad they even want to see your precious baby and im only saying this cause when I had mine I had relatives complain to my father in law about how they came and were chased out cause I wrote on my list that only family members can come visit. What a sweet lie I mean u r family member so why they say no u cant come. Unless u didnt want to come see us so u make a b.s lie. Which it was fine with me cause the ppl that mattered did come and I had a relaxed stay at the hospital thanks to those salty members. But I do understand what u mean.

[AprilBabe26]

Thanks. I know it's inevitable for most of these people but it needs to be on my time when I'm comfortable with it!

[organicmama]

Have told*

[organicmama]

Same. We gave told everyone that the hospital is me hubby and baby only. And the house is only close family and friends by invite. Don't need random people we never associate with suddenly disrupting a very private moment in our lives.

[QueenBee2U2]

Sounds like a d*** good plan. I will probably be doing the same. I have a few sometimers trying to plan a visit also.

[cnmartin1425]

I'm dealing with the same thing, I totally feel the same way!! I've had family members that I haven't been or spoke to in months or years all the sudden want to babysit and be super family members. I'm like, really?! No. I don't appreciate part time family members, and I won't have it for our son either.
Take the time to relax after delivery and be with those who matter!

[mychellefemme]

Good for you mama. Stand your ground.