Help with middle name please!

[Yoli82]

Im not with the baby's dad because he wanted me to have an abortion. Of course I said no and he wants nothing to do with us. His name is Arin and although he made it clear he won't be around, I still want my baby names to be Noah Arin for boy and Allison Ari for a girl. Also giving the baby his last name. Some of the people I've told think it's crazy that I would still give my baby the dads name and last name since he wants nothing to do with it. I don't think it's crazy. Am I wrong???

[Sass508]

Yes it's just a name, but my son is 6 now and I feel so guilty about naming him his father's last name. I always wonder if he ever feels left out :(
The decision is yours! And it's always best to weigh your options

[mychellefemme]

Name your baby what you want. Don't let anyone make you feel anything but joy about the decisions you make for you and your baby. Congrats. You are already a great mom.

[ladyhawk83]

Give your baby your last name. You will be raising your child and you two will be a family... with or without daddy. I do think it's a beautiful idea to dedicate the middle name to baby's daddy.... but that's about it.

[MsPoppins]

I'm in the same situation. I picked the first and middle name and planned on giving her my last name but my family all said that would be wrong regardless of the situation. So I decided to give her both our last names.

[MsPoppins]

I'm in the same situation. I picked the first and middle name and planned on giving her my last name but my family all said that would be wrong regardless of the situation. So I decided to give her both our last names.

[Megan9er]

My daughter does not have her biological fathers last name your story is similar to mine but I also didn't give any part of him. In my mind I was not going to give my daughter a last name that I had to explain when she was older that she knew nobody with that last name.

[Sass508]

I'm so sorry but I have to agree with the nay sayers.
Having gone through a similar situation, I deeply regret giving my son his father's last name. It's extremely difficult and expensive to have it changed if you ever decide to do so. If a new mom is wondering which last name to choose, in a similar situation as yours I ALWAYS vote on going with moms last name. At the end of the day, it's your child. He or she is coming from you and regardless of whether or not dad comes around.. you and your child are together forever.
Idk.. it's obviously your choice but I made the wrong one and I don't want any other mommies to have the same regrets.

[LyakGarcia]

Here in Arizona the baby can only have the father's last name if 1) you are legally married and 2) if he signs the birth certificate, i dont know how it would work where you are but you should really look into it.

[mommaDof3]

Seeing as he has made it clear that he does not want anything to do with being a father to this baby, I would give him your last name. You will be the one raising him, it's your name that he or she should carry on.

[JNieves6913]

Your not wrong, if thats his child. Whats the difference if he left now or stuck round for 3 yrs, baby would still have his last name. If your comfortable with it then thats all that matters.

[lkaykirk]

Give the middle name but not the last name.